That's a bummer , not very considerate of the organisers . I joined a group local to me only to have it fold before I got to a meeting. You have come far in your travels , its only a week away and that is a mere blink or a hold up at road works. Stay strong dear, HUGS and XXXs 

Thanks all. Im calmer now

That good to hear, XX

Quote from: Shambles on October 16, 2018, 03:09:36 PM
Thanks all. Im calmer now

@Shambles
Dear Jo:   
This is good news... always try to stay positive about your journey. 
I am a follower of your postings and I am looking forward to reading more about your progress.
Without a doubt, I am hoping that you and your wife can come to some kind of compromise that makes both of you happier....

... in one of my recent reply comments on your thread I had asked about therapy sessions...  are you and her regularly seeing a therapist of any kind?   Also have you considered "couples therapy"
These might be good things for you to consider.

Thank you for your "better" and "calmer" reply....  stay strong and stay determined but also stay kind and loving to your wife... this all can be very, very difficult and extremely emotional for the spouse of a transitioner.
Hugs,
Danielle

@alaskan danielle no theropy of any kind. We have been reffered for marrage councilling but theres no form of gender couniling at all. Sorry ment to reply to that one awhile ago x

Quote from: Shambles on October 16, 2018, 05:34:34 PM
@Alaskan Danielle no theropy of any kind. We have been reffered for marrage councilling but theres no form of gender couniling at all. Sorry ment to reply to that one awhile ago x

@Shambles
Dear Jo:
Well, my thought is that any general marriage counseling is much better that NO available specific gender related counseling. 
Certainly from what you mentioned in your postings, couples marriage counseling might help, certainly worth a try in my opinion.   Just my opinion, that is all.

Hugs and well wishes,
Danielle

@Shambles

Hey Joanne,  Hope you're feeling better, Whats your favorite music btw?  Did you strike up a conversation with the other girl who turned up?
Also I think prob message them just before you leave next time to make absolutely sure its all still on.

You'll be alright,

Sonja.

@sonja

Music, love katy perry, lady gaga, pink, george ezra, sam smith and alot of stuff from the 90's early 00's. Didn't speak much with the other girl but a little with her dad, tbh i was nervous as hell and very paranoid about voice. Felt like a bit of an imposter as she was so pretty and fem. I did leave my contact details with the organisers though incase they get in touch and want to talk.

Next meeting is in 5 weeks go i'll try to give it another go then

@Alaskan Danielle

Thank you for the support, would much prefer something related to gender for theropy but we'll see what happens

Big steps this weekend. Im now out to parents, sis and busness partner. Its gone unbelivably well. Wasnt even nervous about mom and dad in the end, on the run up to it kept telling myself its the right time.

Just relived that everything didnt just fall apart

See nothing to worry about , now that's a weight of you shoulders and you must be feeling better about yourself. Keep it up and there will be no stopping you.

Quote from: Shambles on October 21, 2018, 10:31:13 AM
Big steps this weekend. Im now out to parents, sis and busness partner. Its gone unbelivably well. Wasnt even nervous about mom and dad in the end, on the run up to it kept telling myself its the right time.

Just relived that everything didnt just fall apart

@Shambles
Dear Jo:
This is wonderful news....   and it gets easier and easier as you come out to more people...  parents, family and business partners are the very important ones and you have overcome that gauntlet ...  in my own experience it was like a ONE TON weight was taken off of my shoulders and certainly a big mental relief.
Onward toward your goals...

I trust and hope that you and your wife will be able reconcile differences and come to an amicable compromise and solution that will work for both of you...   any luck with setting an appointment with you and her getting together with a couples counselor?

Thanks for your update and for keeping all of your followers tuned into your life journey.
Hugs and hugs,
Danielle

Quote from: Alaskan Danielle on October 21, 2018, 04:38:47 PM
@Shambles
Dear Jo:
This is wonderful news....   and it gets easier and easier as you come out to more people...  parents, family and business partners are the very important ones and you have overcome that gauntlet ...  in my own experience it was like a ONE TON weight was taken off of my shoulders and certainly a big mental relief.
Onward toward your goals...

I trust and hope that you and your wife will be able reconcile differences and come to an amicable compromise and solution that will work for both of you...   any luck with setting an appointment with you and her getting together with a couples counselor?

Thanks for your update and for keeping all of your followers tuned into your life journey.
Hugs and hugs,
Danielle

Just got to wait for a letter through the post for it so theres been mo news yet.

Woke up this morrning and lost another lb, 14st 13 now. Weights never started with a 14 in my life. Well before 12 months ago its never startes with a 15 or 16 too but still. Getting closer to the 6 stone mark, its slow going now but not giving up

Congratulations Jo on both counts.

Wonderful that the coming out to your family and business partner went very well.

Glad the weight loss continues.

Hugs

Pamela

Quote from: Shambles on October 22, 2018, 01:14:23 AM
Just got to wait for a letter through the post for it so theres been mo news yet.

Woke up this morrning and lost another lb, 14st 13 now. Weights never started with a 14 in my life. Well before 12 months ago its never startes with a 15 or 16 too but still. Getting closer to the 6 stone mark, its slow going now but not giving up

@Shambles

Hey Joanna,

That's great news about your family and your weight loss, It can make such a positive change to our self esteem to lose weight and feel and see the affects of it.

Keep going!

Happy for you,

Sonja.

@Shambles

Happy Birthday Joanna! - Hope you have a great day!

Take care,

Sonja

Quote from: Sonja on October 26, 2018, 04:02:55 PM
@Shambles

Happy Birthday Joanna! - Hope you have a great day!

Take care,

Sonja

@Sonja   @Shambles

Dear Sonja:, this is so unfair... you live on the other side of the international date line so you always get to do the birthday greetings a day earlier than I.   

Dear Jo:   Even though it is not October 27th here yet,
I will also wish you a VERY HAPPY BIRTHDAY a day early.   

Hugs and hugs,
Danielle

Thanks ) still 90mins to go ) next year ill get a 25 hour birthday when it falls on the day the clocks go back an hour   

Happy Birthday Jo.

Have a wonderful day and a wonderful year.

I wish you everything you wish yourself.

Hugs

Pamela  xx

Possible male fail last weekend though was just one time. Was in a shop and this bloke kept looking at me, would like to think he was thinking is that a guy or a girl but he could have just been looking at the stuff behind me for all i know 

Decovered the power of photo editing ))

There she is !!!  Very belated Happy Birthday dearie , XXXXX and  hugs .