One last word for now: When people are being condescending, they are not acting in the spirit of the site. If a thread is turning into a dogpile, report the whole thread. It's not a waste of mod time to investigate, I assure you.
Sometimes we make mistakes in an attempt to act quickly and halt ugly behavior--a few individuals wind up getting caught in the net who probably shouldn't. We do our best to rectify such situations and issue an apology.
And now I'm going to apologize for making Jessica think that I was criticizing her. I wasn't.
I am sorry, Jessica.