know ive thought about this alot and was wondering if there are anything that you would miss once youve had the operation, you post op ts can join too

also visa versa is there anything that you ftm will miss as a girl that u wont have as a guy?

i know i wont miss anything as a guy

I thought I would miss singing as a guy...that is until I attempted to sing as female yesterday and did a marvelous job.  Everything else, I'll be able to do as female.

Melissa

Good god no, not a thing. And I sang bass yesterday, miked, before a crowd of 250 people. Felt great

Dennis

Singing, are you nuts I can't even hum in tune.

Honestly though, I can't think of anything that I would miss and I don't think that anything would miss me

Steph

 A good bit of your past life will still be there because it was your past life and can't be changed.  Those of us who transition late in life have a lot of the old socialization to overcome.  Some comes easily, and some comes hard.

In the transactivism organizations I've belonged to, I've seen what I call 'virtual testosterone' in some of the other older MTF board members.  They sometimes revert to old male habits, old socialization.

My husband gets upset sometimes that I had more career opportunities than he did, tied down as he was with 4 children to raise and disfunctional husbands who did little to help.  Can't be helped; neither of us transitioned until late 50s, early 60s.

What do I miss?  Well, a little more upper body strenght would be nice, but I haven't done any exercise to promote it.  My bad.

Christy Lee, if you transition at an early age, you will have less baggage to carry.  But don't opt out of the best education you can get. 

The only thing I've ever even heard anyone mention that they missed about being a guy was the ability, when in a hurry, to pee standing up! Although I understand that with a bit of practice... 

Annie

Sometimes I pee standing up if all the toilets are extremely gross...but then again that's the men's restroom.

Melissa

There are just a few things I miss, though not very badly.

Doing my hair in less than a minute.
Fixing my face before going out, even though I have it down well under 10 minutes from the original couple of hours.
And not yet, but post-op I would miss standing up to pee.

One thing I don't comprehend about my pre-op TS friends is the compulsion to sit and pee. To me it's just a bodily function, and my self image isn't affected one way or the other by how I accomplish the task. 

Quote from: Sandi on May 14, 2006, 04:39:51 PM
One thing I don't comprehend about my pre-op TS friends is the compulsion to sit and pee. To me it's just a bodily function, and my self image isn't affected one way or the other by how I accomplish the task. 

It's all a part of passing, it would look very odd seeing feet pointing in the wrong direction in the "Ladies".  People are more observant the you think   I've noticed that when sitting in the stall to pee you can often see the feet of the person in the next stall.  Imagine what they may think if they saw your feet pointing towards the toilet bowl and heard you pee.  It may spark their interest

Steph

Quote from: Stephanie CraxfordIt's all a part of passing, it would look very odd seeing feet pointing in the wrong direction in the "Ladies".

Yes, true. I suppose I wasn't too clear, and when out anywhere in public I of course do sit but not at home. Plus as well as the feet, you can tell by the sound, probably because your bottom blocks or muffles the sound somewhat.

Quite often in the past I have has quite a few TS friends over to visit (several from Susan's) at my home, and this is the "sitting" I was talking about. I assume that they sit at home as well.

Steph

Funny thing . . .  Even before I came out to myself I preferred (and still do) to sit.  I berated myself for being lazy but more often than not I'd still sit if I had the opportunity and was sure I wouldn't get caught.

So, go figure!

When I consider what I might miss in transitioning I always think about the upper body strength loss.  I kinda like being able to do the things I do that my SO would have trouble with.  I love it when she asks me to help and I can.  But then I figure that what brawn can do brain can do also.

h

I sit down to pee everywhere more out of building up a habit (so I won't miss it).  I'll resort to standing if absolutely necessary, but most of my life, I've always sat down anyways.

Melissa

I'll miss being able to gas up the car, all alone, late at night without really being concerned for my safety.

I'll miss using the bathroom in such a quick and simple process without having to touch any parts of a toilet.

I'll miss being able to shower and be out the door in 15 minutes.

I'll miss pockets. What the heck is it with either no pockets - or those stupid 1" deep ones - in women's clothing?

I'll miss clothes sizes that, you know, make SENSE on some planet of this universe.

I'll miss, as Boylan put it, "one damn mood, ALL the time."

I cannot say that I actually will miss anything terribly but some of the differences now are worth noting.

I can no longer lift a great deal of weight.  I am stronger than most around me but compared to what I could once do, it is nothing.

I can no longer ask any questions relating to a vehicle without having to listen to a very detailed (and sometimes incorrect) explanation of the answer.  Prices for auto work used to be cheaper and I did not have to argue as much to get what had to be done, finished.  No, I never knew a lot about cars but I learned what I had to so I would not be ripped off.

Washing my hair used to mean running a soapy rag through and rinsing.  I could do it at the sink in 5 minutes.  Now it takes me longer to work out the knots in my hair and I would never wash my hair at the sink.

Soon I hope to not miss having the ability to pee while standing up.  While this is a great way to pee when out clubbing or dealing with really nasty bathrooms (the only time I do that now), it also means having that particular part there all of the time.

I am no longer intimidating.  You know in the movies with the really cool action hero walks into a full bar and the whole place goes silent because he is just so golly gee swell with his presence?  I actually had that happen once at a restaurant.  Was branded cool by the current friends forever after that.

I used to be able to hide in a crowd.  Slump the shoulders, wear something plain, and keep to myself.  Being a 6' tall blonde valkyrie draws attention no matter how much you try being a part of the background.

What I have gained makes everything worth while. 

Quote from: LostInTime on May 24, 2006, 04:47:27 PM
Soon I hope to not miss having the ability to pee while standing up.  While this is a great way to pee when out clubbing or dealing with really nasty bathrooms (the only time I do that now), it also means having that particular part there all of the time.

The solution: http://www.poopreport.com/Techniques/Content/Standing/standing.html

Melissa

The peeing thing is really the only thing I'll miss, but I'll admit, it's a big one.  It's not a time factor though, it's the ability to do it at all sometimes.  I can't even count how many times a girl I was with got mad at me because I could pee in the bushes and she had to wait who knows how much longer to even go.  Last week my parents & I took my car to a repair shop that they know.  It's out in the country, and they have no bathroom.  I had to pee very badly, but I couldn't because the two rednecks that run the place are oblivious to my situation (of course that's the way I prefer it).  But as Sandi mentioned though, I wouldn't have gone if it was just me.  It's something mental.  About the only other thing that might relate is intercourse with a woman.  Nobody can understand why (since it still works) I wouldn't have sex with a woman.  Can anyone say glass shattering 

The attitude I get from auto-parts guys or mechanics does suck (since I might very well know more than them), but it's evened out when there's something I don't want to do or need done quickly.  I pull the twist the toe on the ground, bite a finger nail, "Do you think you could help me?" act, and they quickly spring into action 

Amy

Quote from: AmyNYCIt's out in the country, and they have no bathroom.  I had to pee very badly, but I couldn't because the two rednecks that run the place are oblivious to my situation ...). 

Someones going to have to learn how to squat in the bushes.  Been there, done that, had to use part of the Tee shirt.  Ok too much info

Steph

I just thought of something I'll miss.  Being able to eat really messy foods in public without people giving you a second glance.

Melissa

Quote from: Melissa on May 25, 2006, 02:36:14 PMI just thought of something I'll miss.  Being able to eat really messy foods in public without people giving you a second glance.

And without destroying your makeup... I ran into that little problem last night; I went out to dinner with a friend, and made the mistake of ordering shrimp Alfredo!

From now on, I'm only ordering dry, bite-sized foods.

Annie