Quote from: SophieSakura on February 17, 2016, 05:15:14 PM
I think it's a complicated issue, since if the person knew about it then they might not consent to intimacy. So that's why it's more important than telling them about other things, that probably wouldn't affect the likelihood of them consenting. Also whether it's ethically ok or not, it could make somebody feel awful if they found out after having sex or whatever. So that is something to take into consideration. Just to know that other people's feelings are at risk too. I personally would feel absolutely awful and betrayed and violated if someone wasn't completely honest with me before getting serious in a relationship and having sex within a relationship, and I'm allowed to feel that way.
I agree. There's also a safety consideration isn't there? If you don't tell someone and they find out at some point and are upset, that might not be a healthy situation. Early on, before things have become at all intimate would seem to be far safer both physically and emotionally for everyone involved. Whether there is any "obligation" to tell is kind of beside the point, I would think. Transphopia and violence against women of all backgrounds are all too real. But these are just my impressions, I'm not dating and can barely remember what dating (as a guy) was like. I just know that if I were all of a sudden dating, I wouldn't dare bat my eyelashes at a guy over coffee without telling him and telling him in a safe place in case I found I'd misjudged him.
@marssu, you should congratulate yourself on being brave and honest and facing the issue. I would take his words at face value and give him some time but I wouldn't hold my breath. You're a beautiful woman and holding yourself unavailable is not going to benefit you in any way.
Hugs,
DeeDee
