Quote from: immortal gypsy on December 05, 2014, 07:41:40 PM


Ok this Wednesday morning I'll go bowling and, I will "Just. Do It." "Just Do It. Sitting. Down. "
Low traffic if I get in before the school kids and I know the area so I should be comfortable

I put it down on the forums, guess that means I'm committed

Pics or it didn't happen....

uh, on second thoughts, no, probably best not!

Thank you everybody for your thoughts and your opinions, and experience, plus the bucket of cold water I sorely needed. Mmm I need to find a pair of flats tommorow, if I leave early enough I should be able to find the courage to use the correct bathroom for the first time. In, go, wash your hands and leave. Don't forget to breathe you belong there.

No Grace I will not be taking pics

When I pass I use the ladies. Except at work because everyone knows I'm a "guy" but that is being sorted out with HR. Unfortunately I have to pick a date to be full time. I can't just switch between bathrooms at will. But I'm cool with that. When I come out at work I have full support of HR and my manager, who is a VP and second in command of our division so he is senior and has authority.

i finally just had enough and only use the womens room so far no ones said anything

The main place that I spend time in that doesn't have neutral toilets is my faculty building, so I'm waiting til I'm out to my lecturers and supervisors because I don't want to bump into them in the loo and have to explain then! At the moment, I'm just planning my activities to make sure I stop off at enough places with neutral toilets to not have to use the wrong ones.

Go to a CVS or some place where an employee must open a door for you. Theres ur ansser. I know fr me i thought i never passed but anytime i was in this situation they opened the womans door. Without dressing and living as a woman you cant know fo sho. When it really hit home for me was when i entrred a rehab....as a guy..an the nurse straight up took me asnd asked me if im really a man or woman. I told her and the other nurse no one would notice i take hormones and the one spit her drink out. She said sweetie if you eant to look male u need to try harder. So yeah...
Sorry for grammar im on my droid...but not the droids ur looking for lol jk

That's a good question. I was shopping last night at walmart & needed to pee. I went to the bathroom area & really could not decide, I was dressed mostly female however kind of neutral, not flashy as I do most of the time. So to be safe I ducked in the mens for a quick pee. Maybe I should use the female bathroom. Men look at me funny like they know I'm not a man for sure. Women smile more at me & are nicer so I must look more female. 

I DID IT! I DID IT! I DID IT! Finally I used the correct bathroom

Walking to the comic store through the mall area I needed to go. Families around so fairly busy as its an outside area on a Sunday morning. I even had to walk past some people so there was no hiding what I was doing.

Think I'll still need to build up some more confidence to be completely and reassurance from some people who don't know me, but first time and still beaming.

Step by step day by day full time is coming closer 

Once I went full time I only ever use the women's room. I was still pre-HRT at the time that started and just was confident that the men's room was definitely not a place for me, so it only made sense to use the women's room. It was scary the first time, but the only other options I had (use the men's or my undies instead) seemed much less appealing.

I have never experienced any issues other than some intrigued looks early on. I feel like at the point I am at in HRT, if I tried to go into the men's room instead, I would get confused looks.

Generally speaking when you get strange looks when using the men's
Then its probably a good time

It took me until I had been on HRT for two months before I finally worked up the courage and felt confident enough in myself to use the women's bathroom at a JCPennys store while shopping with a friend. Even though nobody was in there I was still scared to death. After the first few times it gets easier and easier to just nonchalantly walk in like any other woman does to use the restroom.

Once other women stopped me and said: "Honey, the women's room is over here." Up until that point, I was using the men's room just out of habit.

As soon as I went full time I made the switch.

Quote from: Joanna Dark on December 06, 2014, 05:27:31 PM
Go to a CVS or some place where an employee must open a door for you. Theres ur ansser. I know fr me i thought i never passed but anytime i was in this situation they opened the womans door. Without dressing and living as a woman you cant know fo sho. When it really hit home for me was when i entrred a rehab....as a guy..an the nurse straight up took me asnd asked me if im really a man or woman. I told her and the other nurse no one would notice i take hormones and the one spit her drink out. She said sweetie if you eant to look male u need to try harder. So yeah...
Sorry for grammar im on my droid...but not the droids ur looking for lol jk

That's a city thing. Out here in the burbs and countryside the bathrooms are all open and not locked. But in New York a lot of places lock the bathrooms and you ask the cashier or other staff for the key or go buzz you in. My FIL who owns a laundromat in queens explained why, you have non customers coming to use your facility and being pigs with it. In a city you have much more people so more mess to clean up. So restroom for customers only.

Interestingly enough I have seen a sparkling clean men's restroom. It was in Jo-Ann, the craft store. Me and my son were probably the only ones using that one.

But the idea is a good one. Let others be the judge. That only works if you're read as female however.

Last time I've been in the men's room was 5 years ago, around 18, I've been on mones for half a year at that time, also half a year out of high school, still wearing boyish clothes with almost shoulder length hair (picture J-Rock style). I was in the mens washroom at my local Asian mall (Pacific Mall). Guys were staring me as usual, I assumed that I might be mistaken as a "tomboy" tho I didnt pass, have been getting them for a few months, this one outspoken guy tho looked at me and shouted, "Woah, this is the men's room!?!". As I walked out of the stall, my face turned bright red, lowered my head out of embarrassment and rushed out. Since then I try to use the washroom for disabled to avoid embarrassment/harassment, but I mostly refrained from going out to the public at that awkward in-the-middle period, started to go full time the next year for university, and since then I've been using the ladies room exclusively and never looked back. The first time in the ladies room was when I first started fulltime, went to a mall together with a female friend, she was nice enough to go in with me together, at that moment, my heart was pounding vigorously, felt anxious yet excited. The moment I stepped into the ladies room, I felt blissful, nearly moved to the point that I had tears to my eyes.