HI Sarah,

Thanks for your reply, it reduced me to tears, because it was so touching and I'm an emotional mess right now. Your wife's fears, were also mine, but unfortunately mine came part way true in discussion form, but I cannot stay put, as I know now that I will just get hurt.
I know in time I will get over this, as people say time heals everything. I also hope one day I find a person to have an amazing life with again and ultimately gain the family I so wish to have. I feel saddened this has happened as well, I don't know if I will truly ever understand, why things changed for him:her to suggest an open relationship in the future. I still can feel the pain I felt when he:her discussed it with me, I pray in time that pain will subside. I miss him (and her) like nothing I have ever felt before:(

Your are all amazing people. As I journey on in life, I will keep you all posted. To be honest this has opened my eyes up, and I would be more then happy to become an advocate of Trans Gender people in New Zealand, I may even in the future.
Marie x

awww Jamiej, your message was truly touching. Stay strong gurl. You deserve the best of everything in this life. big hugs. Chin up

Aww thanks Clara:) I spent allot of today wondering what I can do for TG in NZ. In someway I want to help advocate:) I guess that's what I got out of this xx


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Quote from: jamiej on December 11, 2015, 03:21:03 AM
Aww thanks Clara:) I spent allot of today wondering what I can do for TG in NZ. In someway I want to help advocate:) I guess that's what I got out of this xx

Sounds like a great idea you totally should


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Marie, you truly are a wonderful person. Your partner was clearly blind to that otherwise they never would have made such a request. You make me feel like the world is a better place by reading your posts and messages.

Stay strong. We are all behind you here.

Quote from: Jayne01 on December 12, 2015, 09:41:01 PM
Marie, you truly are a wonderful person. Your partner was clearly blind to that otherwise they never would have made such a request. You make me feel like the world is a better place by reading your posts and messages.

Stay strong. We are all behind you here.

Aww thanks Jayne, you have been great through this entire process:)
I feel a wee bit better but I'm broken inside!
I love him:her like nothing I have felt before. As we are still in the same house, till we sell it or he:she buys me out... I'm wondering what it will be like without him:her.
She is here full time in the house now and I feel aweful leaving her behind:( but I know I have to put me first.... As hard as that is:(
I love him and her completely.... Very difficult.
Marie X


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Merry Christmas to everyone who followed or read my post:)
You're all wonderful people, I feel so privileged to have spoken to so many of you. It has certainly opened my eyes up to transgender people.... I think you all should be so proud of being your true self.
Merry Christmas hope everyone's day was special:)
Marie X


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Quote from: jamiej on December 25, 2015, 04:53:55 PM
Merry Christmas to everyone who followed or read my post:)
You're all wonderful people, I feel so privileged to have spoken to so many of you. It has certainly opened my eyes up to transgender people.... I think you all should be so proud of being your true self.
Merry Christmas hope everyone's day was special:)
Marie X


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Same to you 

Feel yourself hugged 

*hugs*

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Same to you 

Feel yourself hugged 

*hugs*

Thanks Laura:) X


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Consider yourself well and truly Hugged back

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Consider yourself well and truly Hugged back

ElizabethK (Sarah T)

Thanks Elizabethk:)
I'm hopeful I will get to encounter more TG people in my real world... I just find you all so honest:) 


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Today is New Year's Eve in NZ:) happy new year ladies, and again thank you all for opening my eyes to a world I knew nothing about but now fully accept.
I am going to continue following some of you:)
Marie X


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Quote from: jamiej on December 30, 2015, 05:58:49 PM
Today is New Year's Eve in NZ:) happy new year ladies, and again thank you all for opening my eyes to a world I knew nothing about but now fully accept.
I am going to continue following some of you:)
Marie X


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I am actually one of your mob and came to Australia 30 years ago...there is nothing quite like a Kiwi New Years Eve party...Great to hear you sounding so good....have a hug and kiss for New Year hope your 2016 is fantastic for you and yours

Elizabeth K (Formerly Sarah T)

Quote from: ElizabethK on December 31, 2015, 12:34:12 AM
I am actually one of your mob and came to Australia 30 years ago...there is nothing quite like a Kiwi New Years Eve party...Great to hear you sounding so good....have a hug and kiss for New Year hope your 2016 is fantastic for you and yours

Elizabeth K (Formerly Sarah T)

Thanks fellow kiwi:)
Things have gone from bad to worse for me and I'm hurting like I have never before. I truly want it to go away. I feel like rubbish.


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Quote from: jamiej on January 07, 2016, 04:59:14 AM
Thanks fellow kiwi:)
Things have gone from bad to worse for me and I'm hurting like I have never before. I truly want it to go away. I feel like rubbish.


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*hugs*

Do you have a friend or a counselor you can talk to ?

What happened in the meantime ?
Maybe you want to write about it, often writing can help, and getting a clearer view...


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I do have both.
I feel so messed up by this, one lie after the other.... All whilst I was still trying to help.
I shouldn't actually say this as I know that TG people have allot of shame in coming out and I understand that and I know that the lies are part of shame, I get that.

But it's the being hurt with one thing after the other. It's been like a hurricane of continuous pain!

I literally feel like broken mess now.
I care to much and I'm hurting so badly that I feel like I'm almost worth nothing now.
I tried so hard.....



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Quote from: jamiej on January 07, 2016, 05:23:14 AM
I do have both.
I feel so messed up by this, one lie after the other.... All whilst I was still trying to help.
I shouldn't actually say this as I know that TG people have allot of shame in coming out and I understand that and I know that the lies are part of shame, I get that.

But it's the being hurt with one thing after the other. It's been like a hurricane of continuous pain!

I literally feel like broken mess now.
I care to much and I'm hurting so badly that I feel like I'm almost worth nothing now.
I tried so hard.....



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Well its not your fault.
Just do what you feel is right  *hugs*

You might also tell them about your emotions... that those lies hurt you...

maybe its necessary to show them that its old patterns and you do not want to continue in them...

And watch out for yourself... do a few things that make you feel good (within reason)...
that can be as simple things as having a bath or making a cup of tea...


*many hugs*

Thanks Laura.
But unfortunately, I'm always to blame and nothing else matters. They don't see what they have done this time is lies or even that the timing was wrong and it has caused me immense stress.
Thanks for caring. All I can do now is put back the pieces of myself, In some form.



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Quote from: jamiej on January 07, 2016, 11:21:01 AM
Thanks Laura.
But unfortunately, I'm always to blame and nothing else matters. They don't see what they have done this time is lies or even that the timing was wrong and it has caused me immense stress.
Thanks for caring. All I can do now is put back the pieces of myself, In some form.



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*hugs*

Hope you get better soon.

There is also the chat on susans if you want to mingle with others.

*hugs and a kiss on the cheek*

Quote from: jamiej on January 07, 2016, 11:21:01 AM
Thanks Laura.
But unfortunately, I'm always to blame and nothing else matters. They don't see what they have done this time is lies or even that the timing was wrong and it has caused me immense stress.
Thanks for caring. All I can do now is put back the pieces of myself, In some form.



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Oh Jamie I feel quite sad for you as I have followed your thread for some time and I know how hard you have been trying. My wife is very supportive of me but I can still see she is prepared to waive her feeling in lieu of mine...not fair in my book, her/your feelings are just a valid.

From what I have read you have been nothing but supportive. I understand if your spouse is going through some rapid life changes as she discovers herself but it should not be at your expense...I can imagine there are any number of girls here who would love to have a partner who is willing to try as hard as you were/are.

Jamie you are good soul in my book and one of those rare individuals that can look past the Physical. You have every right to be upset and sick of the lies. I would hope your partner stopped all this once they came out. I do understand why she might tell you lies...although I certainly don't agree with it once all the cards are on the table.

I think you could do with some "Jamie Therapy" and by that I mean maybe its time you did some really nice stuff just for you...make yourself feel better.

I hope you find someone and anyone would be a better prson for having known you

Take care of yourself

Elizabeth K