I prefer she/her, I can forgive an occasional mistep from close friends and family as most of them are still new to this.

I identify as a genderqueer femboi (biologically female) and prefer male pronouns (he/him/his) even though I don't usually pass as male 

I think that this is situational  In male mode, say at work, I am ok with he or him.  But if a friend, who I am out to, uses her or she at work, I dont have a problem with it, in fact it feels nice to be recognised by a friend for who I am and how I occur to them.  In andro mode I am happy being addressed as folk see me - if I was in andro mode and emiting female energy or a feminine pesona, then she and her works fine.  I guess that I want to be seen and to be addressed, as I am seen by others, and how I wold like to be perceived - it is a confusing place for them and it is confusing for me.  In the end my name may capture me far more accurately and reliably than any pronoun could.

Hope that this makes sense.  It may explain way I have chosen the forum name that I have. Strong imagery and in common usage by both M and F.  Ideal for the non binary living the dream!

Aisla

I present male.  Apparently an ageless male.  Thanks E!  You've saved me a facelift!

So I don't care that I'm referred to as he/him.  Hey you! Or Troublemaker! works for getting my attention tool.

I haven't noticed the pronoun thing much. The name I go by tends to get used more than he/him/sir sorta thing. While I'm not out to everyone people that do not know me address me as male more often than naught but I have days when the she/her/ma'am is used and I'm indifferent to it and others where it makes me blah.

It never really bugged me that much before, but for a while now it just grinds me when i hear ppl calling me any male pronouns. I wouldn't be bothered if they used gender neutral names though...

Preferred would be she/her/hers but I'm actually OK with he/him/his as I'm generally presenting as slightly androgynous male. When referring to others I prefer to use one/ones when appropriate and they/their/theirs when it's not. I wouldn't mind at all if he/him/his and she/her/hers fell into disuse and became as archaic as thee and thou.  (Wonders how quickly this could happen if it became a new internet meme to correct people who ever use he/him/his or she/her/hers as being archaic...)

I am still presenting in andro/male mode so everyone calls me he/him. But as I progress in transition I am starting to dislike it more and more. I would prefer she/her but it is impossible because I still look like a male and other people see me as one. And I have it more complicated because my native language (Czech) differentiates male/female when speaking in first person. So I am constantly forced to gender myself in every sentence I say . Stupid language.

I'm comfortable being referred to as "he" "him" but I like "they" and "them" too. I thought about "it" but it felt too harsh. I present as - and am physically - male.

There have been a few cases of people using "it" as a pronoun, usually to make a statement (basically, to get people to ask why it uses that pronoun, and then explain about the history of trans people being dehumanized).

I'm not personally interested in doing that, but I thought it was an interesting experiment in the (news) story that I read.

I like the neutral pronouns like "they/them/their" and "ze/hir" quite a lot, and generally go by those around my gender-knowledgeable friends.

I love those rare occasions where I get a "sir" in public, and it makes my skin crawl to be called "ma'am" or "miss."

I might move toward "he/him" pronouns eventually. I need to break free of several situations and really explore my identity first. Which is basically what led me to this forum....

I prefer male and gender neutral pronouns (they/them).
Female pronouns make me twitch, but unfortunately it's what I get the most because I'm AFAB and pre-HRT.

I have noticed though, that when my friends use male pronouns in public, strangers copy them without question. Even if I'm not binding.
Admittedly I'm small chested, but they're still noticeable. Gives me a confidence boost whenever it happens.

Quote from: Jill F on May 14, 2014, 12:03:30 PM

Nobody wants to be an "it".

Dont say that, i know a couple of people which prefern pronoume is "it"
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I prefern male or gender neutral pronomes, mostly male but it depends on the context.

I like they. They is a word people actually use, so it feels less like people are accommodating for me. It's not a big deal if someone calls me a she, but he kind of grates on my nerves. It's not a big deal though, people don't know any better.

I enjoy hearing she, her, ma'am, miss, girl, lovey, honey and sweetheart.  And then i went into transition accepting that i might never be seen by most others as anything more than a strange hybrid sort of way late bloomer.  I fuss about other opinions much less now and have a far clearer sense of my identity.  It is a sheer delight to find ways to align my presentation with this girl i once only experienced as a shadow.

I think most of us can distinguish the mistaken or awkward misgendering versus the mean spirited attempts to out us and i'd rather give people the benefit of the doubt and look for ways to gently educate.  Truth is i still sometimes misgender myself and will say things like "I'm the guy that....  opps"  I cut myself slack considering my 60 years of socialization as him.  It is reassuring to think of our many young, and seemingly younger that ever, transitioners who will likely have a nice long lifetime to hear their name and those pronouns the right way.

Any new folk have pronoun preferences?

I like getting miss or ma'am. People starting with female pronouns then correcting themselves to sir comes in a close second! Seriously, I'm all grins when I've got someone guessing and squirming!

The it/it's/itself pronouns are brand new to me, and I'm impressed that there are people who are strong enough to identify that way. Or maybe you don't need to be so strong in a world that is learning acceptance.  I certainly hope that's the case.

Hugs, Devlyn

I had someone use "they're" when referring to me in a 3rd party today.?
It felt odd.? I always go by He/Him/His.. I can understand it though.
I told people I'm mostly male, with a part of me that's feminine, so it was actually a perfectly respectful prounoun.. It was one of the first times I'd heard it towards me, and it still sounds strange.?

i'm ok with 'she' offline. it's a kind of automatic thing that happens to people when they see hips and boobs. pointless to defy it, because of defaulting.
but online, i prefer 'he'. for the sake of balance.
if i'm ever called something else, i hope it will be well camouflaged, in words that neither reveal gender, nor state insecurity about it. but that's really difficult to do in languages with gender specific pronouns, and even worse when gender is applied on verbs. like russian past.

i like 'it' as a pronoun. not for me, i'm usually far from it, but whenever sootball is around, both it and me feel more like it.
i also know a person who's perfectly fine with being called it, but that one's a tentacle monster.
it isn't dehumanizing in any way i can think of. it's more like a very ungender kind of think, and that might be the reason why most people don't like it. seems like gender and sexuality are so important to them that it gets difficult to relate to anything that isn't a 'he' or a 'she' or at least 'they'. aren't 'it's human too? or at least proper persons (even grammatically). (reason why i'm rarely it, is that i have too much gender.)
my language frequently uses equivalents of 'it', 'that', and 'this' about people. doesn't sound weird at all. but that might be because the pronoun for a 3rd person singular is unisex.

funniest application of they, is for a person who thinks of themselves as twins. they're really a correct kind of person to call they, don't you think?

Wow, I was just asked this question earlier today. Still not sure of a correct answer. When I get called her or she, I shine. Was not always that way. I used to cringe. I used to correct people and say "him". Not any more.

I guess I was always partial to "Professor" which my Phys Ed /  EMT trainer called me in school. He did not know what to think of me. He was very military and referred to the others in class as men and ladies. It was always "What do you think Professor?" with me.

Reading all the potentially acceptable pronouns from the above posts and your stories about why you desire them, makes me feel like all of us here are potential superheroes.  This non-binary gender fluid situation is only now something I even opened my eyes to. I have been practicing in front of my cameras and I think I can morph in real time from male to female or back. Thats some superhero or X files ->-bleeped-<- right?

I think you are all awesome and if I ever mess up any of your pronoun, please know It was a mistake. I am wicked new to this.

when in doubt, 'they' is usually good.
when f or m gender markers are used, it should be safe to assume they want 'he' or 'she', unless else is stated in their profile.

'sir' and 'ma'am' are horrible. i'd only accept love or hon or similar from a woman or non-binary with some female in them.

'professor' sounds really nice. i think i'd prefer 'your highness'. 'my lord/king/queen/liege' would also work. for some reason 'queen' sounds gender neutral to me. it's more of a state of mind than anything, the way i've ended up hearing the word.