^^*High Fives, misses, falls flat on face*

When I mention this to people, which I do often, I get written off as some crazy ->-bleeped-<-ing transsexual. Oh well. Their loss. Ha.

Quote from: zombiesarepeaceful on February 27, 2010, 12:41:51 PM
^^*High Fives, misses, falls flat on face*

When I mention this to people, which I do often, I get written off as some crazy ->-bleeped-<-ing transsexual. Oh well. Their loss. Ha.

*picks ya up and dusts ya off. ^5*
You need to hang around with more open minded folks.

I think it has alot to do with the community within which you dwell. It's funny how there are still certain norms, but I really think you will meet lots of people who are into you. I know I have let my own anxiety interfere. I had an oportunity that I let slip by me because I just wasn't sure how to handle the situation. I was lot younger then. I realize now, I am a doer! So I have to at least give it a try. If I get shot down, well hey, it happens, but the only way to know is to put my "feelers" out there and see what happens. If peeps ask me how I identify, I always say, "Does it really matter?" and depending on the way i say it, sometimes it just makes 'em melt(lol sometimes ).  You already have one up on me. I was always afraid to dance...

Gay is hardly a monolith.  I would think that with the more fey crowd it would be fine, and with the Leather and Levi boys it would be much, much harder.

Quote from: tekla on February 28, 2010, 02:47:18 PM
I would think that with the more fey crowd it would be fine, and with the Leather and Levi boys it would be much, much harder.

My limited experience has left me with the opposite impression.

- N

I used to spend quite a few Sunday's at The Stud, SF's gay S&M, Biker, Leather bar because I had a friend who ran a lot of those Sunday benefits.  And of course I'd show up in a yellow sun dress, or something pink, and I'm very fond of frills at times too.  All that made me the only person in there not wearing black or indigo blue.  But so long as I could walk into the semi exposed urinal area, hike up that skirt and piss into it from two feet away like the rest of them it seemed good.  And I got all sorts of 'friendly' offers, to which I'd reply "Thank you, but I'm not a dominatrix, I'm just a world class bitch."  And I know two FtMs who were into that scene, and they were 'accepted' in that people liked them OK I guess, they talked to them, and even let them into the play scenes once in a while, but they never made a real hook up.  There does seem to be a very strong craving for dick, big dick at that - size queens and all - that precludes finding a real someone special in that area of the community I think.

I'm gay. I haven't been out much to know whether I'll be accepted or not, all I know is that finding another guy to date is going to be difficult. I'm barely going to even bother trying, but whatever

Transguy I know who lives here in Auckland, but lived in the states for a number of years said that its a lot easier to hook up with gay men there than it is here XD

Basically cause there's a lot more awareness of FtM's in gay mens spaces in the US. Generally everywhere, its usually the leather bars and bear communities that are a lot more accepting and open-minded about being with Transmen.

Well, I did my 4th show last night at the local gay bar and from what I hear, everyone thought I was a (real) gay boy anyhow