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not wanting to change pronouns-is this weird?

Started by kittylover, September 03, 2014, 09:46:09 AM

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kittylover

even when I feel like a guy I still call myself she in my head . therefore I still have other people call me she.  It doesn't make sense! my attitude about is "if it ain't broke don't fix it" but from what I've seen for most trans people that IS broke so they DO fix it.... maybe it's just because the idea of being called he or a gender neutral pronoun is too scary for me.....maybe later I will change the pronouns I like. Am I the only one who doesn't really feel a need to change their pronouns?
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chance

I don't feel the need either at this point.  But I've experienced changes about what is comfortable for me.  Maybe as my comfort/acceptance of being trans changes?  But for now I don't mind keeping my pronouns.  I also don't correct people anymore when I get called sir/son.  Just my 2ยข...
"Live like someone left the gate open"
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chance

P. S.  I have no idea if this is weird *lol*
"Live like someone left the gate open"
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Cin

"He" is just fine with me right now, but that's because I present myself as a male.  :)
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LordKAT

FWIW, I never requested a change of pronouns, I just reacted in the positive when it was the right one. It didn't take real long before most people got it right. I think after a bit, they were the ones looked at oddly when they got it wrong.
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KaylaMadison

My brother is on a bowling team with a trans female that still goes by male pronouns and even his male name. It's up to the individual to determine what nouns are comfortable for them.
Came out to self/wife - 5 June 2014
Started HRT - 8 April 2015
Full Time - 29 May 2015
Currently Working on Name Change
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jakken

I feel pretty much the same way. I don't really know why, but yea. I just don't really feel the need to. I've known (or at least thought about it) that I was trans since I was 15-16, I'm 19 now and haven't even felt the need to come out... Which kinda annoys me, lol.
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ssneha23

It get a bit awkward for me when called she when presenting as a guy when am out with people who have no clue about my transition
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Bombadil

I don't find that strange. we are all individual and gender is a bit of a fluid concept. it's started to matter a bit more to me, than it did at first. I have asked people to start making the switch but I'm not all that invested. if they call me she, it's ok. I think as I pass more the hes will come more naturally






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Taka

pronouns are just pronouns. my daughter only used he, him and her(s) until she was around 7-8 years old, and finally started realizing that gender matters in norwegian. i'm much more concerned about other nouns like daughter, girl, female this and that, etc. those don't always fit too well, and sometimes make me cringe.

my daughter also prefers being called by her female name and female pronouns, even when she's a boy. is what she told me.
but then again, she doesn't hear me use gendered pronouns about her all too often.
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pianoforte

I like to be called sir and not ma'am.

But other than that I'm fine with she/her pronouns in most places. With family, because I know I can't change them; and with friends, because I know they mean well and they usually correct themselves. And with strangers because, well, I can't avoid presenting female in public most of the time.

Granted, I tend to drop pronouns altogether when talking about people in the 3rd person, so clearly they are not all that important to me. The pronouns, I mean. The people totally are, and if they have specific preferred pronouns I try to use those.
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