Quote from: ghostbees on January 11, 2017, 02:46:46 PM
It's kind of weird that despite being a trans man, I'm pretty feminine. I guess there isn't one way to be male but I feel it definitely turns a few heads.
Anyone else had this problem?
Do you mean in appearance or mannerisms?
In mannerisms and movements I'm not very feminine. I look people right in the eyes to the point it makes some people uncomfortable, as they've told me so, I'm generally assertive and I tend to walk, sit and do things exactly as my male friends do. The only thing that sets me apart from them is that I'm not at all clumsy. I dislike clumsiness in people and my movements tend to be precise and measured. I think a part of me from my past as a female was an appreciation for movement - for doing things in a certain way and liking it, especially doing things with precision. However, my ways are mainly male, I guess. They're self aware but they're not flamboyant or a display of anything.
In appearance however, well there's no getting away from my elfy little face. I've got these damnable long dark eyelashes as well that almost look like I did 'em up with mascara. That's going to be some sort of joke among male friends for sure. I don't care. I'd rather be a "prettyboy" than the Elephant Man, you know?
I'm not comfortable being considered feminine; I've done away with any sort of walk or movement that might suggest it hopefully. I'm not expecting to be considered hugely masculine, though. A big part of what people seem to perceive as fem or masc is things taken at face value - if you're a small and dainty male who doesn't do things feminine you might still be considered fem by some just because you don't look robust. I'm expecting that.
