Quote from: Nicky on December 10, 2008, 01:25:15 PM
5. Rebis
Lol!
Yes, having em around is a constant source of frustration, embarrassment and envy.

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6. Lack of recognition and place
How about always feeling just a little like an outsider? Being able to
almost feel like belonging in a group of either men or women, but never getting quite there?
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66. Questions about gender with only 2 options
11. Official documents like a birth certificate
In essence, not even having the option of coming out, as far as official paperwork is concerned.
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12. Titles (particulalry when filling out official forms)
This was one of the definite perks of getting my Ph.D. Of course there are other reasons to be uncomfortable about presenting as Dr. such-and-so when ordering a T-shirt from a web store, but it still feels more right than Mr.

Quote from: Lokaeign on December 10, 2008, 03:35:42 PM
Looking too female
Or not feeling justified to get things fixed. After all, it's supposed to be no big deal.
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Seldom being 100% sure that I'm not just deluding myself
And that goes both ways. Am I deluding myself that my gender issues are closely related to those experienced by binary transsexuals, or am I deluding myself that I'm not one of them?
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Feeling like a failed man
Feeling like a failed woman
Also feeling like a failed TS. There are more gender stereotypes that we are breaking than just the cisgendered ones.
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Feeling guilty for not IDing/presenting as androgyne in more spaces
Feeling guily for presenting as female to prospective empoyers
Worrying that I'm not presenting as female enough and this is affecting my employment prospects
In other words, feeling guilty for taking advantage of the binary presumption. Most people don't expect there to be androgynes, so usually they don't really see us as queer. A lot of the time we still have cissexual privilege, and many of us have male privilege, even after whatever passes for transition. But in the process we've got a few glimpses of how the system works, so having that privilege comes with quite a bit of guilt, and also a constant fear of losing it.
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Feeling like I should just be able to shrug all of this off or sort it out, and if I was "really" 3rd I would just be able to
If gender doesn't matter to me, why does it matter that others don't see my gender? I guess the answer is that the premise is wrong: being androgyne does not mean that gender doesn't matter, just that neither of the two common options fit.
Nice thread, by the by. Thanks.
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