Jealous of the guys who are taller than me, born with a smaller chest than me, born with narrower hips than me, able to pass completely without any hormones or surgeries (I personally know two guys who are like that - one of them could pass before he started his transition without even trying).  Jealous of those who are able to get hormones almost overnight while I have to wait months inbetween steps in the process.  Sometimes jealous of those who are only on one end of the binary instead of switching between the two.

I know I shouldn't be comparing myself to others, but it's so hard when others have it so much easier than me, especially when they are people whom I can interact with in person.

I am a bit jealous of those who are further along with their transition than me. I am also jealous of my younger sisters who seem happier with their lives than i am.
The jealousy is getting less though the more changes that happen and so i am hopeful for what happens from now on.

I wouldn't say I get jealousy but I sure as heck envy the Trans girls who literally look perfect as any CIS girl could, the types who you'd never guess were born male or already had a feminine build or features even without hormones and transitioning, then I look at myself and think there's 28 years of damage that's turned my body into to much of a train wreck to be half as passable as they are even with effort and then some, I naturally am my own biggest critic and will literally find every flaw I can in myself and can never really see myself as being passable.

Hmm jealous or envious.. If I see an exceptionally beautiful cis woman, happily married, several beautiful children perhaps.  Fortunately my 'competition' in this area is slim.  I'm tall, slim, good curves, not flabby or fat, and my face isn't terrible.  I live in the heart of appalachia; Where most of the general populace is huge, overweight, and frankly looks inbred (far too many ).  Hard to be jealous of that.  Not being mean, just honest.

If I see something about me I can fix to make me more attractive I'll do it.  Other than that, I try to put those emotions on the backburner.  After all, some may be jealous of you too.  Just live & let live.  Be happy for that other person who looks beautiful, if you can.

I'm a little envious of those that are out , proud and confident. ( I got the first two down, but definitely not the last one.)

Wish I saw more trans women of color. When I do see a successful one, I think to myself that's where I'm going to be one day.

What makes a transwomen successful. Attitude and confidence . I'm working on both.


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Honestly? Yes, I do. A lot. And that upsets me.

I do envy successful trans women, especially those who transitioned while they were young.  I am also inspired by them and admire their courage and determination.  Most of all, though, I am happy for them.

I feel envious of women who began transition at a young age because I regret that I spent so much time as a boy.  But I try to channel that envy energy into more positive energy - self forgiveness for transitioning later, gratitude that I live in a time and place where transition is possible, and happy for my younger trans sisters who don't have to experience what I've experienced.

You're in charge of how you feel!

Hello Sinead  I know it's a little late for this but when I read that jealousy actually is hurting you I became concerned because jealousy is a very powerful emotion that needs to be addressed and come to terms with so it doesn't gnaw at  you forever. In my tiny little world up here I never seen a trans anything in person and beautiful cis females are few and far between so I have no real life experience with this other than what I see on TV. But know this I too was horribly jealous thinking I could never pull it off and look beautiful this was so powerful it actually hung up my transition for years until the light bulb finally went off. Do we really have to look like Barbie to be happy of course not. Mr. Spock from Star Trek once said that wanting is stronger than the having. I find this very logical and true. You are a very unique and individual person you must visualize this in your head and see yourself as beautiful as you can be at the present. If you can obtain this confidence level I think you can lessen the effects of jealousy. best wishes love Tatiana