Quote from: Eamber on August 11, 2009, 11:41:28 AM
The misconception that Asexual people are somehow "Damaged" annoys me.

I've never had any traumatic sexual experiences, and I'm not religious. There is nothing stopping me from wanting to have sex. I just don't feel sexually attracted to anybody. Never have. Oh, boobs, penis... Boring.

Same here. I thought when it was said that being asexual was an abnormality that there was something weird about that. I don't think it's an abnormality, it's just the way we are

Sex: 100% of the pleasure breaks down into: 99% is who you are with, 1% is what you do with/to them. 

Sex: "Between the ears" will always give you a migrane 

Sex on television: You will most definately fall off.

Hugs~

Quote from: Miss LXC 2.0 on August 11, 2009, 04:20:53 PM
Sex: 100% of the pleasure breaks down into: 99% is who you are with, 1% is what you do with/to them. 

That's it.  I think if you find someone you love, you may find that you become sexually attracted to them.  When I was 19, I don't think I'd ever been attracted to anyone, probably for a number of reasons, but once I got in college, particularly in classes that I really loved (like Latin...as stupid as this sounds), I found that I started to be attracted to people in those classes...I suppose because we had the same sort of nerdiness.    It's all in what you like.  Generally, when you like someone, you want to touch them...at least for me, anyway.

Quote from: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 05:01:25 PM
That's it.  I think if you find someone you love, you may find that you become sexually attracted to them.

Edit: Disregard this post. I don't wanna get involved in a conflict..

Quote from: Miniar on August 11, 2009, 02:13:57 PM
And Nothing I've ever experienced can top a good couple of hours, playing in bed, sharing pleasure and understanding of one another's bodies, culminating in a moment of pure physical intimacy. There's just Nothing that tops it.

MDMA.  Sex is still pretty dank though 

Quote from: Walter on August 11, 2009, 08:56:54 PM
Edit: Disregard this post. I don't wanna get involved in a conflict..

Not sure what you said or how you took what I wrote, but I want to point out that I used "may find" for a reason.  I'm not trying to force my experience on anyone else.  I'm just suggesting a possibility.   

...sorry if that's a strange thing to post, but there've been HUGE arguments because of that exact thing...which is why I try to always use words like may, possibly, some people, etc...

Quote from: Jaimey on August 11, 2009, 11:36:05 PM
Not sure what you said or how you took what I wrote, but I want to point out that I used "may find" for a reason.  I'm not trying to force my experience on anyone else.  I'm just suggesting a possibility.   

...sorry if that's a strange thing to post, but there've been HUGE arguments because of that exact thing...which is why I try to always use words like may, possibly, some people, etc...

That's why I edited the post. I had realized you said "may" and I erased it but didn't think of anything else to write

So I wasn't weirded out, I just had a dumb moment and didn't know what to replace the post with :/

Ah, okay.  That's good to know.  It's something I worry about a bit. 

Me too. That's why I try to avoid the serious topics

In my opinion, it's not only gender that's between your ears, but sex as well.  In my household as I become more the woman, my wife becomes more the man.  I'm the one with the pretty nightgown and the soft sents and she is more the agressor.  These roles continue to change as we both change within our perceived roles.  Sex is not overrated, it's all in what you make of it.

Sex is overrated. It's not actually the best thing in the world.

It comes in at number two, with dropping steep pillow lines on bottomless blower winning by a nose.

Trust me, I've done both, and the pillow lines are better. But not by much.

I like it. I can think of a lot worse things to do. 

If you are female-bodied, getting a real, deep orgasm that first time can be elusive. Your damn thing's tiny, and when you try to play with it, its so sensitive it hurts. Until I was in my LATE TWENTIES I knew how to get excited, but had not experienced the actual goal of all the sex play ultimately. Once you learn that, you will not say sex is overrated.

Yes, I used to say sex was overrated too.

If you were born male bodied, it seems to not be such a problem. Hand. Joystick. Aha!

There's a book out, "Becoming Orgasmic" or something like that, there are more than one on this subject actually. They are written for the female-bodied. You need to learn what you are missing! Learn that and even the most casual, harmless "petting" gains a whole new meaning.

Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 05:04:30 AM
Your damn thing's tiny, and when you try to play with it, its so sensitive it hurts.

I had never directly uhm..."touched" mine until a few days ago and when I did...ow. I didn't think it'd be that sensitive

If sex dominates all thoughts and actions the person has a problem. Sex is a small part of any good relationship. I do enjoy sex very much but respect and compassion are more important.

Quote from: James O.O on September 02, 2009, 10:12:23 AM
I had never directly uhm..."touched" mine until a few days ago and when I did...ow. I didn't think it'd be that sensitive

Yep there's the problem. Literally as well as figuratively, you have to learn to love yourself. That means learning to masturbate. Try stroking the area, not the thing, just the mound, lightly and even then, through your undies not directly. Stroke your stomach, play with your chest, just relax and learn what feels good and learn to just plain like yourself. Think about something or someone that gives you sexual feelings, doesn't matter what or who it is, could be Barney the dinosaur, whatever makes you feel a little tingle.

You have to learn to relax and like yourself. Your body has to learn that your hands are not its enemies.

This is very important, your body is like a horse that has to learn that human hands can stroke it and make it feel good, not things that handle it roughly or only pay attention to it to pinch zits etc.

Now, for the orgasm part, I highly recommend getting a good vibrator like a Hitachi Magic Wand. See I used to be in much your same situation, and a friend of mine kept telling me I should get one, and I'd fool with it a bit from time to time, get a bit excited but that was about it. One afternoon I did'nt have much to do, was lying in bed and got it out, and was running it over my crotch with pants on, was daydreaming about this girl I was really hot for, and WOW.

Once you feel that wow, sex is gonna be a LOT less of a mystery.

Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 12:10:56 PM
Yep there's the problem. Literally as well as figuratively, you have to learn to love yourself. That means learning to masturbate. Try stroking the area, not the thing, just the mound, lightly and even then, through your undies not directly. Stroke your stomach, play with your chest, just relax and learn what feels good and learn to just plain like yourself. Think about something or someone that gives you sexual feelings, doesn't matter what or who it is, could be Barney the dinosaur, whatever makes you feel a little tingle.

You have to learn to relax and like yourself. Your body has to learn that your hands are not its enemies.

This is very important, your body is like a horse that has to learn that human hands can stroke it and make it feel good, not things that handle it roughly or only pay attention to it to pinch zits etc.

Now, for the orgasm part, I highly recommend getting a good vibrator like a Hitachi Magic Wand. See I used to be in much your same situation, and a friend of mine kept telling me I should get one, and I'd fool with it a bit from time to time, get a bit excited but that was about it. One afternoon I did'nt have much to do, was lying in bed and got it out, and was running it over my crotch with pants on, was daydreaming about this girl I was really hot for, and WOW.

Once you feel that wow, sex is gonna be a LOT less of a mystery.

I already masturbate. I've done it for years but until a few days ago I didn't like..directly put a finger on that part of the body. On that night I was bored, not sleepy, and I got curious and did the "mirror" thing. While I was using the mirror, I found "that sensitive part" and honestly....didn't know what it was haha. I touched it and I was like "OW wtf is this thing? Oh it must be...yeah that's what it is..I think"

I had to ask someone .____. boy do I feel intelligent

(is pre-op and can only imagine what must happen when someone goes post-op)

Well first you go on T and that makes it GROW .....

Mine was never that sensitive.

Quote from: Alex_C on September 02, 2009, 02:56:19 PM
Well first you go on T and that makes it GROW .....

I had a feeling that's what happened. Oh boy...I've been considering hormones for a few days but gleh...I don't want that part of my body to grow