Yes I've been rehearsing.

Mom I have something important to tell you. I'm transgender. It's something I've known since I was at least age 8 but something I've only recently been able to accept. When I was a child, I used to fall asleep sobbing and praying to wake up a girl. That obviously never happened so the way I worked it out is that I had a female soul and I just had to live a good male life and then I could spend the rest of eternity as my true self. After Dana (childhood friend) died, I questioned the after life. I've evolved over time to believe there probably isn't a heaven. For me and my childhood resolution this presented a big problem, it meant that I would never be the girl I knew myself to be in my soul.

Mom you saw the effects of this in my death anxiety I've battled my whole adult life, but no one ever knew about this aspect of it. It's something I've suppressed my whole life and I'm tired of it all. I just want to be myself, a woman.

That's the main thrust of my statement to her.

I think its very good 

Wish you luck 

Thanks. I have a friend and my therapist on standby in case things go wrong but I think everything will go ok.

Quote from: KatelynBG on October 21, 2015, 01:11:04 PM
Thanks. I have a friend and my therapist on standby in case things go wrong but I think everything will go ok.

Keep thinking positive...

maybe you two hugging each other 


*hugs*

So tomorrow is the day. I wasn't nervous about it until this morning. Deep breaths, deep breaths. I was so nervous about it my pace on my morning run was a whole minute per mile faster than usual and I didn't even realise it.

Good luck C:

Here is just my own twopence:

Don't be insecure. Make the most positive and confident impression you possibly can. If she brings negative preconceptions into your encounter, it may help her feel that you won't be a pathetic, ridiculed heap of misery but rather a strong, proud, beautiful, happy and wise woman.

Show her that you have made up your mind. Make sure she understands that no part of the burden of making the decision lies on her. Don't let her assume even for one second that you are asking for her permission.

Let her understand that you are not as much running away from a bad situation, but rather towards your own life, finally as yourself.

Don't allow her to think that her insecurity and inconvenience hold up in any way against what you had to go through.

Good luck, Katelyn, I wish you love, understanding and acceptance.

You are ready, show it to her!

Thank you all for your support, it all happens today. I am strangely at peace this morning about what is forthcoming. I am confident that it will all go well. I'll update later if people are interested.

Good luck Honey.

Thinking of you.

Cindy

best of luck - it is a difficult conversation to have - while you might want to ask mom not share it with your dad don't expect or require her to keep it totally secret - she will need to talk with someone about it also just as you do - it takes time and effort for everyone to deal with the issue so let her have the opportunity also

be well - best wishes
jenifer

My mom chose to tell everyone after I told her, it was like she was trying to get everyone to harass me so I would change my mind.

So It went really well. It was emotional but she loves me no matter what. I'll post more later but I'm feeling really good right now.

Quote from: KatelynBG on October 25, 2015, 01:43:46 PM
So It went really well. It was emotional but she loves me no matter what. I'll post more later but I'm feeling really good right now.

Congratulations 

Quote from: KatelynBG on October 25, 2015, 01:43:46 PM
So It went really well. It was emotional but she loves me no matter what. I'll post more later but I'm feeling really good right now.

Congratulations! I know how you're feeling I told my mom aswell a few days ago with great results

glad it went so well for you - it is always so much easier once those around us know and their support is just icing on the cake

be well
jenifer

Ok so my mom knew ahead of time that I had something important to tell her. We sat down and ordered and chatted until the food came. I took one bite and she's like "so what did you want to tell me?" I stuttered a bit and tears rushed to my eyes. I couldn't get it out. So I collected myself and slowly worked myself into it. I began by telling her that my therapist and I got to the root of my death anxiety and I explained why. She was speechless. Tears were forming at the corner of her eyes. I looked at her and said "Surprised, huh?"

She admitted that she was but still remembered back in high school when I first came out to her and she always wondered if that would be the last she heard about that. So we launched into a long discussion about my plans and my marriage. I told her about a lot of things I remember from my childhood that she never knew and she shared some things with me that I didn't remember. She kept saying little things that make sense now.

She held both of my hands across the table the whole time and that was really nice, she's never done that before. As we were leaving we stopped and had a BIG hug. Afterwards we went for a long drive and kept chatting. So initially she has given me lots of love and a bit of awkwardness. She'll needs some time to process but I don't expect nothing but love and support from mom.

So I emailed my mom with some trans resources because she mentioned that she has a lot to learn. Her response was to say that she needed time to work through it all but then said "Work on standing up straighter and always be proud of yourself. Love MOM"

Such a mom response, I love her.

Give her my hugs for being awesome! <3

Quote from: KatelynBG on October 25, 2015, 05:49:34 PM
So I emailed my mom with some trans resources because she mentioned that she has a lot to learn. Her response was to say that she needed time to work through it all but then said "Work on standing up straighter and always be proud of yourself. Love MOM"

Such a mom response, I love her.

Thats a nice answer 


hugs

I had a particularly hard day yesterday with the dysphoria and my mom noticed on the phone that something was wrong and got me talking. Then she said something like "You are so brave to finally try to live the life you've always wanted. It's not going to be easy and a lot of people won't accept you. But you should be proud of who you are."

Amazing.