So im having my wedding in August.  Going as male but was thinking of just coming out to the rest of my family at the end of the reception or w/e.  I don't know though because I don't want it to be about me.  A lot of people know im trans, just not most of my religious family.  By then I will be 7 months HRT and im pretty sure im going to be showing quite a bit.  Its all confusing at this point.  Has anyone been through anything like this?  I am looking for some advice.

My fiances family already know, and my older brother knows.  But my little brother and parents don't.  Aunts and uncles don't either.  But all my friends pretty much know so im thinking of going androgynous.  I just dont know if its going to be a good time to be like... by the way.. or hey guys guess what.. or someone at the party spilling the beans before hand.

If I come out before then I don't want the wedding to be some huge drama fest about me either.

Total guests to the ceremony is going to be like 30 people, and we expect 60 or so to be at the reception.  We also want to have it outside in our back yard to be cheaper.

A few other points, I do get sad at times because I want to be in a dress looking the way I feel but I know it takes time.  Also its easier if we get married first before the gender marker change happens.

I think my best bet is to be andro.. But who knows how Ill feel by then.

Quote from: Nikki_Taz on March 30, 2015, 07:31:30 PM
So im having my wedding in August.  Going as male but was thinking of just coming out to the rest of my family at the end of the reception or w/e.  I don't know though because I don't want it to be about me.  A lot of people know im trans, just not most of my religious family.  By then I will be 7 months HRT and im pretty sure im going to be showing quite a bit.  Its all confusing at this point.  Has anyone been through anything like this?  I am looking for some advice.

Have fun on your wedding day . I was worried about showing before I was ready to come out. While there were obvious changes at seven months, people did not notice the changes (or said anything). I understand how uncomfortable it feels to present andro on your big day when you would rather wear a dress. What you have in mind looks like a reasonable way of minimizing any problems from others.

Congrats on the marriage. Coming out at the wedding might require a lot more explaining than you are able to provide. It is up to you but it seems like coming out to family is generally a bit more private and intimate. I suppose a lot of it depends on how close you are to them.