Have someone near you called out the word "->-bleeped-<-" or "gay people" and it just felt like that person outted you but wasn't talking about you or too you?

If so, is there any bright side (anything you think of?)you use to NOT take offense?
In school, there are some people that say the word gay, and i just feel outted. Rather its gay, lesbian, trans... i belong in that category because we are a family and it just feel like IM outted.
Is there anything i can think of when someone say something that i can use to not take offense?

I have used,"there ignorant and there minds are as little as a roach!" It helps a lot, what do you use?