What can you afford? Can you transfer within Walgreens? I know individuals who rent rooms, in Tacoma, Seattle and Olympia WA. Some will even barter Room and board for house keeping, ie; cooking, cleaning and some yard work. I have done that in the past.

Quote from: 120716 on April 23, 2018, 12:15:37 AM
What can you afford?

An unrealistic 300/month provided utilities are included with that.

Quote from: 120716 on April 23, 2018, 12:15:37 AM
Can you transfer within Walgreens?

It is possible though I fear I'm blacklisted from doing so all because of a mistake I made in March where I didn't know these two 20 dollar bills were counterfeit almost lost my job over it

Quote from: 120716 on April 23, 2018, 12:15:37 AMI know individuals who rent rooms, in Tacoma, Seattle and Olympia WA. Some will even barter Room and board for house keeping, ie; cooking, cleaning and some yard work. I have done that in the past.

I've reached out to several queer communities from all corners of the U.S. offering to do the same (plus offered to pay rent and/or utilities) and no one ever bothers to reach out back

No you obviously don't want to be homeless. To be honest I was wanting to go that route, well to a shelter (I could've gotten in and I would get my own room) so that I can save the money I do have for surgeries... I'm not working now so all my expenses are coming from the money I have for "surgeries". It's tough and most days I don't even know if I'll have enough to survive for long.

Anyway, I don't mean to overshare my own issues but I guess we all gotta do what we can. Some are lucky to have financial support from their parents... we're not those people. Learning to accept that is.. a step.

How are you reaching out to the "queer communities"? I called some in nyc and they only told me about homeless shelters.. I also went on a facebook group. Well neither of those things worked out for me. But they do for others and maybe for you

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Quote from: Allison S on April 23, 2018, 09:57:56 PM
How are you reaching out to the "queer communities"? I called some in nyc and they only told me about homeless shelters.. I also went on a facebook group. Well neither of those things worked out for me. But they do for others and maybe for you

I've tried various groups on Facebook, ->-bleeped-<-, etc. and nothing I either get told to look into shelters or no response at all and all I do is tell the situation and what I'm able to pay/contribute but I never get a response even the Middle Tennessee queer housing group on Facebook refuses to help.

Quote from: EmilyRyan on April 24, 2018, 11:50:37 PM
I've tried various groups on Facebook, ->-bleeped-<-, etc. and nothing I either get told to look into shelters or no response at all and all I do is tell the situation and what I'm able to pay/contribute but I never get a response even the Middle Tennessee queer housing group on Facebook refuses to help.

Where there is a will there is a way. Don't let excuses stop you, even if they are pretty legit excuses like mental health being trans being poor ect. You have been dealt the hand you have, now the only question is what are you going to do about it. A lot of people here have given you a lot of good advice but you have found a way to shut every single one of them down and to be honest that really frustrates me . If you keep that attitude up life is only going to be harder than it already is.  You have got to get out of this victim mentality. No one is going to give you a good life , it's up to you to fight hard, smart, and tough everyday for the life you deserve!

I'm sorry if this comment is hard to hear and a little harsh, I'll be the first one to admit I'm not the most sensitive person and a better person than me could give you the same advice while being sweeter about it, but imho it's what you need to hear. I'm not trying to be your friend but rather trying to give you the advice I would want someone to give me if I was in your shoes.


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Quote from: Courtney.lane408 on April 24, 2018, 11:54:26 PM
Where there is a will there is a way. Don't let excuses stop you, even if they are pretty legit excuses like mental health being trans being poor ect. You have been dealt the hand you have, now the only question is what are you going to do about it. A lot of people here have given you a lot of good advice but you have found a way to shut every single one of them down and to be honest that really frustrates me . If you keep that attitude up life is only going to be harder than it already is.  You have got to get out of this victim mentality. No one is going to give you a good life , it's up to you to fight hard, smart, and tough everyday for the life you deserve!

I'm sorry if this comment is hard to hear and a little harsh, I'll be the first one to admit I'm not the most sensitive person and a better person than me could give you the same advice while being sweeter about it, but imho it's what you need to hear. I'm not trying to be your friend but rather trying to give you the advice I would want someone to give me if I was in your shoes.

As I said before I've tried and tried the advice given even tried different approaches to applying the advice and nothing so I don't why everyone has to think it's my attitude when I actually tried the advice not my fault nothing has worked so far

Drop all the stigma about homeless people and talk to some of them. Many are fine people who are in bad circumstances. They're realistic and facing their problems head on, trying to work their way out of homelessness  to a better life.

I know you said you tried all the advice offered, but I don't recall you putting everything you own in a backpack and heading out the door.

Living a life you hate is a crime. Not chasing happiness is, too.

Hugs, Devlyn

Quote from: EmilyRyan on April 25, 2018, 12:46:52 AM
As I said before I've tried and tried the advice given even tried different approaches to applying the advice and nothing so I don't why everyone has to think it's my attitude when I actually tried the advice not my fault nothing has worked so far

Because Emily I refuse to believe your special and the world has it out for you and your situation is hopeless. There are millions of people all over the world in a worse situation than you. The problem isn't the advice you have been given it's they way you are applying it to your life. I'm not saying it's easy but you can do it you are letting excuses rule your life. At this point I think the best advice I can actually give is seek therapy. I'm in therapy it's not a thing to be looked down on everyone needs help sometimes getting out of their own way!




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Hello Emily your story really hit a nerve with me because I know what it's like to have parents that you have no chance to convince them you're doing the right thing and I wish I had the magic answer for you but unfortunately I do not. my parents took the rubber hose to me and literally left welts on my butt at a very young age so I just put it in the closet and never brought it up even though they would continue to find my stash of clothes and punish me the same. I hope you stay strong and safe I found out that sometimes when things seem the darkest it might signal a bottom and that somehow someway through time relief will present itself to you. A lot of praying certainly can't hurt. I also will include you in mine. I certainly would offer you sanctuary and safety because I live in some of the most remote Northwoods left in the lower 48 but I know this is unrealistic in your situation. All the best to you my friend hang in there love Tatiana

I actually responded to someone else's post in a trans housing group for nyc and we met. It does take initiative. We didn't move in together but I'll prob stay at the place I'm in... I found this one through craigslist.
Anyway, I know your situation even though you probably think I don't. You haven't mentioned how it is with your parents, and if you're still transitioning (if it's what you want)? Maybe you need to live with them for right now even though they're not the most accepting... Sometimes we need to buy time

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I'm not stigmatizing anything in fact I know what it's like to be homeless, to a degree, I was homeless (and yes I packed my stuff and left my parents) for like nearly three months last year. The reasons I resorted to living back with my parents was because I was running out of places to stay, savings was almost gone, and last I fell for a so-called promise that if I came back my parents would let me transition, even though they still wouldn't be accepting which I didn't mind at that point, but of course once I came back I was forced back in the closest. And yes I'm still taking my hormones in secret what will happen once they notice changes I don't know and try not to think about it.

Again I am taking initiative I'm constantly reaching out and asking around heck I'm even trying get a 2nd job or figure out other ways to supplement my current income trouble is I can't get anything to cooperate it's not that I'm not trying I really am trying just nothing I reach out to bothers to reach out back or I simply can't afford.

And yes I am seeking out therapy finally found a few therapists in my area that I can afford just trying to figure out which one to see and how to get to the appointment once I make it.

p.s. Thank you Sparklefish and Tatiana79 I'm glad someone understands what I'm dealing with 

Quote from: Doreen on April 25, 2018, 06:27:42 PM
What I did to survive? Maybe you can too IF you want to. 

I went to college.. borrowed money from student loans & pell grant.. Worked full time at stupid jobs like serving, telemarketing, janitor, anything I had to to get cash coming in.  AND I also went to school 12-18 credit hours each semester.

This requires work however.. and gumption, and not a small amount of 'elbow grease'.  Its terribly easy to follow the 'poor me' route, I have seen so many over the years fall away because of this mentality.  Its ultimately self destructive, however. 

If college isn't an option?  Disability... food stamps.. there are options.  It takes time, struggle, and perseverance however.  Life will never be handed to most of us on a silver platter.

This is the kind of misunderstanding I keep getting everyone keeps acting like I haven't tried any of this I have tried and none of it worked and I am still trying despite it still not working

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