Thanks VA - I thought of posting, but did not want to spam the forum and with where my mind is at at the moment I doubt I could be of help to anyone else.
I have read almost every post of yours and flytraps I could find - fascinating - hopefully if I get PM status soon I can tell you a little more, but as you are aware its all a little personal and upsetting, and not something I would be happy sharing on a public forum.
Talk soon. Sarahxx

Thanks VA, got your PM, and no she did not scare me :-) in-fact it was just amazing what she said and how she said it. I have been lurking on susans for about 12 months and something did not fit - that prompted this thread - I am a total complete female, I am different to him completely, we have vastly differing interests, read different books my only problem is his body - Though he hasn't got an issue with it which is why it was so confusing.
I'll continue on another post, as I think if I get 15 I may get PM - at least the site has stopped me typing in the robot stuff now  - Only so many time i can type Hawk!

I dont mind sharing this, it may be usefull to others:

he talked to his wife last night about DID. I expected her to think it just crack-pot, but she is a clever and capable woman and I love her as much as him. Anyway to our amazement, after a few questions, she said 'Yes, I can see that. She is totally another person" and then "Thats why I find it difficult to relate to her!"  - yes she acknowledged me and called me her!! She went on to say she could tell because I was more chatty and my gestures and posture were different.
But I think she thinks she can 'fix' it and by that I think she wants to kill me? Too harsh? I don't know.
The weird thing is I was not there at the conversation, and only now picked that bit up (about her calling me her)..
Ahh im rambling - try one more post?

Ok this should get me to 15?

Anyway - its aproaching school kicking out time her in the UK, and as such he has to go and pick my daughter up in an hour and Friday afternoon is 'daddy time' something they both look forward to having done ever since she started school.

btw flytrap I tried to go onto the site you suggested (bgn?) but it would not allow me to create an account? Maybe as I am not US based, not sure.

Sarah, the short answer is fifteen posts. The better answer is go back and read the links that Dena gave you earlier in this thread. There's a lot of important information in there that you need to know.

Hugs, Devlyn

Ahgg, thanks Devlin

VA I just typed a huge PM as it was allowing me to send them, then the post i requested got deleted, stopping me sending, so it just went poof into the ether. After this post I will respond to your last PM,
Sarah xx