Quote from: tekla on August 12, 2008, 03:17:14 PM
A lady (or gentleman for that matter) should arrive with their perfume (or aftershave) not after it.
But the perfume wears off by morning and it is just right for the day!
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Tuesday evening August 12th was a rare rainy night in Atlanta. I kept trying to find a way to get a little private time with my daughter but it did not happen.
At 9 PM my youngest daughter said, "Dad do you want to take a walk with our umbrellas?" I of course said sure.
On the walk I told my youngest daughter (16) that I had chatted with her siblings. I asked her if they shared anything and she said no.
I used the same formula. I told her I loved her and asked if she knew about transgendered people and she said yes.
I told her I was TG and asked her if she knew. She then said dad you have been acting strange for about two years. I then told her that her brother acted as if it were news. She said we all kind of knew.
She asked if I always wanted to be a girl and I told her yes but it got worse by the time I was a teenager. She then asked me if I ever tried on my sister's clothes. I said yes but I got too tall early and would not fit in them. (I don't think I ever talked about that to anyone.)
She then asked why I was so muscular if I was a girl. I told her when I entered college I had a number of gay friends and I thought I must be a male. My gay friends liked to show me how to build muscle and I started lifting weights with them.
She then said you seem to like girls. I told her gender is independent of sexual preference. In fact I learned on the internet that some MTF do like girls which surprised me too.
I then told her that I really only like to talk to girls but her mom was different. I thought she was very beautiful. She then asked if I would have wanted a body like her mom's. I said yes.
She then said, "You don't want all those operations do you?" The cat had my tongue and I said nothing. (If I could keep my family, be gainfully employed, and be accepted by society then yes would be my answer.)
She then said, "God gave you an understanding wife and children that love you because you had an internal struggle. You are healthy and have had a good life. Are you glad you have your family?" I told her very much so and I am very lucky.
She then said, "You should not be ashamed and you can not help yourself. This is how you feel and since no one can see it then people will not understand it."
I said your mom says I have to leave if I wear a dress outside of this house. (The dress is a figurative term.) My daughter said you will bring danger to this household if you wear a dress outside. Many people are mean and would hurt you and your family.
She then said I do not think you would be happy as a girl. You will not have your wife or children, we will rarely see you, you will lose your long time friends, you will not find jobs that will support you and you will be very lonely."
We walked around and around the block with our umbrellas in the rain. My daughter seemed to control the conversation. She was not shy with her questions or with her thoughts.
She then started asking me questions about the TG person I joined a couple weeks ago for lunch. (I had told my daughter I had lunch with a friend that I met on the internet. She correctly concluded this was a TG'ed person.)
We even talked about her TG'ed girlfriend and my daughter told me I should give her friend some hormones. I told my daughter that I can not do that because my daughter's friend would tell all her friends that I am TG.
I do not think my daughter knows I take hormones. She knows I take some things.
She then said, "Dad you are a nice looking guy but you just look very male. You chose to get married and have children and your life is nice. We love you and would prefer if you stay with us."
We had an excellent discussion. My 16 year old daughter has always been my most sensitive child.
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I have now told my three children and I think they understand.
