I really do not understand this raving paranoid women. Its a book, if you dont like it dont buy it. A book isnt going to magically turn your kid trans. Or how she says there are those with an ''agenda''
In my personal experince anyone who has encouraged me to express myself in a feminine/female way never pushed it on to me. They just worked with me on how to break down shame, guilt and internalized transphobia. But they never put a gun to my head or in-planted ideas that were not already in my head to begin with. In fact in both the gender clinic I had gone to in Ottawa and Winnipeg they always told me that gender is a spectrum and that it is important to get in touch with your feelings and work on yourself, not just on gender but on all your dreams, goals and aspirations. They just know that gender is a massive part of identity and not expressing yourself, whoever you may be, will haunt you until you do. All the gender therpaists , and indeed regular see-once-a-week/when needed counsellors said that within a short time of understanding me they see a girl. They, including my current non-gender counsellor noted that not only am I among the most adament she has seen, but even pointed out feminine things that I didnt pick up on. Still, they told me the truth but never pushed any ideas onto me. In other words, no agenda from these people. Even accepting family and friends just say ''well, i wish you well'' or ''I had a feeling anyway''... Never pushing me down transition road, but giving me the tools to be the best me.
Whereas those who insisted I was male, either through personal or on the web seemed to have an agenda. My Aunt who insisted I am somehow a mans man, or in her words ''A man inside and out'' tried to use past abuse from other males as a reasoning that I am too scared to be a man.. her suggestion, try being happy as a man. Deep down however, she likes to and always has viewed me growing up as her ''3rd son'' (yes, she told me that) and whenever I saw her she be likes ''Hows my Nephew''.. perhaps innocent and such, but in hindsight it only opened up my eyes on how my birth gender was indeed such a big thing for her and due to being born that way, she already put ideas into her own head on how I must somehow adhere to. Tho it is funny, most of myy childhood she was either sleeping in her bed like a bear, on the computer smoking dope or just out of the picture. So seeing that at a young age she already put an identity of me and how I should be into her head and somehow if I dont fall into that identity then it can only be due to bad things. She is also under the illusion that i cut my ties with her because the ''evil'' influence of my dad and grandma have over me ad her two sons and that is why she is ''on her own'' when it is because at ever turn she tried to push manhood and masculinity onto me, especially after I told her about my female feelings. Or my cousin on other side of family, who tried to also push doubt onto me by insisting its not real, probably just an obsession via autism or what not. But then he goes on to say ''You were like a brother to me'', so by trying to implant this doubt he is trying to justify in his mind that he is somehow doing me a favour, again he is only doing and saying these things because he wants a ''man''.
The last bit are just 2 situations of people trying use their own agenda, often in a rude way to get what they want. Just 2 of 20 or more.
I guess at the end of the day who is the least to have an agenda. A gender therapist or a author of a book that discuss the gender spectrum and where one may very well end up being on, or members of family, friend or other social circles that have spent a long time trying to mould you into the version that THEY want out of you?
