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Valentines, flowers and my wife

Started by JLT1, February 14, 2015, 06:30:59 PM

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JLT1

I suppose it's time for an update on my situation with my wife.  One year ago, she swore divorce.  The insults were terrible and cutting – abusive applies.  But I love her and I understand where she is coming from, she married what she thought was a man.  We loved, we shared, we worked together, cried together and danced together.  But I wasn't the man she married.

Over the next few months, there were fights and tears.   She left three times.  Lawyers were called and proceedings started.  Then, she began to accept, just a little.  Less abuse and more questions. We talked...I like women.  She didn't understand as women like men.  Her emotions went cyclic, one day there was some support and another day she would lash out.  There was fear as she watched her husband leave each day as I became more Jennifer.  She also saw my struggles and my successes.  She finally figured out that I really didn't have a choice.

Over time she came to learn that I have a "core" that did not change.  I am the same in many ways to the person she married.  I look very different but the core remains.  We started talking even more.  She said "I'm sorry".  During the fights, I could get less than nice.  I said "I'm sorry". We forgave each other.  We still struggle at times. 

Yesterday, I got these at work.  She delivered them to the front desk.   I'm keeping the shoe forever.

There is still a lot of work to do.  But, it's getting better.  Thought I would share something good....

Hugs,

Jennifer

To move forward is to leave behind that which has become dear. It is a call into the wild, into becoming someone currently unknown to us. For most, it is a call too frightening and too challenging to heed. For some, it is a call to be more than we were capable of being, both now and in the future.
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LordKAT

Seems she is someone worth fighting for (or with). I hope things continue in a positive way for you both.
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Kaydee

I am happy for you that it is getting better.  Hopefully you'll have many more Valentine's Days together.
Aimee





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Devlyn

Big hug! That is lovely, and if you haven't outdone it yet, you still have 3 1/2 hours of Valentine's Day left!

Hugs, Devlyn
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Jill F

Awesome. Just. Awesome!

Flowers make me happy too, especially when they're from my wonderful wife.
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ImagineKate

This is great!

My wife sent me flowers on Valentine's Day when I started my current job about 8 years ago. The ladies in the office were in awe but puzzled why a man would get flowers. Oh I felt like such a girl and it was wonderful lol.

Now my wife and I had our fights but she's hugging me more and more and we have far fewer arguments. She even hugs me when I'm wearing a dress and previously she'd put her hands in front of her eyes not to look at me.

I'm happy to have some acceptance though.
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JLT1

Thank you everyone....

Lord KAT: She is indeed worth fighting for...fighting with, not so much..she's awfully good at it.

Kaydee: Thank you. It really seems to be possible. 

Devlyn:  I missed you.  She got something very, very nice that she has wanted for a very long time....

Jill:  I like flowers.  But I really like that she knows that and sent them to me....

I forgot to mention, when she dropped them off at the desk, she said they were for Dr. Jennifer XXXXXXX.  They said they needed to confirm I was in the building.  She said she was positive because "She is my husband."  I think that is cool.

Hugs to all,

Jennifer
To move forward is to leave behind that which has become dear. It is a call into the wild, into becoming someone currently unknown to us. For most, it is a call too frightening and too challenging to heed. For some, it is a call to be more than we were capable of being, both now and in the future.
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Eva Marie

The flowers are very lovely Jennifer, as is your wife - She is definitely a keeper!

I wish I could say the same about my ex - today would have been our 28th wedding anniversary, but she just couldn't accept that I wasn't going to change and she didn't stick around to see the new me. Oh well, her loss  :P

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