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Monogomous or Polyamorous?

Started by KarlMars, August 10, 2016, 12:22:54 AM

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Which are you?

Monogomous
48 (59.3%)
Polyamorous
16 (19.8%)
Undecided/Other
17 (21%)

Total Members Voted: 81

eyesk8rboi

Quote from: undautri on June 29, 2017, 03:31:00 PM
As horrible as it sounds, I'd probably be Ok with being with multiple people, but I couldn't stand either one of my partners being with someone else. I'm a very insecure person, and very jealous.
for that reason I selected "monogamous" because I would hate to put that double standard into practice. it wouldn't be fair. And probably wouldn't be possible, I find it hard enough to find someone as it is.


Pretty much same. I was the shared side piece with a couple once...And it was fine because I wasn't actually dating either of them and they had an agreement that I didn't count as cheating.... >_>;
I don't like to share though, I'm insecure, jealous and territorial.
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elkie-t

I think so many world problems would be resolved if society would accept the idea that humans might be attracted to different partners at the same time. I think polyamory families should be recognized by the government and have same rights as other married couples.

Better yet, it would be nice if government gets out of marriage business and only cares about 'marriage contracts' (as much as any other civil contracts) and prevents abuse (as much as it does to any people living or not living under the same roof).
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Jin

Let's say that we are mono 90%. We (me and my wife) have been involved in poly relations (with each other as part of the group) when younger. It was lot's of fun, but Oh, the Drama!
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Julia1996

I don't see anything wrong with being polyamorous. But I don't think it would work for me. I wouldn't want to share a guy with another woman.  If I got into a relationship with a guy who was bi and he wanted to sleep with a guy sometimes I would be fine with that but I wouldn't want the guy around all the time or like living with us.
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elkie-t

Quote from: Julia1996 on June 30, 2017, 10:00:45 AM
I don't see anything wrong with being polyamorous. But I don't think it would work for me. I wouldn't want to share a guy with another woman.  If I got into a relationship with a guy who was bi and he wanted to sleep with a guy sometimes I would be fine with that but I wouldn't want the guy around all the time or like living with us.
I would mind if my man sleeps around with another woman, but if we're all living together and I like her as a person, it's like having a sister... And wouldn't it be wonderful for an mtf? I think a lot of it comes with attitude.., I don't want to 'share' 'my man', etc. we are ingrained with negative feelings from the start, and it won't lead to anything positive from there. I personally would be really open to it, even thinking it might be ideal to me.
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SailorMars1994

I would have to say monog.... whatever it is, im a one person girl :)
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BLEMISH

Monogamous, I can't imagine being with anyone else but my partner~


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Corax

Strictly monogamous! I'm territorial and rather dominant, maybe even somewhat proprietorial I suppose and I would never want to share my partner with someone else, I wouldn't be able to, I couldn't handle that and I would never under any circumstances agree to a polyamorous or open relationship.
It's just not for me.
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BeverlyAnn

When you actually stop and think about it, polyamorous is just wrong! 

I mean you just simply cannot combine a Greek root word (polloi) and a Latin root word (amor).
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Julia1996

Quote from: BeverlyAnn on October 01, 2017, 03:58:44 PM
When you actually stop and think about it, polyamorous is just wrong! 

I mean you just simply cannot combine a Greek root word (polloi) and a Latin root word (amor).
Lol
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Anne Blake

Completely monogamous, we have been partners and soul mates for thirty four years and she has been there with me and encouraged me at every step along this journey. Neither one of us could conceive of changing this part of our relationship.
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Rowena_Ellenweorc

Selected other cause I'm both.  Monogamous relationship, but I have the biggest heart in the world it feels like. Haha. THough.... I might be like some others where I'm jealous if who I'm with is also poly. I know, I know, double standard, but just how I am.
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rose

Poly with guys and mono with others
Because guys will cheat on you no matter how much he love you or how much pretty you are
I see it waste of time to stay with one guy and waste your youth on him then at the end he cheat on you

Unless he become a real man in the relationship and spend money on me ( I'm middle eastern and its my culture that man provide his woman with money )
I don't see any reason to only stay with one man

My bad experience in life made me learn it in the hard way
Men are never to be trusted
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SeptagonScars

Undecided/other. Cause technically I am polyamourous, in the sense that I sometimes am in love with more than one guy at once, but in practice I'm monogamous in the sense that I only ever date one guy at a time. I can only devote myself to one partner as I love unequally, meaning in such situations I always love one guy more than I love the other or other ones and that's unfair. I also don't like the idea of being in a poly or triad relationship. It seems too messy, stressful and complicated. If a future partner of mine would suggest such, I'd say no.

I prefer open mono relationships though, and of course that goes for both me and my partner. I'm really not the jealous kind of person, and I'd want for both me and my partner to not be restricted to only each other sexually. My idea of an ideal, would be to have 'one love, and many lovers'.

I've been single for a little over a year now, but my past 2 relationships were open and I really liked that kind of arrangement. I think it was me who brought it up as a suggestion/question both times, and it was positively accepted. For now I enjoy being single and not in love with anyone, but also enjoy to sleep around and have friends with benefits. It's comfortable, but I also know I'm most likely gonna fall in love again at some point. But I hope not too soon.
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4A-GZE

I'm polyamorous. I believe it's almost related to sexual orientation, like some people are just naturally going to need multiple partners while most are content with just one.

I'm currently in a long-term relationship with my girlfriend of 2.5 years, but I'm also active on dating sites and I've been seeing this other girl a bit lately. I'm pretty convinced that she's the [other] one, actually. I think two is the magic number for me.
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kaitylynn

My partner and I are monogamous, though we have a few poly friends.  After watching the drama that it has brought to them over the years, there simply is no appeal to that life and so we remain boringly mono.  We have been approached as a couple regarding having a poly relationship, but we chose to decline.

Heather and I discussed things early on in our initial friendship.  Both of us expressed our feelings that a solid relationship with one person can be difficult enough without entering in to it all of the energies of a second or third person, so we stay mono.
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Allison S

Well I'm single now but I would want monogamous because I can only really have feelings for one person at a time in a romantic and sexual relationship. I can like someone alot and not see them in that way.

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RoRo

I wouldn't have nothing against anyone who wanted multiple partners, but as for me that would be too much. It would just get my head spinning too much. I am a one guy gal.
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Eryn T

I am REALLY surprised to see such a topic, but not all that surprised that the majority are mono.

Me personally, I thought I was fine being poly, but after I discovered I was trans, now I more seek a mono relationship. 
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