just hypothetically  if a random stranger or a short term acquaintance just came right out and asked if you transgender would you hesitate to admit to it or not answer or just say no or just say yes. I'm not sure  because I think it would be rare for someone to just come out and ask, but I do know people that wouldn't hesitate asking. I think I'd probably say yes at this point because I'm closing in on 2 years of hormones and I'd figure what's the point of denying.

I certainly would. Don't believe in hiding it.

I am way early in my process.

Maybe I'm kidding myself but I think I would say yes.

Now, if a co-worker asked...?

at this stage...and way early for me as well, I wouldn't advertise it. But if someone who looked safe asked me, I be completely honest.

complete denial for me because o hate people in my business. if they don't need to know, than they don't need to know. if it was medically relevant however, than I might disclose that information

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I don't know, it would depend on who asked, and how they asked it. I don't have a problem volunteering that I am trans if it is relevant to the situation (i.e. Healthcare provider, etc.).

To a random person I just met and had a nice chat with - now, yes. When I go full time, the answer will be - probably not, I'd reserve it for long term acquaintances who need to know.

For a random person coming out of the blue that is just not a subject available for discussion.

Really depends on the person, the situation, how they ask, what mood I'm in - chances are though I'd tell them to mind their own business.

I'm a pretty in-your-face sort of person, so I wouldn't hesitate. But I also wouldn't hesitate with a little follow-up that called the person out for not understanding that that sort of question is inappropriate.

It would definitely depend on the person, situation and my mood. I could very easily be inclined to tell them to mind their own business or to share it with them.
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I would, because I want to know what made them suspect that I'm trans.

Nope. I've reached a point in my life where I believe that, other than a doctor or someone in a romantic relationship, it's nobody's damn business.

Depends on the circumstances. If someone were legitimately curious about being transgender, it may be I would be the only trans person who would be willing to educate them first hand (which is the best way to be educated). Or if it was someone I was becoming friends with, I wouldn't hide that part of my past from them (and face it, most of my past was as a male).

If someone just wanted to see whether their guess and my gender history was correct, I would try to avoid giving them the satisfaction.

Definitely NOT! That is NOT an appropriate question to be asking someone.

Hmm ...

Given that transgender/transsexualism is finally hitting mainstream consciousness (which is *great* for us) ....

I think it's more than likely and perfectly reasonable for people to be curious, and to ask questions.

I think they *do* have that right. This is why I will never let it offend me.

I don't tell people. Only people I would tell are fellow trans people or known allies.

In fact on Facebook my old "friends" are adding me and they don't know I'm trans because they don't recognize me then say transphobic things. They get unfriended right away. They think I'm my wife or cousin or something.

Quote from: SarahBoo on June 14, 2015, 05:40:37 AM
I think they *do* have that right. This is why I will never let it offend me.

Well, I see it being more of a medical issue than anything. That's why I feel that no one has the right to know if they ask me. I'm not going to blab about my other medical issues to people. So, why would I feel the need to talk about this one?

It would depend on how they ask me. If it was polite and courteous I would be happy to answer their question. If they didn't ask that way I would leave them more confused that when they approached me. I don't have problems with people knowing about me but I want to be known for my personality and not my medical history because my medical history is 33 years old but I work on my personality every day.

To me its more of a situational thing.

If a complete random stranger walked up and asked me if I was trans I would deny it because I don't know what their motivation is for asking - they may want to harm me. At any rate it's none of their business and it's rude to ask a complete stranger that kind of a question and they can just move along.

If it's someone I know and I believe that they would be accepting then I'll share a "lite" version of it to gauge their reaction. If it is a good reaction then I might share more with them later. This is along Suzi's line to educate people which I believe in.

As an example of that - I have a coworker thats been suddenly full of questions and I've taken the time to thoughtfully answer most of them; some of them were "those" kind of questions and I simply told him that they weren't appropriate qestions and why they weren't appropriate questions and that they were out of my comfort zone. I later found out that the reason that he was asking is because he has a niece that's recently come out as FTM and has begun the process of transitioning and he was looking at me as a resource to answer his questions. He has taken what i've told him and has shared that with his family. I have taken the stigma, the weirdness, and the shame out of it for him.

If it's a really good, close friend I might share the whole enchilada knowing that they would support me.

Completely situationally dependent and how threatened or safe I felt.