My sister always said she thought I was something. I was quite unusual for a guy in a number of ways. But them I'm also quite unusual as a girl.

My mom knew. Never said anything until I came out of the closet.

She just laughed and said "So it's time now."

My sister wasn't surprised. Neither was my brother. He had always seen me as a brother.

Two of my friends guessed, didnt comment till I came out to them

Some friends guessed back in 2014.

No. Even after I flat out tell people. Even after I had a letter on my wall from the Gender Clinic, in an art exhibition, even when dressed like my avatar, people still called me he and considered me a man. The only people who don't are from my trans support group.

Not to my knowledge, and since coming out, no one has said that they had suspicions. I lived and presented quite masculine.
Several people thought I might be gay earlier in my life as I avoided any relationships due to my utter confusion with what I was. On the occasions they asked about this I was happy to clarify that I wasn't, but never labelled myself as heterosexual either.

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When I was in my late teens through mid twenties I had a lot of people ask if I was gay. I don't remember anyone suggesting they thought I was trans. Most people were surprised when I came out, but one girl that I had previously had a fling with said that it actually made a lot of sense to her. I didn't bother to ask why.

I've had 2 of my employees guess that I was trans in the last week or so. I don't exactly act or dress feminine, so I shouldn't have been surprised that the people I spend 35-50 hours a week with figured it out, but I was. They've been incredibly supportive since finding out. Both promised not to tell anyone else; one tends to be a gossip, so I guess only time will tell. 

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I have just joined Susan's, am in therapy but in the closet.

I am 62 now but I answer Yes certainly as it has happened several times in my lifetime. I will just give you a couple:

I was a little boy about 7 (already knew I was girl really) and a lady saw me playing with other children and commented that she had never seen a little boy with such a girl's face before. She truly seemed surprised. I felt happy.

When I was in my office around 30 years ago - so I would have been 32 - a kind colleague commented "deadname" is somewhere in between the genders. This was not sarcastic but serious with no ill intention. I felt delighted.

Several times people have told I am not a man. Usually malicious; occasionally neutral. Obviously there were/are right!

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When I was younger, gay men would try to pick me up everywhere I went. This used to puzzle me, because I'm attracted to women not men, so why were men hitting on me all the time? I now realise that everyone was seeing a feminine-looking male with female body language, and immediately assuming I must be gay. Since growing my hair out, gay men have stopped approaching me. I don't know whether that's just because I'm older and less attractive, or because they're no longer interpreting the person they see as a gay man, but as a nonpassing trans woman instead.

That's very interesting and very nice of the MD! I have an identical twin brother and a lot of our mutual friends thought I was "gay" (In my culture there isn't much of a difference between gay and transgender). My brother would always get upset at them and told them "No! He's my brother and he's straight!" (I didn't come out to him until I was away from home for college). It's very funny that my after I come out to my brother he was like "REALLY??? I HAD NO IDEA!?". Well in my thinking I think he just loved me no matter who I really am which he still does. We are always close but after coming out I feel like we are even closer !

Yes, I did.

About 10 years before coming out to myself, I had my first experience of gender euphoria. I didn't know that's what it was, but I was high for days. I told my wife some of my thoughts and feelings, that I'd realized I would rather have been born female, etc. At the time, I figured I was probably what they call a "male lesbian." Well, she shared what I had shared with her with a trans man she knew; and he suggested I might be transgender. When she conveyed this suggestion to me, I laughed it off. No. Not me. Uh-uh. 

When I did come out to myself, this trans man was the only transgender person I had ever known; and I didn't remember that he had made this suggestion. I found him on Facebook, contacted him, came out and asked if we could meet. I had no idea what to do next. When he replied, he said, "This news does not surprise me." Then I remembered.

Long standing childhood friend told me he's had suspicions since we were a lot younger
A flatmate who is like me from uni figured I must have some level of dysphoria
few close friends
Mum wasnt surprised but is disappointed

I think maybe some people could sense there was something. Like, I don't know, girls never really wanted to go out with me, and I was an okay-looking dude, or so I thought......I mean, it could've been bad breath, it could've been the fact I was bi, or maybe I was actually just pretty ugly.

But then there are things like.....well, people have never really paid attention to me. I've never been listened to the way that men are supposed to be in the patriarchy, even though I'm over 6 foot and had a pretty deep voice. This always stung my male pride, haha. So maybe people could sense something off. Who knows.

Quote from: VickyS on January 25, 2018, 06:50:52 AM
Well, something weird happened today at work.

My manager (who I came out to a couple of weeks ago) told me that the Managing Director (MD) of the company has asked him if I was transgender.  He said yes (he knew I would be cool with that as I told him I didn't mind him knowing at some point in the future).

I was absolutely in shock! I present as male, just with slightly longer hair than usual, longer fingernails, no arm/hand hair and probably slightly feminine mannerisms.    Apparently the MD was talking to a co-worker and they were talking about me and came to the conclusion that I'm probably transgender.

How is this even possible??  Maybe gay, but Trans???  What vibes am I giving off!!  lol

Anyone else experienced something similar?

The other issue now is how long can I keep it under wraps before the whole workplace knows?  I'm not sure how I feel about it.  I guess scared but also kinda wierdly proud! So that's three people at work now...

Oh and the MD said to my manager if ANYONE says anything transphobic to me they will be sacked on the spot, so that's nice. 

An old roommate once suggested I might be trans long before I ever transitioned.  I shut down the conversation and distanced myself from her   I just wasn't able to think about it.  I was far too scared. 

I lost touch with that person and would love to be able to track them down someday. 

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Welcome to Susan's Place SarahBear1981. It's actually surprisingly easy to track down people you knew in the past. I have located an old high school friend however the real record is a man from work. His wife died and somebody got him on face book. Shortly after that, he ran across a grade school sweetheart and now about 60 years latter they have married and are living happily ever after. I hope you find them when you decide to try finding them.

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My ex-wife guessed on our second date. I was, to put it mildly, shocked that she knew, let alone that she would ask me directly. I told her what was the truth at the time (that I did have gender dysphoria, but I was trying to not transition). Six years, one wedding, and one child later, I realized that I didn't have a choice.

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People have guessed I was transgender or female my whole life. When I was a little toddler, my mother told me that my nannies refused to believe I was a boy until they changed my diapers.

As a young child, all my aunts and uncles would ask me if I would rather be a female, and my aunt would always refer to me as "my girl" and wink.

I didn't even come out to my best friend in high school, and one day she randomly asked me: "Are you transitioning?"

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Welcome to Susan's Place SarahBear1981. It's actually surprisingly easy to track down people you knew in the past. I have located an old high school friend however the real record is a man from work. His wife died and somebody got him on face book. Shortly after that, he ran across a grade school sweetheart and now about 60 years latter they have married and are living happily ever after. I hope you find them when you decide to try finding them.

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Thank you!

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Nah, most people close to me thought I was gay.

I have been on the other side though, and mentally tagged a few people as eggs, and two of three have since come out and begun transition.

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