Quote from: LittleV on January 15, 2015, 02:18:39 PM
That's strange, because they're up on my end now. I did not pull them down.
I don't think I have a big issue with facial hair but IT IS THERE. I wish it weren't. You can see (on facial close-ups) and judge by yourself if you're willing to.
Oh, and by the way - you said I pass in some pics... can you please say in which ones I passed?
Btw, I added a few new pics to the album.
http://s1081.photobucket.com/user/da1987/library/MyAlbum?sort=9&page=1
"nopass"
Thank you for providing the password again. Photo 11. Also, yes, photo 12.
To get picky... if I am going too far, I am sorry. But my perception of your questions is that you want much detail. You also seem to have the strength and fortitude to handle feedback. This is also an an important milestone that you seem to have surmounted. (It's hard to tell, sometimes, which people who post this thread are ready for the most critical observations.) But to really achieve "passing" takes, for most of us, methodical dedication and a willingness to accept constructive criticism. Bounce back from it, let it give us energy and build off of it. You are a beautiful person. None of these things I am gong to tell you are problems. They are all addressable opportunities to be more feminine - if that is what you seek.
Your neck is thicker. Your trapezius muscle has a more stereotypically masculine curve. To pass, you would benefit from fat and muscle redistribution in both your face and body. This can be resolved by HRT. You could shave your legs... right? That is not required but more stereotypically feminine in our culture. But, some women don't shave their legs. Also, your legs have a male muscle distribution. If it bothers you, give that at least two years on HRT to resolve. It would help even more to have SRS or an orchiectomy. (Same for the neck - would be helped by SRS) there is some beard shadow in some of your photos. Most women simply don't have that type of shadow. I think you have the skin tone and dark enough beard hair to use laser. Find a good professional. If you don't get results, switch providers or operators.
You are very lucky in that you have a small enough frame and some core features (nose rotation, feminine chin, reduced brow bossing, you are still young...) that HRT would, I think have an amazing effect. But It can take many years... at least two (is my non-medical opinion) before a person can really give up on HRT. Finally, irreversibly, SRS or Orchi + HRT really gets us as far as we can go without surgery. It is my opinion that even someone on HRT for five years will still see further muscle and fat distribution improvement after SRS. Please keep in mind I am not a doctor and SRS and hormones are a very serious step. Please develop a relationship with a therapist and an informed internist or General Practitioner or family doctor who can refer you to an endocrinologist.
But I do not want to discourage you either. There will be results even after only 4 months of HRT. Perhaps you have to get feedback from your therapist and on this forum in order to appreciate the changes. Looking in the mirror every day, through our own biased minds, can cloud our views of real progress.
It's my opinion that a transition to passing is trying to change enough masculine cues to feminine. Eventually, at some point, we tip over the line and people accept us as female. Finding your tipping point is a journey. However, you already have many cues in the feminine column.
Lastly, I think an important part of transition is that, you do need a job. Sadly, in this world, transition is rarely free. It's not fair. We are misclassified at birth and we have to pay, fight and struggle to correct that error. But it's reality.
- Kind Regards, Danielle
