Single, single, single! The only way for me to go. Was in a 12 year relationship with a cis woman while in a strict male mode, but as soon as marriage was being brought up, forget it! I told her that if we ever got married we would be divorced within a year. The secret is to see the person once a week and talk on the phone also once a week. (Not on the same day). Worked for me. However, if we were still going out, no way would she appreciate what I am doing to become feminine.

I've been single since 2006.

I've never been in any relationship. 

I would prefer cis-women I guess, but I could go for a fellow MtF or even feminine non-binary person.

Quote from: Hikari on December 20, 2014, 01:30:29 PM
So mine has changed now, I am dating another mtf.

Congratulations Hikari! Maybe she is the one!

Happy Holidays!
Ally

I put down other. I am currently single and mostly attracted to feminine or feminine leaning androgynous, cis or trans, but would consider otherwise for the correct person. That being said I am also perfectly content being single as I have most of my life.

 Yea I used to believe there was someone out there for everybody, but not anymore. I've lost all hope.

Ally
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I agree with you, Ally. That is just another reason that I don't want any more relationships.

I haven't been in a relationship since my ex fiance left me December 2001. So about 13 years ago. Slightly before I came to terms with being trans I had my first date since my ex-fiance. I thought it went well. We seemed to get along. We kept in contact after the date. The weekend after that we couldn't get together because it was easter weekend and she was too busy. A couple of days before easter weekend she stopped talking to me. I didn't hear from her for like 2 weeks. There were tornadoes in the area and she just wanted to check in with me. Since she is a mother, I never expected to be her #1 priority, but the fact that it took a natural disaster to send me a text that takes less than a minute to send really bothered me. I sent a reply to her text, but I never heard from her again. Now I'm glad because she was straight and while she probably would have been ok with me being trans (she was very progressive), I don't think she would have wanted to date a woman. Since coming out, I've gotten a couple of hits on ok cupid, but none of those went anywhere. I feel like I'm screwed. I also have noticed that lesbians and cats are a thing, but I'm allergic. I think I'm doubly screwed. I can't tell you how many times I've found a seemingly perfect girl on ok cupid, only to find out she has cats. One of them was even interested in me until she found out I'm allergic.

@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

I've never been in a real relationship, just a few awkward dates... hopefully this year I'll feel more up to it.

Quote from: Hikari on December 30, 2014, 01:07:08 AM
@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

Agreed^^___^^. I'm lesbian and love cats, so much I have 4 of them. They fill a void in me no person ever can, and I love them dearly.

Ally

Quote from: Hikari on December 30, 2014, 01:07:08 AM
@ Awilliams1701: It is true, lesbians love cats. I love cats, my girlfriend loves cats, every girl I talked to on OKcupid or Wing Ma'am loved cats.... I mean I dunno why either, but there seems to be like a seriously correlation there. I mean I know there have to be some of them that don't out there somewhere.

lol I tried wing ma'am too but it was way too buggy, constantly crashing. Yes its true, my gf has two cats and I have two cats. We lovee cats lolol 

Blissfully single. After a 12 year cavalcade of relationships, I've now been single for just over a year and I'm loving it.

I don't think I've ever really had a chance to define myself as an adult outside of relationships and the last year has been very important to me.

This could almost be seen as the year Ally FINALLY grew up.

Almost.

EDIT - Couldn't see the actual poll on my phone app, and my answer is other, meaning that I'm not really concerned what a prospective partner's gender status is, I'm attracted to a pretty broad range of people and whatever they are, if they rock my world, so be it!

Quote from: Lady_Oracle on December 30, 2014, 03:31:20 AM
lol I tried wing ma'am too but it was way too buggy, constantly crashing. Yes its true, my gf has two cats and I have two cats. We lovee cats lolol 

Interestingly enough, that is where I met my current girlfriend, because the app said we lived in the same city and we didn't lol, so I see the bugs as a feature

I've been happily married for just over 20 years to my high school sweet heart. [emoji131] 

I finally came out to her this year and I've been working to transition ever since, albeit at a slow and steady pace. 

So far she's accepting of my transition speed and progress.  Like most wives she married a man and is not sure if she can stay once i fully transition.

One step at a time,  HRT next. [emoji68]

So I really am screwed.  Stupid cats. Dogs are better! (plus I'm not allergic)

I have preferred dogs, myself. They are more dependent on us. I adopted mine, since she was abandoned and was found in the streets. she is a popular breed, too, so can't understand why she would have been abandoned!

I'm not sure what the story is with my dog. I know she managed to outwit the people trying to capture her for over a year before she ended up in a high rate kill shelter. The organization I got her from made her a priority because of this (they are no kill). Unfortunately no one wanted her because she turned out to be super aggressive. There was a lot of interest because she is a super beautiful dog. When I met her, she wasn't sure what to make of me. Part of her wanted to cuddle up to me and part of her wanted to tell me to get lost. They begged me to give her a chance since she hadn't reacted that well to anyone. So I did and after a rocky first day, we've gotten along really well ever since. She is terrified of a lot of things. She used to get set off by almost anything including basketballs, bicycles, running. In the 2 years I've had her, she's improved greatly. She still looses it too easy, but its not nearly as bad as it was.

Quote from: Stephanie2 on January 01, 2015, 10:25:22 AM
I have preferred dogs, myself. They are more dependent on us. I adopted mine, since she was abandoned and was found in the streets. she is a popular breed, too, so can't understand why she would have been abandoned!

I guess I'm lucky that I haven't found the love of my life, yet.  I've seen so many stories here of folks who are married and having to face the possibility that transitioning will also lead to losing their significant other, and I honestly don't think I could handle that sort of choice.  It'd kill me, and the strength so many of you show despite it all is amazing and inspiring.  Strength I wish I had, but also feel eternally grateful that I haven't needed, yet.

Sighs, I'm separating from my wife of 20 years. She see's me as the person who 'murdered' her husband...nice huh? lol

It is too bad you cannot select multiple options. I am divorced from a ciswoman and dating a cisman.