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Started by regina, June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM

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Laura Eva B

Gina,

Ask me that in six months time  ;) .

First half year after surgery you don't feel ready to jump into bed with anyone other than a tender partner who's supported you through the transition.

Sure I could have sex with a guy this weekend if I were so desperate, but I'm only now starting to look seriously for a relationship.

Maybe there will come a point where I just want to try that vagina out, a brief "fling", but I'm far from being there yet !

Laura x
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Steph

Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
Hi, I'm getting SRS in November and am thinking (a LOT) about what hetero sex could be like with a man. I'm specifically interested in the experiences of straight post-op women and their first time with a guy. A few questions:

1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?

- 4 months

2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?

- Yes we've been together since Dec 2006

3) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?

- Someone I cared about

4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?

- it was emotionally draining, but physically pleasing

5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?

- There wasn't any 4th of July fireworks, but the foreplay was nice

6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?

- I had other non-penetrative sexual experiences

7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.

- it will be an experience that I will always remember.

Steph
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mavieenrose

Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?
Must have been about 7 months after.

2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?
No, I told him a couple of months later... 

3) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?
I totally loved him and wanted to be with him forever...

4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?
Can't really say, it just felt normal and good.

5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?
The day after I was a bit tender and we'd planned a day doing lots of walking which didn't turn out to be the best of ideas. At one point I just had to stop and sit down!  ;-)

6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?
Yes, I did.

7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.
My memories of it are still very good, though I was pretty innocent and overly passive back then.  I'm a much more 'active' partner now and would definitely make sure he did the necessary to make me orgasm (back then I was all about trying to give him pleasure...)  One thing that was funny, was that I was over agressive with my hand on him (I'd never masturbated back when I was pre-op, the thought just disturbed me too much...) and he had to show me how to give him pleasure...  Pretty funny when you think about it!

Voilà Gina !

MVER XXX
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Maud

Quote from: regina on June 26, 2007, 05:42:23 PM
Hi, I'm getting SRS in November and am thinking (a LOT) about what hetero sex could be like with a man. I'm specifically interested in the experiences of straight post-op women and their first time with a guy. A few questions:

1) How long was it after SRS that you actually had penetrative sex?

2) Did your partner know about your trans history (be honest now)?

3) Was your partner someone you really cared about or more someone you were with just to have the experience?

4) What did you like about the experience both physically and emotionally?

5) What didn't you like (or what was difficult) physically and emotionally?

6) Did you have other sexual experiences with that same partner or was it a one time deal?

7) How does your first time (as a woman) feel now that you have some distance from it.

Many thanks your sharing, honesty and candor. I'm really looking for your own personal experience rather than any advice.

ciao,
Gina M.

Well, I have a somewhat different experience to add but I think you'll find it interesting

I slept with a post-op TS a while back which killed two birds with one stone for me, firstly I'd never slept with a girl like that before thus figured I may as well give it a go before losing the ability to, secondly it gave me some first hand experience with the handiwork of my most likely future surgeon.

1) the girl was like 6 years post-op

2) I would not have suspected anything unless I was right up close, there was little scarring.

3) just to have the experience

4) she enjoyed it but i didn't ask for a breakdown of emotional/physical feelings, I think it was more physical.

5) Physically it's a bit tricky to get past the pubic bone and the muscle they tunnel through though that's more due to my own lack of decent functionality and i'm not sure if the pubic bone thing is an issue with natal girls, there were no depth issues.

6) first and only experience with her to date.

7) N/A
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Thundra

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Thundra

QuoteROFL     You're funny, Thundra.  BTW I wish I can contribute to this thread, but I've not had any experiences after my SRS.  I'm still a virgin.  Maybe soon...who knows, right Thundra?    LOL 

No comment!

Actually I love heterosexual women.  ::)  Being andro has it's advantages.
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Lin

Quote from: Tink on July 04, 2007, 10:18:01 PM

... I wish I can contribute to this thread, but I've not had any experiences after my SRS.  I'm still a virgin.  Maybe soon...

tink :icon_chick:

Same here, after 3 and 1/2 monthes of my SRS, I still feel not ready for penetrative sex yet, though I've had non-penetrative love-making with my beloved bf and got my clito orgasm... Although we're looking forward to the first time, we both agree to wait untill I feel totally comfortable and confident...After all, it is worth to wait a couple of monthes longer for a better longterm result...





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asiangurliee

Wow. I am sorry, I don't have any opinon to contribute as i have no vagina but...it was lovely to read the first sex experience. Thanks! *i am so jealous, btw*
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Thundra

QuoteThanks for the derailment. Maybe you could start your own 'grossed out by lovemaking' thread?' But I'm still seriously interested in the experiences from women whose background I thought I pretty clearly outlined at the beginning. See, this subject actually means something to me and really appreciate the shared experiences of the people who responded.

I was just teasing G.M.  In a mood I was. Please forgive me my trespassing. I was wound up cause the girls came into the boys room. Big no-no that.  Carry on with yo heterosexual self.
Some of my best friends are heterosexual.
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Sheila

I have not been penetrated by a male as a female. I don't plan on anything like that, but who knows, I'm open for the opportunity. Right now I'm married and will not break my vows. If anything should happen, well, who knows.
Sheila
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melissa90299

Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.
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tinkerbell

Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.

Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this?  ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL  ;)

tink :icon_chick:

Posted on: July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Found it  ;D ;)

Quotedeflower definition
tr.v. de·flow·ered, de·flow·er·ing, de·flow·ers
1. To take away the virginity of (a woman).
2. To destroy the innocence, integrity, or beauty of; ravage.
deflower synonyms
verb
To deprive of virginity: defile, violate. See sex
deflower etymology
[Middle English deflouren, from Old French defflourer, from Late Latin dflrre : Latin d-, de- + Latin fls, flr-, flower; see bhel-3 in Indo-European roots.]
deflower derivatives
de·flower·er n.


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melissa90299

Quote from: Tink on July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.

Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this?  ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL  ;)

tink :icon_chick:

Too soon? Are you kidding me? I have been celibate by choice for four months and six months since I have been with a woman. Even if I am not completely healed, I can have sex comfortably with a woman knowing I don't have that unmentionable thing that I kept hidden.
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Lin

Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 08:06:05 PM
Quote from: Tink on July 14, 2007, 07:58:23 PM
Quote from: melissa90299 on July 14, 2007, 07:51:35 PM
Something tells me that I will be penetrated by a female before experiencing the "real" thing. Several women have expressed an interest in 'deflowering me" though first, of course, I will most likely enjoy being pleasured. without penetration.

Isn't it a bit too soon for you to be talking about this?  ;D ;) deflower, I have to look it up....LOL  ;)

tink :icon_chick:

Too soon? Are you kidding me? I have been celibate by choice for four months and six months since I have been with a woman. Even if I am not completely healed, I can have sex comfortably with a woman knowing I don't have that unmentionable thing that I kept hidden.

Well, I'll be post-op for 4 monthes by next week... I still haven't felt being ready for "penetration" yet... during the first 3 monthes I wouldn't even think about it...  Though my bf is eager to try it soon, he totally understands that and take care of me, cause being totally healed is the most important for us at this stage... I guess we should think about the long term result more than how fast and early we can have penetrative sex... and I beleive if somebody really loves you, he/she should first think about your health but having sex with you earlier...

Take your time to be healed and give a chance to your body to get recovered... You will see it's not easy at all during the first 2 monthes... only the endless dilation will take a lot of your energy... Again, best wishes to you!
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melissa90299

If the op arises, I will go for it in a heartbeat. The thing with women is, it is all "foreplay" anyway, if I am not ready to be touched there, I will just tell her.
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Jay



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Nero

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tinkerbell

First time, hetero, after SRS sex experiences? 


Yeah?  What about them?  ;)

What happened to your original post, Gina?  Do you want an answer or not? ;) ;D

tink :icon_chick:
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Lin

Quote from: Tink on September 14, 2007, 11:44:14 PM
First time, hetero, after SRS sex experiences? 


Yeah?  What about them?  ;)

What happened to your original post, Gina?  Do you want an answer or not? ;) ;D

tink :icon_chick:

Yeah, I've been also wondering what happened to Gina's original post?! Tink, have you just got your latest updated answer to her questions? ;)
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