These are the pieces of your post that really stood out to me:
Quote from: Robbyv213 on Yesterday at 12:08:55 PMSo I am def struggling with what I think I want in terms of my ideal body goals for transitioning....
So at what point do I either try to fit myself into someone else's idea of what a female should look like or do the exact opposite and push limits of what people think females should be...
And I'm starting to find it all hypocritical....
But isn't the journey more about self love and self acceptance...
...love ourselves and be uniquely ourselves, to not try to live up to someone else's standards or idea of what a man or woman should be...
I completely agree with what Lilis and Lori have already said so eloquently. I'll add that, well, this is the world we live in - there are many different voices trying to tell us how we ought to live our lives, many of them contradictory. And that means it's up to us to do the hard work of finding out who we are, what we want for ourselves, and how to get there from where we are. The thing is, that's how it's always been; it's just that there's a lot more "noise" now to obscure our own internal signal - the one thing we should really be tuning into.
As with anything, even if you follow someone else's recipe, your result will still be uniquely yours. You can just take other people's input as: "Here's what was important to them. Is that important to me?" Think of it more as suggestions of things to consider instead of definitive "musts." Not only do you *get* to figure out for yourself what it means for you to be a woman, you *have* to. Nobody else can do it for you.
I'm in a very similar same place right now. I know I'll never be someone who wears dresses or paints my nails. The women I've always been attracted to were more rugged "tomboys," and that's clearly much more in line with who I am. I'm sure if I'd been born female, a lot of people would have told me I needed to do more to be perceived as more feminine. I'd have told them to go pound sand.
Nobody is in a better position than you to decide what it means for you to be a woman. I encourage you to own that right proudly.
