This is what 3 trans friend have told me. They are stealth and 100% passable and COMPLETE. They all told me life becomes boring once all transition is over. Me I got some stuffs more to do and I am wondering if it's gonna happen the same to me.

What about others here who are COMPLETE? Does life really become boring?

EB, life is amazing. The world is a miraculous place with billions of fascinating people. Our special gift is the joy of navigating that wonderful world finally being fully ourselves.

Life is only as boring as you make it.

I don't know about boring but life would become more normal and likely less stressful. Not constantly having to worry about how to get surgery money or passability or correcting pronouns. People like goals, and transition is obviously a big one, so I could see something of a void left behind when you finally were out of things to do for transitioning. But just means your time and money can be spent on other things. ^_^

Standing on the brink of my transition, I can't answer the question, but I have thought a lot about what to expect. I do think that, for a time, life will seem boring and I'll feel a bit directionless. Right now, there is an exciting goal and a lot of changes, plans, things to do, etc. Other parts of life go on, but in what's looking like they'll be a back seat kind of way---the main focus is on this transition. Once it's done, you have to start another transition: back to living, not just changing your gender. It's common to feel empty or depressed for a bit after achieving a major long-term goal, and I don't think gender transition will be an exception to that.

I am trying to keep in mind that the transition itself is not my goal. My goal is to live my life happily, just as a woman. For me, that means trying to focus as little as I can on the technical aspects---the various steps. Those are a means to an end, not an end in themselves. For example, I expect I will want to have GRS eventually, but I am not trying to make up my mind at this point. It's a long way off, and when I get to the point that I currently expect it will make sense, I think it's distinctly possible that I'll be happy as I am and not feel the need. I'm trying to treat the whole process that way: each step needs to be done for a reason, not just because it's what I'm "supposed" to do. After all, that's the whole mindset I'm trying to escape!

I'm assuming you have to find other ways to make it interesting, though I don't really know, my transition is not yet totally over though I just hit my three year mark for being "out".  Personally, my "normal" is long nights in the studio, 18 hour work days on shows during tech week, so once my transition (if I can ever manage to pass completely, I hope so) is over I can hardly say my life will be "boring".  You just have to find other things to occupy your time and energy.  You're going to be spending year of your life where this rules everything; you'll need to find something else to throw yourself into if you don't want a dull life. 

I wouldn't say boring as much as I would say uneventful. The trans stuff fades away along with the transition tornado and life goes back to normal. The key thing is exploration. I choose to enjoy my new gender and put myself "out there" so that I can have a fulfilling and interesting life. Very few people will get to do what we do so I enjoy every breath of life

most people think my life right now is boring. i go to work 40 hours a week, every day i get home, play a little video games, play some music, go to sleep.  weekends, a ton of music practice, go to dinner with family, nice quiet time.  every other week or so i go out with a friend to do something small.

but i enjoy it.  just because your not running around constantly doing something doesnt mean that life becomes boring.   pick up a hobby.  i spend most of my free time practicing music.

I wouldn't call it "boring," it's just life. NORMAL life, where there isn't a constant source of obsession and pain holding you back. It's just what every single other person experiences... a void where you need to somehow find out what your purpose in life is, what it is that gets you through the day, and what you need to be happy.

In a way it is boring, because there's nothing to obsess about anymore that occupies your every thought, things to constantly worry about, it's just going about life.

Take that for what you will.

(And technically I'm not "complete" yet, I still have SRS to go, but honestly I don't dwell on it. I ignore it during all but the few times a day that I'm changing clothes or going to the bathroom.)

I personally found that once I'd been full-time for a few months, and finally got confidence in my passability, and being female no longer became a goal but just who I am, something that I take for granted, I definitely felt a void there. And I was like "shoot... now what the heck did I used to do for fun before this whole thing started?" And I picked back up on my anime-watching, and picked back up on my Disney film review project, and playing Age of Empires, and I decided to start a Youtube channel, and I'm considering getting back into dating... other boring normal stuff again.

Bored? Heck there's dishes in the sink, lawn needs to be mowed, feed the horses, clean your room
...when *I* was a kid I had to clean the house with a bag of dirt, because buckets and soap hadn't been invented yet!!!


Sheesh, the kids nowadays...don't know a good thing when it stares 'em in the face!![ /elderly relative voice]

<--dear ol' grampa)

I can hardly wait until life gets "boring"...it'll free up my time and energy to actually DO something about it.

Boredom is a choice.  Period. 

I choose to live a life of fun, passion and gratitude.  I make every effort to keep my inner radar attuned for the next adventure, the next passion, the next path of joyous expansion.

Joseph Campbell said it best:  "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."

Quote from: Miharu Barbie on January 23, 2015, 01:40:26 PM
Boredom is a choice.  Period. 

I choose to live a life of fun, passion and gratitude.  I make every effort to keep my inner radar attuned for the next adventure, the next passion, the next path of joyous expansion.

Joseph Campbell said it best:  "Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors where there were only walls."

Miharu, I could not have said it better myself.  I feel my life is complete regardless of whatever medical procedure I am contemplating. The procedure does not make my life --  "I" make my life :-)

Heavens, after a brilliantly interesting year of exploration and transition, it's just so nice now to arrive at home and know that I'm simply a normal girl who wants to get into her pyjamas and eat chocolate.

But yes, I made my first ever new year resolutions.  Not because I'm scared of being bored, but because I really wanted to return to some of my interests, like reading, cooking and languages, which all took a back seat during a year long whirlwind of therapists, medics, electrolysis and social validation.

To me it did not become boring. I am getting a chance many do not get for a do over in life! I was just born last year and have a big world to explore and things to learn and experience. Boring? No. Exciting and new? BIG YES!! Life is what YOU make it.

Life is never boring if you have a guitar.

For me it seems to be about phases and cycles. Sometimes I'll be rapidly creating, learning, contributing like there is no tomorrow. Sometimes I'll be recharging, rebuilding, and enjoying the simple things.. Almost like phases of the moon. I have learned to be aware where I am mood wise as to not make obligations that push me too far outside of what I need/want from life at that time.

I could not be productive day in and day out, I think at some point I would feel "juiced" and likely crash into depression. I have always thought a big reason why I am generally a happy person is that I do not force myself in any direction. I have to want to go that direction first. This of course in moderation, because sometimes it is necessary to push the envelope a little bit... just not too much, or I become overloaded, stifled, and eventually bored.

And sorry to get all hippie up in here, but strangely enough it does frequently relate to the phase of the moon

Depends on what you mean by "boring," I guess. I say my life is boring now, but in a good way. I have all sorts of mundane things to focus on (my job, my hobbies, our cats that I love, hockey games, etc.) and that's exactly what I hoped for - that I'd get back to having a normal life post-transition.

I think life is as exciting as you make it, and as you want. Me personally, I like quiet, but there's no reason someone who wanted to be a party girl or world traveler after transition couldn't be.

Quote from: Beth Andrea on January 23, 2015, 01:30:24 PM
Bored? Heck there's dishes in the sink, lawn needs to be mowed, feed the horses, clean your room
...when *I* was a kid I had to clean the house with a bag of dirt, because buckets and soap hadn't been invented yet!!!

I can hardly wait until life gets "boring"...it'll free up my time and energy to actually DO something about it.

That's my thoughts, I'm a housewife, don't get time to be bored, preparing and cooking meals, cleaning, dusting and polishing, laundry basket keeping filling up with my husband's shirts and socks, then ironing, grocery shopping etc a woman's work is never done, not boring, just uneventful, mundane side of a woman's life.

I sure hope transition ends and I have more resources to devote to thriving as a ordinary human being... I've got things to build, people to love and places to go. Transition is necessary but kind of in the way of all of that right now.

Transition is a pain.  I would rather devote my time to things I enjoy rather than dealing with the problems and fallout associated with transition.

Maybe the drama queen type gets pleasure out of running around telling everyone that she is trans, but I suspect that fir most of us it is not something to be desired

There are simply too many things to do, too much fun to be had without getting stuck in the trans ghetto

Quote from: ashley_thomas on January 24, 2015, 08:48:39 AM
I sure hope transition ends and I have more resources to devote to thriving as a ordinary human being... I've got things to build, people to love and places to go. Transition is necessary but kind of in the way of all of that right now.

Yeah this.

I just want it to be over with and live my life.