Quote from: KarynMcD on August 02, 2017, 01:47:18 PM
When ever I have to show my old ID, I just say "I haven't had a chance to update it yet."

Yesterday I asked for my "genderpasje" (gender pass in Dutch). It's a document issued by the Transgender Infopunt at the University Hospital of Ghent, Belgium.

From the site:

QuoteThe Transgender Infopunt has started publishing gender passes that you can use if your appearance does not match the data on your identity card.

A gender pass does not in itself have any legal value, but is merely meant to help clarify the identity of its owner. This can be the case in any situation where confusion about the identity may exist, such as police checks, postal records, customs checks, etc. This card can certainly be recommended when the photo on the ID card differs significantly from the Changed appearance.

On the inside, a picture of how someone look like in his original appearance (male or female) as similar as possible with the picture shown on the official ID. In addition, there is room for a picture of the modified appearance. In three languages (Dutch, French, German), both pictures show one and the same person, and that the appearance may be different from your identity card because you are transgender.

The official name and first name are given, and, if applicable, the new chosen first name, followed by the applicant's signature and registration number at the Transgender Infopunt. The registration number only applies to situations where controlling authorities would request more information from us. The personal data will not be used for any other purpose and will not be disclosed to third parties"

Interesting, hum? I should get in the mail tomorrow. I'm very curious! [emoji4]

Hugs, Sarah


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Found a 15 page PDF titled "Gender Transition Guidelines for Colleagues"  on the HR website at work today. 

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Quote from: Sarah.VanDistel on August 02, 2017, 03:03:22 PM
Today I came out to my boss. [emoji4]

YESSS!!!!    You just made me happy

Well done sarah 

Quote from: Hannah Samira on August 02, 2017, 12:47:40 PM
I went on my own (boy mode of course) to buy girls clothes and makeup in a store for the first time ever. At the till the woman looked at the lipstick I was buying and said "just your shade!" I know she was having a laugh but it genuinely made me quite happy haha!

Then when I got home I took some pictures and I really liked them! I felt really pretty for the first time in a long, long time.

Oh, and the lipstick was my shade x

I have done the same when I bought some BB cream and some beauty blenders and the lady at the register (older British lady) said to me while smiling, after considering the items I had put down in front of her, "You're very brave." It didn't register to my brain until I looked up at her. I blushed, smiled, and said, "thank you." Mind you, this was at a military shopping mall (BX/PX/NEX). I wasn't sure if she thought it was for me or if I was buying it for someone else, but I'll take it. lol

Asking a cis girl for help when buying some foundation for the first time, then my ex wife taking me clothes shopping.
Sara.

Today I discovered that my hair is now long enough for a pony tail (of about 3")

Only taken about a year of growth

Got a call from my older brother today. I don't have much to do with him as he works an executive position for a large multinational and barely gets time to scratch himself. I was trying to update my address book and I sent a family wide message asking for an address and he replied telling me how busy he has been and after a couple of TXT's, my phone went and he ended up calling me.

We have a very special relationship and always have had. It is the first time I have had a chance to speak to him since Xmas so I was really happy to talk to him. Better yet he is coming to Adelaide and Making time to see me and my family in a few weeks. I am nervous, but a little excited, as he has never met Liz 

He is a great guy and I love him dearly

Quote from: Hannah Samira on August 02, 2017, 01:41:05 PM
This was my first time, I was so scared but it was actually fine! People just assume you're shopping for someone else [emoji14]

Mostly true except when I bought my first pair of heals at DSW. This was very early, when I was still trying to sort out if I was trans and before I started seeing a therapist for it. The nice older lady at the register sussed out that they were for me and we had a wonderful conversation. No comments from anyone on any other early clothes purchased and now I get gendered correctly even without makeup so the fearful days are over.

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April 22, 2015, the day of my first face to face pass in gender neutral clothes and no makeup. It may be months to the next one, but I'm good with that!

Being transgender is just a phase. It hardly ever starts before conception and always ends promptly at death.

They say the light at the end of the tunnel is an oncoming train. I say, climb aboard!

Think outside the voice box!

Hooked my bra strap correctly on first try without having to drag and rotate the clasp around to the front and then back.  Took 2 seconds instead of a very long minute of fumbling.  Everything gets easier over time. 

Kendra, you must be more agile than me. I get the hooks done quickly and correctly once a month or so with no improvement as time goes by. The rest of the time it is connect and rotate. But with my girls filling the cups, I don't really mind.

Anne

Well I managed to undo mine without turning it to the side tonight  (have trouble reaching behind my back!!)

Little bit at a time it's fun to do things I noticed girlfriends doing in the past. I finally managed to attach the bra-clasp in place by almost not thinking about it.  Many of us (myself included) are learning things others did much earlier in life - I have to keep reminding myself to be patient. 

The other one is removing a bra without removing your shirt - I finally figured out how.  First time I saw a girlfriend do that I thought it was magic. 

Quote from: Kendra on August 03, 2017, 02:34:38 PM
Hooked my bra strap correctly on first try without having to drag and rotate the clasp around to the front and then back.  Took 2 seconds instead of a very long minute of fumbling.  Everything gets easier over time.

I have always been a back fumbler...finally got it...dam missed again, LOL I did a lot of that

Quote from: Kendra on August 03, 2017, 02:34:38 PM
Hooked my bra strap correctly on first try without having to drag and rotate the clasp around to the front and then back.  Took 2 seconds instead of a very long minute of fumbling.  Everything gets easier over time.

I was at the hairdressers having my hair washed as I can no longer raise my arms above my chest (post my neck surgery) and I was telling the girl of my struggles in fastening my bra, suddenly I had three other women chirping in about difficulties and solutions. There are some way creative ways of fastening bras!!
Personally I thought that the three man approach was my favourite, now I have to find three men. 

I have been quiet down lately, struggling to accept myself, times I wonder is it really right to do this and all.
But last night I had a video call with mum, I was amazed to how much more she is on my side now.
She is really angry with dad because h won't talk to me.
But seeing her like this makes me so happy.
She was even calling me Rachel, and I never once asked her too.
I'm so happy it makes me want to cry :')

Quote from: Rachel_Christina on August 04, 2017, 04:55:22 AM
I have been quiet down lately, struggling to accept myself, times I wonder is it really right to do this and all.
But last night I had a video call with mum, I was amazed to how much more she is on my side now.
She is really angry with dad because h won't talk to me.
But seeing her like this makes me so happy.
She was even calling me Rachel, and I never once asked her too.
I'm so happy it makes me want to cry :')

So happy for you Rachel! I love hearing how families accept our true selves!


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Thanks Vicki, I have been really struggling this past month, I don't let on. But it's getting me down.
I haven't talked to my dad in 8 months, and we used to talk everyday.
It's really hard.
Hearing mam really take my side, and calling me by my name like that has lifted my spirits today

I got the chance to be with my Granddaughter again. I held her and fed her over a couple hours. I don't know who got the most out of it me or her. 

Dawn

Quote from: DawnOday on August 04, 2017, 12:36:14 PM
I got the chance to be with my Granddaughter again. I held her and fed her over a couple hours. I don't know who got the most out of it me or her. 

Dawn

  That is wonderful news Dawn. Cherish it.

Perhaps I can say the same someday.

Hugs,
   Laurie