I haven't been to Ruidoso, but I'm from Colorado and know ski and resort towns like that. They are usually pretty tolerant places, so would be a better place to be trans than, say, El Paso.
That said, I understand that for you, earning good money depends in part on a male waiter persona that you've developed. Can you study other successful wait staff and develop something different that would be more compatible with your self image? Even if only to go androgenous?
Randy
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