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Indecision during transition

Started by Renate, February 25, 2008, 06:20:06 PM

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Have you had indecision during your transition?

I've not had a moment of doubt.
18 (38.3%)
I've had ocassional minor doubts.
12 (25.5%)
I've had constant minor doubts.
1 (2.1%)
I've had ocassional major doubts.
7 (14.9%)
I've had constant major doubts.
5 (10.6%)
I've had delays while transitioning.
2 (4.3%)
I've "de-transitioned".
0 (0%)
I haven't started yet.
2 (4.3%)

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Hypatia

#40
March 02, 2008, 07:59:46 AM
Quote from: Nichole on March 02, 2008, 06:21:05 AMAll I do know is the less I think about it and obsess about it, the better it has gotten. At some point I just have to have said, "that's the best I can do. Now I just need to live my life."
That's it! You said it perfectly.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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NicholeW.

#41
March 02, 2008, 08:05:22 AM
Perfection!!! Wow. Thanks, Hypatia. You don't bandy about with that word very often. I'm honored.

Hugs,

Nichole
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Hypatia

#42
March 02, 2008, 11:24:47 AM
Well, I think your advice says everything essential that needs to be said about it in a very succinct and lucid way.
Here's what I find about compromise--
don't do it if it hurts inside,
'cause either way you're screwed,
eventually you'll find
you may as well feel good;
you may as well have some pride

--Indigo Girls
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Kate

#43
March 02, 2008, 12:17:42 PM
Quote from: Renate on February 25, 2008, 06:20:06 PM
Some people seem to have internal conflicts during transition, some don't.

Your thoughts?

I'm a "measure twice, cut once" kinda girl. My wavering and pondering is all done upfront in making the decision itself. But after that decision, I commit to it with a zealot-like stubborn ferocity that allows no further debate... which frankly, might be unhealthy at times. But that's how I work.

Transition was a little different upfront though. I didn't really ever "decide" to do it by weighing choices and options. I just finally saw who I was in it's entirety, and transition simply became an obvious, inevitable consequence of that. That SEEING and that DOING were one in the same thing for me.

~Kate~
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