Look for a California King bed size - they're about 4" longer than the standard length of the queen and king sizes. (Though many double beds are ~5" shorter than king/queen, so it's possible that will be enough upgrade already.)

Quote from: blueconstancy on November 06, 2014, 07:03:19 AM
Look for a California King bed size - they're about 4" longer than the standard length of the queen and king sizes. (Though many double beds are ~5" shorter than king/queen, so it's possible that will be enough upgrade already.)

Cool thank you.

I saw those one time, but I do not think the master bedroom is big enough for such a monster bed.

Will have to buy new sheet sets too and Jess is currently teasing me about getting some bright pink cotton ones.

There was a big commotion yesterday morning.

Jess was leaving our place to go to work. When one of my neighbours (a right old bitch) called her some obscene names and further stated she did not want her grandchildren exposed to Jess's "like".

Apparently she had seen Jess walking from the pool in a two piece bathing suit and had been able to see "everything hanging out".

Jess takes every effort to dress and "pack" appropriately in public but seeing as the pool in question is in our backyard behind a 6ft solid colour bond fence and a sizable hedge that's even bigger, she may have not had everything settled.

My neighbour lives in a two story next-door and when the observance was explained in full explicit detail I can clearly recall how Jess looked coming out of the pool. Rather excited about what we were going to be doing very soon in the bedroom.

Jess was most upset, and when I went to intervene the old cow called me a sissy etc. and that I would make a good wife etc. It was heavily alluded to that she knew what we got up to in our bedroom and gave examples to growing crowd.

At the time we just walked away. I'm unsure if that was the wisest choice, but the looks people were giving us just made me cringe.

Today Jess is still quite upset and apparently from what I gathered from the other neighbours (the ones who are our friends), news of the incident and alluded explicit nature of our relationship has spread.

I so do not know what to do. I'm angry and sad. I'm there for Jess but it feels like everything is crashing down on us.

Wow.  Someone has too much time on her hands.  And it's NOT Jess.  Politely inform your neighbor that what happens in your private backyard is none of her damn business.

Hugs to both of you.  Stay strong.

Very sorry to hear about your ignorant neighbors, I am very fortunate to live in a very accepting neighborhood and quite frankly not give a ->-bleeped-<- if anyone had anything to say about my personal life anyway. Just continue to support her and let her know their opinions are none of your business. If it's truly problematic, then it may be time to move.

I also wanted to add, reading your story was really inspirational.  So many times it seems like there's so much negativity - the nature of support groups I suppose. I'm a cis female and have been with my TG boyfriend for about six months. I adore him and things are complex sometimes so it's really uplifting to read stories like this. Thank you! And I'm glad that your relationship is on track.


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Quote from: Regina on April 21, 2015, 12:13:06 PM
Very sorry to hear about your ignorant neighbors, I am very fortunate to live in a very accepting neighborhood and quite frankly not give a ->-bleeped-<- if anyone had anything to say about my personal life anyway.

This is the first incident of the like I have ever been involved in. Incident may be the wrong word; this is the first occurrence of such a thing happening to me and Jess while we have been together.

A lot of our neighbours are older, more rigid in their ways. We don't have many dealings with them as we are both younger. The ones we do get on with already knew of our relationship and they are "okay with us".

But even after living in the street for as long as I have I really only know ten out of the eighty or so people living nearby.

I hate to use the phrase "grin and bear it", but that is what I hope we can do and I know that if we continue to love each other, that love I personally trust will pull us through together and we will be stronger for it.

As I just messaged to someone. "Enjoy being who you want to be. Live as you want to be. Grow as one, love as one."

Quote from: HarryWest on April 21, 2015, 10:30:21 PM
I hate to use the phrase "grin and bear it", but that is what I hope we can do and I know that if we continue to love each other, that love I personally trust will pull us through together and we will be stronger for it.

Well things seem to have settled down.

Jess is still feeling uneasy.

I'm unsure as to what to do in the long run.

We have been having a very bad week.

On top of the issues we are still having with our neighbour, or should I say, neighbours as a few others have raised comments.

Things have been really getting to me and Jess in general.

Just trying to block out the world outside our front door is just so damn hard.

Quote from: HarryWest on June 25, 2015, 07:29:50 AM
We have been having a very bad week.

On top of the issues we are still having with our neighbour, or should I say, neighbours as a few others have raised comments.

Things have been really getting to me and Jess in general.

Just trying to block out the world outside our front door is just so damn hard.

I have yet to find in the paper "Old lady kills couple with her scowling!" 

Ive lived in my neighborhood for 15 years.  All my neighbors know about me, even the nutty religious ones!  (I mean nutty when they put god before a real person..)  Its a good way to weed out the bad people.  Besides, do these people feed or protect you?  Do you wake up wanting to see them everyday? 

I can only say, be a good neighbor, smile.  If thats not good enough for them, just put them in the "bad neighbor" category and dont invite them over or even look at them.

If things may get questionable, get a couple recording cameras to put up where they can cause damage.  Sometimes bad neighbors will do stupid things to your mailbox(hopefully).  A clear recording will keep them out of your hair for years to come while they are being shamed by the law:) But do record things, esp if you do find a real nut who may threaten your life.  A good recording will take all of that away!

Sorry I cannot offer better advise, but there are always going to be (terrorists) out there.  You dont negotiate with terrorists!  But most terrorists, no matter how stupid or religious they are, dont like to be recorded committing hate crimes..  Love should always win, imagine if you gave up due to this old toad, and she croaked the next day. 

Good luck, and record!   the terrorists that is, unless you are just wanting to be kinky;)

Quote from: Cynobyte on June 25, 2015, 08:06:11 AM
Sorry I cannot offer better advise, but there are always going to be (terrorists) out there.  You dont negotiate with terrorists!  But most terrorists, no matter how stupid or religious they are, dont like to be recorded committing hate crimes..  Love should always win, imagine if you gave up due to this old toad, and she croaked the next day. 

Sadly she is in fine health and fine form of late.

We have cams but our terrorists are too posh to get their hands dirty, only using their tongues.

It's just getting to us. It's getting to me something chronic. Total bastard of a thing!

We have have had words with the COPS but until local ordinances get broken or things get threatening there is not a thing that can be done per se.

I really wish it was straight up bullying (face to face and fists) and not all this snide comments and innuendo filled talk over the fence or via gossip and Facebook.

Its just crap. Just words that hurt and make you feel sad and... annoyed.

I took Jess down to the Gold Coast for the weekend to get her mind off things, private room for two with spa and ocean views.

But all Jess could fixate on was the old biddy's parting jibe as we left. Namely how Jess should be careful not to catch STD's etc. while we are away.

Really killed the mood and Jess was not the only one unable to perform later that night. That upset us both in a new and unique way. Our sex life is beginning to suffer.

It just is getting us down... need to really de-stress and get this solved... and soon.

Things seem to be on the improve. The old bitch has vacated out lives and things have returned to the way they were before all the ->-bleeped-<- started to occur.

It was a bit touch and go there for a while but we managed to weather her tirades and are back to being happy.

A nice neighborhood development......

Quote from: HarryWest on September 24, 2015, 06:37:18 AM
Things seem to be on the improve. The old bitch has vacated out lives and things have returned to the way they were before all the ->-bleeped-<- started to occur.

It was a bit touch and go there for a while but we managed to weather her tirades and are back to being happy.

I'm glad she moved out, I was going to suggest to just kiss her and walk away. That should of silenced her. 

Quote from: Kyra553 on September 26, 2015, 10:24:57 AM
I'm glad she moved out, I was going to suggest to just kiss her and walk away. That should of silenced her. 

Oh I never said she moved out. I said she she vacated our lives.

I feel kinda down at the moment.

I'm not sure how my relationship with Jess is working out. When we were having trouble with our neighbours our emotional connection blossomed but now that things have calmed it is out sexual connection that is causing me pause.

Our sex life has been causing difficulties as I am still having quite a bit of discomfort when Jess has sex with me.

She is so forceful and I constantly feel like I'm being ripped apart.

The sex is great but it is still very painful when I am on the receiving end of things.

We have decided to go away for the Melbourne Cup in November.

Work provided me marquee tickets and a hotel for the part of the week, a perk for all the extra stuff we've been able to pull off this quarter.

Jess has leave and has spent the day scouring queen street mall for a dress to take away with her but she says she is having bad luck so late in the season (or something like that).

Thought I still have little idea what a fascinator is or how it exactly works.

Have never been to a corporate marquee before, only ever been on the ground race day.

Quote from: HarryWest on October 20, 2015, 09:54:35 AM
We have decided to go away for the Melbourne Cup in November.

Work provided me marquee tickets and a hotel for the part of the week, a perk for all the extra stuff we've been able to pull off this quarter.

Jess has leave and has spent the day scouring queen street mall for a dress to take away with her but she says she is having bad luck so late in the season (or something like that).

Thought I still have little idea what a fascinator is or how it exactly works.

Have never been to a corporate marquee before, only ever been on the ground race day.

Bags are packed and Jess has picked out an enticing dress. All good to go.

Did you find out what a fascinator is?

Quote from: Peep on October 28, 2015, 08:30:18 AM
Did you find out what a fascinator is?

Sadly I did and it is fascinating.

So excited for tomorrow. Well today considering what time it is right now.