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The worst thing about being transsexual?

Started by Nero, July 01, 2007, 10:30:20 PM

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Sophia

Quote from: Fae on July 06, 2007, 09:03:48 AM
Quote from: Sophia on July 06, 2007, 01:19:01 AM
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For me, the worst part of being trans is that I've had to hide for too long because of said society...I would have liked to transition in high school if I had the support and knowledge I have now.

I was in so much denial in high school. I was also a near fundamentalist Christian there too.

Me too!  Were you part of a youth group in HS?  I was, and I hardly talk to the christian friends I had then.

I definately was and I'm in touch with exactly zero of those people now. LOL
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rhonda13000

Quote from: Jonie on July 06, 2007, 10:41:16 PM
I am post-op and live in a liberal town that is generally very tolerant of people different than themselves but still when I go outside I never know when I'll be put down for who I am. When this happens it feels like all the wind being sucked out of my sails, and I go through life wondering when it will happen again. So I would have to say that the worst thing now are those people who are just looking for ways to make others feel bad about themselves. They make it clear that they think I'm subhuman which makes me wonder if I travel outside of this liberal town how bad will it get.

My problem is that while I pass nearly effortlessly and look pretty to the point of sexy, damn...................... >:( :'(

It's a strange situation..........a secondary effect of having endured many years of untreated, intense TS........i need to get that karate bag next payday.....[violent...thoughts].................

i have a vicious temper and i don't suffer fools nor abuse lightly at all....the 'bitch' emerges very quickly and she can be merciless.

Too much damage, honey.
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Jeannette

My before transition years; all of them.
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Chandra21

Easy. Having a body that just isn't me. That is why I have the desire every second of my life to become more and more like who I should be.
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almost,angie

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Bunter

I know this is ooold, but-

not being able to live the life that I want to live.
Stagnating.
Because if you can't have what you want, you are just left without a real aim, and somewhat disoriented.
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Lara1969

The worst thing is dilating after srs. I can deal with all other challenges but dilating is extremely  painful for me.

Lara
Happy girl from queer capital Berlin
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Kylie

Quote from: Bunter on July 20, 2014, 09:38:30 AM
I know this is ooold, but-

not being able to live the life that I want to live.
Stagnating.
Because if you can't have what you want, you are just left without a real aim, and somewhat disoriented.

This is totally me.  I was always straight A's and gifted program until i hit puberty.  I had the ability to achieve anything in school or career that I wanted, but I didn't achieve much. I have a well paying job with good benefits, but it isn't challenging or fulfilling. I am just maintaining, not living.  It is hard to stay motivated and focused on making the most of a life you don't feel is worth living.

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Jess42

My God this post makes me want to break down and bawl. The worst thing about it to me is we lose people over it like our brother Nero. That we lose too many of us accidentally trying to get relief from the pain for a little while or intentionally because we live in a messed up society that don't even have a clue of who they are even let alone us being transgendered. To me its not about beng transexual or transgender but the fact that society is ignorant to our struggles and strife of dealing with being in the wrong body or what we feel is the wrong body. And when we wear and dress our appropriate internal gender the ignorance that society displays toward us. Pokes fun at us, does not accept us as who we truly are instead of their idea of norm. In my opinion I have never seen anyone LGBT or cis that was completely normal. But normalcy is just another societal illusion.

In my opinion, I do believe that we are more, not normal, but extremely more genuine than the rest of society. Like I said normalcy is another illusion but being true to who you really are is genuine and takes a lot more internal strength than pretending for society's sake and acceptance.

PS sorry for the rant. I kinda' got my own little dysphoria thing right now and usually it manifests as anger toward societal norms. If I offended anyone I apologize.
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Eevee

The worst part for me so far has been the depression. Holding a shaky kitchen knife against my skin with the full intension of killing myself was the most terrifying moment I remember. I'm sure there is more pain to come, but I'll be comforted that im doing the right thing this time.

Eevee
#133

Because its genetic makeup is irregular, it quickly changes its form due to a variety of causes.



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Tysilio

The worst thing about being transsexual is not being able to admit it. The depression... the sense that something has been fundamentally wrong from the beginning... hating oneself and not knowing why.

It's, umm, pretty nice to be free of all that.

Never bring an umbrella to a coyote fight.
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Alice Rogers

For me? I have to say knowing I will never bear a child of my own body. I have kids from the male aspect of parenthood and I utterly adore them, but I wish I could have carried them too!
"I would rather be ashes than dust!
I would rather that my spark should burn out in a brilliant blaze than it should be stifled by dry-rot.
I would rather be a superb meteor, every atom of me in magnificent glow, than a sleepy and permanent planet.
The function of man is to live, not to exist.
I shall not waste my days trying to prolong them.
I shall use my time." Jack London
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Dee Marshall

For me? Watching my wife swing from normalcy to despair over it wondering when, not if, my marriage is going to collapse.
April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!
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Felix

Shout out to 2007.

This is maybe a daft assertion, but the worst thing about being transsexual for me is being transsexual. I feel better now that I'm not pretending to be a girl, but no matter how good I feel there are people who judge hard, and I'll probably always have occasional despair about not having a "natural" male biology. Just knowing that who I am is unresolvably nonstandard is frustrating.
everybody's house is haunted
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Apples Mk.II

The freaking worst? Rejection once they clock you or come out. Dating is impossible now, and it is taking a toll in my mental health.
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Skyler

The 8 years of depression from repression.
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Sammy

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Jess42

Quote from: Felix on July 20, 2014, 06:16:24 PM
Shout out to 2007.

Get your Time machine ready Felix.

Yeah, it is an old post but seems fitting since we lost Nero and he started it.
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Bombadil

It was so weird to see this post. RIP Nero, your struggles are done.

For me the worst thing is 40ish years of looking in the mirror or looking at pictures and seeing someone who isn't me. That disconnect and self-loathing that happens when I'm reminded that my outsides don't match my inside.






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OreSama

My crotch and people telling me that I'm not really trans because I like wearing skirts.  If I could only change one part of my body and the rest had to stay female, I'd want to have a penis.
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