When I was a teenager, my first introduction to trans guys was when I was watching Boys Don't Cry with my dad and he kept calling Brandon a liar. I can't remember if that was because there were some instances where he did lie or if my dad was accusing him of lying about his gender, but I do remember I was uncomfortable.
When I came out to my mom, she put on *that* face and asked what feeling like a guy feels like and how do I know I feel like a guy. She expressed disappointment because she thought she raised us to think people of any gender didn't have to fit certain roles and why can't I be a woman? She asked me about my plans for genital surgery (because that's a conversation I ever feel like having with my mother) and then asked if I'd be like a neutered man (because my current plumbing would magically disappear without surgery). She also asked if I wanted to be a guy because I thought I needed to to be powerful (because I clearly wasn't already the most powerful person in our family).

(The parts in parentheses are sarcastic.)
My parents aren't in my life for other reasons.

(I cut my hair again to maintain the style I got earlier this summer. Which took weeks of mental preparation, courage, and a weekend away from home so I could do it in a safe place).

My grandmother, upon finding out about my haircut:
"There must be something wrong with you."
"I bet you miss that boyfriend of yours who let you get away with everything."
"Do you want to be homely all your life?"

I am definitely not out to her, never will be. I try to make the most of it, like by enjoying it when she says that I look like a butch dyke.

My dad and more or less what he said: 

"You're not transgender.  I changed your diaper so I know."

"You will always be my daughter to me."

" How you will pay for that?  You are stuck.  You don't have a job."

"It's against the Bible."

My mom tends to like to bring up conversations about my no-no square and always refer to me as "one day going to be a father" and crap like that. Even when we're alone.

The day after I came out to my mother:

"Your father and I talked this over and we have decided not to disown you."  Wow, thanks.  That was even on the table?  I mean, if I was diagnosed with any number of mental illnesses, that would have been fine, but being born with a female brain was a potential dealbreaker?  I almost disowned them, but we're actually closer than ever now.

"Please don't tell me we have to join some group now.  We don't join groups."  No, mom, you're now a member of "parents of trans" whether you like it or not.

"Don't tell X,Y and especially Z. They won't take it well, or at all."  No problem, mom.  I'll just make sure to tell my gossipy cousin. (Who told X,Y and Z pretty much right away.)  So I lost drunkle Z...  BFD.  He's an a*hole anyway.   

I will preface by saying my mother is a lovely person but a meth-addict in recovery. She's been sober for two years, but it's a constant battle and I take that into consideration.

"So, (girl name), how does your HUSBAND feel about this?"

"He's fine. He's gay."

"Well, he wasn't that "->-bleeped-<--tastic" if he dated you"

"Wow, mom. Really? Wanna open that can?"

She eventually came around but damn. That was a lovely conversation... 2 years after I told her to begin with.

+1 on the "why can't you just be a lesbian"
I also enjoyed my mom mocking my male speaking voice as "sounding stupid (subtext: for the woman I think you should be)"

My mother is also a lovely person and did a great job raising me but has a rough case of Catholic Guilt

Wow I am shocked reading some of these. I know not everyone is accepting/understanding right off the bat, but wow just wow. Some of these "parents" or "adults" (if you can even call them that) sound like they need to go back to jr. High school with the kind of talk that comes out their ignorant mouths....seriously? Mocking your kids' voice? Are you in grade 2??  Get some therapy or something....these are your children for fudgesakes, get over yourselves, stand up and be a real parent. They sound so f**cking ugly.

I more than agree some reactions are immature but i urge you to not put them all in the same box. Some are loving parents who simply don't understand, to them it's as if we were saying we wanted to be something twisted and taboo. It's difficult for people raised in different times and places to even comtemplate the idea of certain types of individuals existing in the world; much less have their child one day say he or she is like those individuals. So while I agree in no way is shaming or disrespect right, try to see that some of these parents are are being confronted with a situation that (most)never even knew existed much less expected it from their kid.

Quote from: pianoforte on August 31, 2014, 02:33:02 AM
The other day my mom, out of the blue, just said, "You'd make such an ugly boy."

Gosh, Mom...

I'm referring to stuff like this^^ I already stated that I understand that not everyone is understanding and accepting 100% off the start and there are some wonderful example of that in this topic.
The example that I quoted here on the other hand is completely rude and uncalled for....who calls their own kid "ugly" ?? Or mocks their kids male speaking voice?? Some parents don't get it at first and ok, fine...but to make a personal attack? Un-called for.

When I came out to my mom (for a second time because apparently she didn't believe me the first time?), she sat me down on the couch downstairs and yelled at me for hours. It ended with her standing over me as I tried to hide in my own self, repeatedly shouting, "BOYS DON'T CRY!"

About five weeks after that my dad told me that I was "doing this" because "it was the trend right now".

Three months after that my mom pointed out a very nice butch girl to me and said, "You wanna be like her? A boygirl?"

It's officially been a year since I've come out, and I've been shoved back into the closet by my parents so many times. It's almost hilarious.

Quote from: morganFW on October 10, 2014, 11:52:23 PM
I'm referring to stuff like this^^ I already stated that I understand that not everyone is understanding and accepting 100% off the start and there are some wonderful example of that in this topic.
The example that I quoted here on the other hand is completely rude and uncalled for....who calls their own kid "ugly" ?? Or mocks their kids male speaking voice?? Some parents don't get it at first and ok, fine...but to make a personal attack? Un-called for.

As you quoted my post, I just wanted to say that I'm not exactly out to my mom and what she said was in no way a response to my gender identity or expression. It was just a random thought she had, and between me and her when we have a random thought we share it. She intended it as a complement to a compliment she'd made earlier that I'm a pretty girl. My tearful smiley was a jokey one, but then this thread got all serious.

But yeah a lot of the things people say are totally ->-bleeped-<-ed up, including the things from my other posts (generally uttered by my grandmother, who is a sack of ->-bleeped-<-).

I thought that after over 3 years, I might be able to talk about my gender issues to my father. I was never so wrong. My hormone therapy came up, he started asking about it the first time so I explained. He was disappointed, and made a remark of how I'm destroying my health by taking medications and that I have no idea what I'm taking away from him and myself as well, and how he wanted to have grandchildren.

He said how some women say that the best time of their life was the time they were pregnant and how I can't know if I hated it if I never tried. He said he will never give up the hope that one day, "he would get his daughter back" and things like "if I was normal" and "if I was living a healthy life" and that "he hopes that one day I will find myself" and that "the outer shell of a human does not matter because what matters is inside".

I tried telling him that I have found myself already and that my body is wrong. I told him he can't imagine how terrible it is for me when he said I can't imagine how terrible it is for him, but he won't understand that I need this change.

Quote from: pianoforte on October 12, 2014, 08:15:08 AM
As you quoted my post, I just wanted to say that I'm not exactly out to my mom and what she said was in no way a response to my gender identity or expression. It was just a random thought she had, and between me and her when we have a random thought we share it. She intended it as a complement to a compliment she'd made earlier that I'm a pretty girl. My tearful smiley was a jokey one, but then this thread got all serious.

But yeah a lot of the things people say are totally ->-bleeped-<-ed up, including the things from my other posts (generally uttered by my grandmother, who is a sack of ->-bleeped-<-).

That is not nice. She probably loves you and cares about you.

Hey mac1 it might not be nice but it could also be the truth. Less you know the story can't really make predictions like that she probably loves him.

If she "loves him and cares about him" then says awful stuff to him, then obviously she's got a ->-bleeped-<-ed up way of showing it.

I used National Coming Out Day to finally come out publicly and on a large scale through Facebook. I was sick of living double. The parents have known for almost a year but refuse to talk or deal. This was my fathers public response on Facebook: "A fathers dreams for his little girl is that she will one day grow up to be a heart breaker. Today that wish came true for me, but I had no idea the broken heart would be mine." Then both my parents deleted their Facebook accounts. Today I received this message "We do love u. You have to know that we are having a hard time dealing and making a very public statment might have been great for u but not making it easier for us." Go parents....

Quote from: Maleth on August 31, 2014, 07:47:05 AM
Pre-everything, not out to anyone, buuuut...

Mom: "When are you gonna grow your hair out? Don't you want boys to like you?"

*sigh*

OMG, I know that one only too well. I haven't been able to come out to my parents yet (Only really settled on the idea of being trans AND doing something about it a week or so ago) but I've been gender queer for years. My Mom used to be under the impression that girls who look like boys simply don't attract anyone.

Yeah my grandma loves me and cares about me almost as much as she manipulates, controls, and assaults me and blames me for the sexual assault and other abuse that happened to me as a child.

As much as she's a terrible parent and person, it really grates on me to have to acknowledge her "kindness" for allowing me to live in her home. Even though what I am doing here is barely surviving.

I appreciate the intention of that comment, but she is a truly abusive person with a massive personality disorder who basically belittles everyone and everything around her, then promptly pretends she is perfect and nurturing and has never done anything to hurt anyone.

At my psychotherapist appointment today it came up that my mother forced me to shave my body hair, and actually did shave some off/all off (I can't quite remember).  I never really thought about how weird that was until I saw his reaction.