I've been having a lot of trouble with hanging out with guys since 4-5th grade. I'm in 8th grade. 3-4th grade i hung out with guys but some girls, and ever since i have been just friends with girls. But i need some guy friends. I hate talking about boys and sex and weird stuff with the girls in my grade because all they talk about is stuff i dont care about. I have some 7th grade friends but i want some friends my age. My problem is i'm shy. All the guys exept me but they don't pay any attention to me. Like today in the locker room some guys were hitting each other with belts, and another guy climbed on top of the lockers and i really wannted to join in but i was to scared and shy so i just laughed. I kindof earned some cred with them when i kicked butt in hockey...but idk. More than anything i want dude friends. Please help.

Hi eli Bottom line, QUIT BEING SHY, Its No Fun being Shy, Jump in, Cause a Little trouble, Have fun   I was Shy too in High School, then I Told Myself, hey A Hole, being SHY is no fun, Heck with that Noise,  Just be out going, Push yourself to be more aggressive, the biggest thing, DONT EVER feel Rejected by No One, Just Know that you are a good person, and If another person does not want to be with you, then its their loss, not yours, dont ever feel intimidated or brow Beaten, you do the Intimidation Bowl over people, in a nice way, tell people to get out of your way, or they will be ran over LOL, Hope that helps, and i know it will, because thats what I did Take Care, Chellie

Just Remember that Guys are just a bunch of big kids, no matter how old they get

Quote from: eli8282 on February 23, 2015, 01:42:49 PM
More than anything i want dude friends. Please help.

Some ideas:
* Introduce yourself. Practice if you need to.
* Think of some topics to talk about. Maybe there was a sports event, news event, happening in your school, job, or community.
* Ask about people. Be interested.
* Compliment people. Even guys like to be complimented.

Good luck. We're here if you need us.

As somebody who had to study and work really hard to overcome my nerdy ness to "fit in" with boys for a long time...it is really this simple:

Dont. Give. A. S**t.

That's it from my experience. Some may give you complex th eories on acting alpha and some such...but it really comes down to two things...respect...and confidence. And the easiest way of earning those from others....is to not care about others...and be confident in yourself And your own ability and knowledge. Don't let yourself be talked down to, and do let yourself be heard. And sometimes...especially earlier ages what with hormones raging and all...it may unfortunately come to physically backing it up. But I've heard more stories of boys who fight over something...and afterwards become really close friends BECAUSE of it...because they saw that both each other believe in themselves and their honor, and will defend it proudly.

So to repeat...

Confidence. And not caring so much what others think.

Some will be weirded out. Some will love your brass ones. Others will walk away. But you will be yourself and you will find friends with similar values.

Just my 0.54 cents (2 cents after taxes)

I am not too sure, but I think the easiest way of making guy friends is having a mutual interest. I'm pre everything MTF, so I guess I know from experience. It also depends on who you want to be friends with. If I remember I'll add a bit more.

I'm super shy also, but with guys the easiest way to make friends is to be confident. Being shy means you miss out. So idk, push through the shyness.

Okay, I've finally remembered, so here are what I think might help:
-I think guys appreciate honesty, so don't make yourself something you aren't just to make friends
-If you're exactly like them, as in you dress the same, talk the same, act the same and think the same, they'll probably accept you. Although, I doubt that you want that, and it kinda contradicts my previous statement, but whatever
-The obvious one is be boyish
-Also, be who you want. I think they will respect who you want to be, but there are obviously exceptions to this, as there is to almost everything.
-Be careful. You don't want to fall in with the "wrong" people. I would personally consider them the people that cause trouble, smoke, do drugs or bring guns to school(US and other applicable countries).

I based these points on what the boys here, in my town in Ireland, specifically County Dublin, so this may or may not be helpful [emoji14] But I hope it does help!
-Winter (Still semi-indecisive)