i'm upset but was further enlightened later...and am now kind of relieved...for now.
for the past couple of months her dads side of the family has noticed certain feminine things about me. i've been trying to keep quiet as i knew how they would react,(with complete ignorance and immaturity) so after we left after thanksgiving and her dad left they started asking my sister and brother questions about me, and then my sister told my wife. she told them to remember back when they 1st met me and how i was being a man, i wouldnt talk, i was to myself and when i would talk i'd mumble and that now i talk and will sit down and have a conversation with you, i will go places and do things and that i am comfortable being a woman and that i am more open to people as a woman. they also asked my sister why i am like this and she told them that we think its partly because of my mother and never accepting me as a boy. they also wondered why my wife is staying with me. my sister told them she didnt know but maybe because of the kids, which she doesnt really know why my wife is staying and i dont think she knows either. now the family is wondering about how this is effecting the kids. i'll admit it has seemed to have caused some confusion between my 2 sons. my first son is confused with pronouns to call his siblings and his papa at times. which completely ticks the wife off. so far no one hasn't told me they don't want me back for christmas or in their houses. i really don't plan on them ever changing pronouns, most of them only see me 2 times a year, so they will never have very much practice.
