Okay, I have had a rash of misgenderings for the last week or so, including one guy who seems to think it is a joke to misgender me. So tomorrow I do a social experiment. I am gonna dressing as hot as I am able given the fact that I do lifting in my job and sometimes have to move fast. I have to see if it makes any difference. Usually an occasional slip up doesn't bother me but when I get a rash of them, I get frustrated, and it hurts. I never wear eye  makeup, but tomorrow I pull out all the stops. B#tch is on a mission!
Monica

You go girl!

Go for it girl. We can all be a bitch when required. Hope your experiment works and it should be interesting to see how it goes. I really hate deliberate misgendering, it is hurtful but you can't let them see that. Use it to grow stronger

Sorry this happened to you. Been there myself and had pretty much the same reaction: Big meeting at a customer and the account manager kept calling me "he" on all the preparation calls (everyone else used she). At the morning of the meeting, I got an email from him, referring to me as Sarah and He. So I had it and found a really short skirt, heels 👠, makeup and got all dressed up; still business like but he had no chance to call me a "he" in that outfit. He got lucky on other occasions I might have pulled off quite a SL**T / B***H look (which surprised a few people)

Oh... You can borrow the "BABES UNITE" sweater I just bought if you want 😂

How on earth are you being misgengered? You're so female it radiates all of Susan's!

Do IT! Do It! Do It!  And I want to see the pictures.  Get your "Lookin Good!!" on and go for it girl.

Hugs,
   Laurie

School holidays mean I have my kids with me and my wife is away. So I can't go anywhere without taking them. Of course I get Daddy all the time.  Asked them to use Korean, eldest does, youngest refuses. Got so sick of being called sir I just go out as fem as possible and I can be daddied all you like and no one is going to call me sir. Dad doesn't have curves and sticky out breasts especially if you bring attention to them.

Moni,

Go for it - Rock it Girl !

Nikki

You go girl!

Rock your look, Moni!  And Laurie is right, we need pictures. 

Quote from: SailorMars1994 on April 26, 2018, 09:44:14 PM
How on earth are you being misgengered? You're so female it radiates all of Susan's!

The one guy is doing it on purpose so he's just an ->-bleeped-<-.  I'm guessing everyone else knew her before and just aren't trying very hard. 


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Quote from: HappyMoni on April 26, 2018, 08:52:48 PM
Okay, I have had a rash of misgenderings for the last week or so, including one guy who seems to think it is a joke to misgender me. So tomorrow I do a social experiment. I am gonna dressing as hot as I am able given the fact that I do lifting in my job and sometimes have to move fast. I have to see if it makes any difference. Usually an occasional slip up doesn't bother me but when I get a rash of them, I get frustrated, and it hurts. I never wear eye  makeup, but tomorrow I pull out all the stops. B#tch is on a mission!
Monica

Go Moni, Go... take some pics and send them to me!?

Love ya...

I'm so here for this [emoji4][emoji122]

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Hi Monica, I think from your profile picture you look beautiful! Please update us with how things went.

   I learned a few things today. I made a point, but at the expense of not being true to who I am. I don't want to show any pictures of today because it really isn't me in any picture I could take. I am not good at being pretty. I am not comfortable being in eye makeup with earrings, short skirt and panty hose. Well, at least not as I did it today. I pushed it. I am pretty good at being me. I am the girl next day, laying on top of  the fridge with a warm smile kind of girl. At my best, once in a while I can attain 'cute.' I have no glamour in my soul and I'm okay with that.
   I found out some positive and negative. People do ask about me as to whether I  am male or female to other people at work. I was told that. I appreciated this person's honesty. I am at a level of not being stared at or called Sir in restaurants or in stores. My voice is an issue and there are certainly some visual male aspects left in me to wonder about which gender I am. I was called beautiful, pretty, very nice, all from different people. The only compliment that I took to heart is that apparently I have nice legs. This I heard over and over and in a way that was believable. I accepted the comments graciously but with an eye to the fact that this was nice people being nice. I will continue to work on my look. I asked myself why do I care. The honest answer is that it is me not wanting to explain my existence to people to get respect. I just want to live my life as me and be given a certain respect for being a woman, like the pronouns.
   Was my mission accomplished? I don't know yet. The one person who I mentioned who misgenders me , seems to like me and is friendly with me. He is great with the kids I work with, so I don't think he is a jerk. Ignorant I might say. I think he is confused  by me. Maybe if I explained my existence again, he might 'get' it. I don't want to have to do that. It is my personal business. I already stated my pronouns. Do I really have to say I'm a woman, I transitioned, bla bla bla. I could tell my life story and maybe gain a bit of understanding, but at what cost?
   You ladies were wonderfully supportive so I wanted to respond even though I'm mentally and physically exhausted tonight. I don't know if this is relateable. I may not be expressing this well.
Monica

Great experiment and good for you in pushing the envelope. Some people like to try to act as societal antibodies; drawing attention to anyone that is not mainstream. Who knows why they do it, probably because they feel powerless in their own situations. The world moves around them and leaves them behind. They don't have to be jerks to do this.

It could be a number of things ranging from their own suppressed ideas to just being non-informed. You don't know how many people i have had to educate, it can get numbing at times.

 Monica,

  Hun, I am glad you did what you did. I know it made you uncomfortable and went beyond what you want to do. It is okay that you didn't post pictures because like you said it was not you, not the Monica I know and love. But I give you credit for getting up the gumption to do it. I love you for who you are girl. But I do think with some practice you could rock that look if you wanted to. Yes, yes I know you are more comfy in Farmer's bib overalls and barefoot in the kitchen, but hey, a girl needs to strut her stuff once in a while!

Hugs,
   Laurie

Thank you ladies.  I woke up this morning and thought, "Oh gosh, what did I write on Susan's last night." I was so exhausted! I wrote a lot of stuff about looks, my looks, and I immediately thought, "How vain are you, Moni?" We all hear well intentioned comments about that we shouldn't care what others think. In a perfect world, "Yeah!" but it isn't reality for most. I do care, but as I saw yesterday, I don't care enough to be someone I'm not. Like I said, it was an experiment or mission. It gave me a chance to talk to a few folks when they asked why I was dressed up. Maybe it made a statement that, "Yes, my existence is as a woman." The one woman, who is really very kind but not always 'on the ball' was someone I spoke to. I said the reason I dressed up was that I was tired of being misgendered. I had tried a few times to correct her in the past, explain, but the next time, there she goes again. She was like, "Yes one of those people is probably me. I will have to try harder." I replied, "Yeah, I would appreciate it. It really does hurt when I hear it."
I do feel good for taking action to try to do something. It was better to try to take control of the situation then sit there getting upset and mad.
Moni
Love you too Loraine!  Robyn, I don't know the why's behind their misgendering. Some are very kind, accepting people. Thank you to all who posted with support. You are awesome!

 Oh Gheeeeze, I try to me nice one time and what does she do? She gets my name wrong!! How can she do that to me? I mean I tried extra hard to be nice... Didn't I? I even looked up her name so I could get it right.. Whateva!

Well done , same as you I need to give some of the customers a bigger hint , had one today that wanted to look at his car on the lift. After a load of "mate" I managed to get in that I had chipped my nail varnish ( bright green and he didn't notice) so I said MEN are so unobservant. Still didn't sink in. Will have to start putting on more make up as work uniform is polo and work trousers (pants to you!) so skirt is out (I would if I could).