Quote from: Jay on September 22, 2009, 11:09:00 AM
I guess that I wont be 100% happy with myself.

Jay

I wonder if any human is 100% happy with themself.  Perhaps you mean you will not be happy with the new you?   Be careful of your expectations - they can be a trap.

(Sorry to offer motherly advice, Jay.  I'd like you to be happy, and just pursuing transition if that is what you need, including all its difficulties, hopefully will make you happy.)

That old busybody,
Kate

My biggest fear is not passing.

Failure, isolation, lonelines ... but that never happened.

The biggest challange was overcoming my own fear and paranoia

My BIGGEST fear of transitioning is getting type 2 diabetes/high blood pressure quicker as opposed to later (if ever) since I'm obese.  I know that working out and eating right helps a lot which I have been doing but with my family history and race it's something that may even stop me from going on hormones. 

My second biggest fear is not being able to financially support myself on top of transition costs.

My third biggest fear is not having someone to help me through transitioning.  I don't want to be alone when I will have to go through it.

My fourth biggest fear is being denied getting a metoidioplasty because of my obesity.  If that's the case then I will do gastric bypass if I cannot foresee losing the weight which will just wind up being exra money and time I have to spend dealing with it.

My fifth biggest fear is getting a metoidioplasty but not being able to climax/ejaculate.

My sixth biggest fear is a surgeon botching my work but that will hopefully be combated againt because I check my surgeons credentials and past reviews.

My seventh biggest fear is the possibility of my body rejecting T and so therefore having to stop taking T.  I REALLY hope that doesn't happen.

My eighth biggest fear is regretting transitioning.  I'm pretty sure of myself but that thought is always in the back of my head.

I was afraid I'd lose my daughter, or that I'd mess up her head somehow.

  Being alone and stuck in-between genders.

"Torn between two genders, feeling like a fool..."

Biggest fear: Losing my partner.
Lost my partner.
Biggest fear now: Everything else.

I can say: nothing I was afraid would happen did.

I guess at one point I feared dealing with "passing" everyday would wear on me and take too much time/effort to deal with on an everyday basis. That didn't happen. I was afraid I would lose all my friends, I gained more friends. I was afraid people would see my life as a joke, people respect me BECAUSE of doing this. I could go on....

My biggest fear would have to be... having some sort of sickness or medical problem that would prevent me from transitioning.
Close second would have to be whether I'll ever pass enough.

Definitely losing my family and friends. 

There've always been two eating at me.

One is that no matter what I did or how I carried myself, no one will ever see me as anything but a straight-up dude.

The other is that once I start, I won't be able to finish. I'm afraid I'll wake up friendless and penniless stuck in an "in-between" state: so far that I couldn't detransition even if I wanted to, but not nearly far enough to stop the dysphoria.

Biggest fear for me is knowing this is what I want, and not knowing how I will be able to afford much of it.

Having my father cut off contact with between me and my brothers. I raised those kids. Since I am leaving the country soon though, it wouldn't be hard. My second biggest fear is having to tell those three boys that their "sister" is actually male.

That i'll be dead before it'll happend.

being known as someone who transitioned

Quote from: Luv2Dance on April 02, 2012, 07:37:33 PM
being known as someone who transitioned

There are upsides to this.

Not being able to have SRS... THAT freaked me out. It almost happened twice! The very idea to be stuck in the middle, oh NO! - at least MY idea of 'in the middle'.

All the rest paled by comparison. Now if someone thinks I'm trans, then let THAT be their issue - not mine.
A bit of self-serving arrogance is not a bad thing in this case - I think.

Axélle

Fear of the big operation and fear of it going wrong!

Fear of losing my business in a very male dominated industry which I am very well known and respected in on a national level.

Quite sure I would have to start all over and try to use my skills as an artist in a different field...but in my mind that "fear" could be turned around with enough determination

I fear that because I wasn't born male, because im short, because my body frame is tiny and I cannot give them kids that I will never find a girl that wants me. Thats before we get onto my geeky/immature personality and my lack of confidence.