Quote from: KristinaM on September 06, 2015, 01:04:09 PM
I'd say between 3 and 4, but that's mainly b/c you're just not my type. :-P In pictures at least, you look great to me. Try to be happy, I'm sorry that you're having self confidence issues.

Well between 3 and 4 it's good enough for me thank you....Sorry that I'm not your type though

Cristal, dear, you are more beautiful than I could ever hope to be. 

I'm sorry your path has been so filled with pain, but you cannot change the past.  From the looks of it you have survived and flourished. Take some pride in that. Were I to meet you in person, I would gladly be your friend, and I think many on this forum would feel the same way.

With kindness,

Terri

Cristal, not a thing wrong sweetie!

Quote from: MsMarlo on September 06, 2015, 03:05:37 PM
Cristal, not a thing wrong sweetie!

MsMario thank you for your answer you look very very hot too, very tempting

Not sure what you want people to say. I am still the same person. Still quiet and still a tangled mess. Appearance has nothing to do will happiness.


Paula, <3 X.

Quote from: paula lesley on September 06, 2015, 03:59:32 PM
Not sure what you what people to say. I am still the same person. Still quiet and still a tangled mess. Appearance has nothing to do will happiness.


Paula, <3 X

I'm not sure to understand with your english, but from what I've understood just know that I did my transition NOT to be happy but to BE MYSELF. There's unhappy and insecure cis women and cis men, happiness is not triggered by one's gender. And yes I've had a very difficult past that was the consequence of my gender dysphoria. Transitioning has made the things easier to be me, but a transition doesn't bring happiness on every aspect of your life, it just correct what's wrong, after that it's up to you to try to be happy (which is not easy in our societies where trans people are turned into ridicules, or worse assimilated to ->-bleeped-<-s, and it's so hard to find people who will love you both sentimentally and physically)

Mine makes sense now 



I'm transitioning to be happy. If other people have a problem with it ? well I just don't give a *uck. But having said that. I am fully aware that I have made the change and I know some people will never accept me. It's their loss. Life's for living.


Paula, <3 X.

Dyslexic and roudp 

Pretty beautiful!! Omgomgomg! If I could I'd sooo date you hard then marry the crap out of you. And did I add that I'm also jealous? I'm totally fan-girling over here. Seriously,  I wouldn't have picked you were trans. I see a happy beautiful cisgender woman in your photos.

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100% no doubt...ur gorgeous

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Quote from: paula lesley on September 06, 2015, 05:47:26 PM
Mine makes sense now 



I'm transitioning to be happy. If other people have a problem with it ? well I just don't give a *uck. But having said that. I am fully aware that I have made the change and I know some people will never accept me. It's their loss. Life's for living.


Paula, <3 X.

Dyslexic and roudp 

If you transition to be happy you will fail, transitioning is ONLY a way to get yourself the keys to happiness it's NOT happiness itself. Any shrinks will tell you that, and most of the girls here will too.

First of all, even knowing your background... I don't see a single thing that would make me think anything but 110% woman. And a very pretty one at that (I'm being honest, you have a really nice face). If I met you on the street, and You said you're trans and if I didn't know better I would think you were joking or lying to make a point of some sort. You're just a woman, full stop.

For myself as well, I am transitioning to be myself. I still have depression. I'm still messed up. There's more to my life's problems than my gender. And I agree that doing anything in life is not an "answer" to happiness in and of itself (getting married, finding a job, having money etc). On the other hand, for some people the gender issues are a significant source of their unhappiness so transitioning could be something to help treat the sadness. And that has been seen before where a person's depression is treated by the transition. It's not a sure thing though if there are other issues as well. So I think I get what Paula is saying too =) we all have different paths and there are few things that are black and white. Well, I may be wrong, but that's just how I see it. ^^

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I think you are  beautiful... we can all be very envious of your look.

Cristal ? ( sorry I do not know your name ? ) Happiness is a relative term. Success is a relative term. I have never met you, you do not know me, you are talking bollocks.

You are fully aware ( I hope !) of the pain and self loathing we have all felt.

To be alive is all I need. To feel; even the sadness of life, is better than killing one's self. I am me, I am complete for the first time in my life. I am HAPPY. Not your " happy " my " happy " .

Peace.

Paula 

Quote from: paula lesley on September 08, 2015, 05:49:47 AM
Cristal ? ( sorry I do not know your name ? ) Happiness is a relative term. Success is a relative term. I have never met you, you do not know me, you are talking bollocks.

You are fully aware ( I hope !) of the pain and self loathing we have all felt.

To be alive is all I need. To feel; even the sadness of life, is better than killing one's self. I am me, I am complete for the first time in my life. I am HAPPY. Not your " happy " my " happy " .

Peace

Paula 

Being happy of transitioning is one thing, but what about after doing it? What happiness will you experience once your transition is done???

So you see transition is not happiness it's just a transitory period of your life to "cure" gender dysphoria

Same goes with being a man or a woman, being this or that doesn't imply happiness on a the scale of a entire life.

Being happy to be yourself is one thing, but will NOT insure your well being on a everyday basis. Which women will you be? What job will you do ? Will you be able to be in a relationship, knowing that most cisgender people don't want to date trans women (especially if they have vaginoplasty)? What will be your future as a human being ?

I've experienced every single thing you've mentioned, ever since my childhood, but it's not because I've experienced that, that I want to play the victimisation card and not being clever on what are the best ways to remain sane and most importantly LUCID and what was my situation.

My transition is 13 years behind me, I know stuff by experience and again confirmed so many times by others women with a trans past.

Apparently you can't take the thing I'm saying TO YOU, the necessary warnings needed to be said, to make you think, I don't give a rat's ass to "be right" I just know I'm and I was offering my knowledge.

PS: my full transition only lasted 17 months

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( I did type lots but I fear it was pointless)

Quote from: Cristal Lecter on September 04, 2015, 08:43:12 AM
Hi girls

13 years post transition, I'm still very insecure (even if I hide it well most of the time)

Please can you tell me what you think of me, based on these few photos and selfies? Thank you

And if you can rank me:  1) Ugly 2) Average 3) Pretty 4) Beautiful

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Very beautiful

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You are absolutely gorgeous

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I give you a 4!

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On the happy thing... I did mine to be happy. Yes. But I also had the "macro view." I knew I had to make money so I finished my engineering degree and went to graduate school. I made sure I could pass well enough to get a job in my chosen career. That was a big deal in the late 80's. it isn't so much now. I made sure I could provide for my children. I had no clue how I'd live on what was left over, but I managed.

I think that planning your future is the key thing. We all know that plans always change but at least if you have a plan to pursue, you at least have direction and motivation to be successful. I believe that is true across the board for all people, not just us.

And Cristal, I still think you are lovely. You look happy too.

Cindi