I told my best friend. And he's the only one who knows it, so far (at least I hope so ) I also told him that I knew (from obvious signs which "normal" people couldn't see but I could) he was a CD which was rather cruel of me but I desperately wanted to make a connection so I did it. He immediately got red as a boiled lobster which I found very funny but nevertheless, we talked about it a few more times. Then later he told me he wanted to get rid of the whole CD-thing and when I told him I don't ever want to lose his friendship, I got dumped as well. I guess I reminded him of things he didn't want to remember anymore.

Made me so sad. Never will have anybody who could understand me like that.

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Let's see, the first person I told was my buddy Jimbo... Then I slowly started coming out to my other close friends. I'm very lucky because they're all supportive of me. (: I told them it doesn't matter which pronouns they use right now because I'm still not out to mostly all of my family yet. I definitely don't want my parents to overhear them using male pronouns!

As for my family, the first person I told was my aunt, whom I've known since I was like 4-5. She said she wasn't really surprised because she kinda knew all along...  Of course, she told my uncle what I was going through and I have their support as well. Of course I still can't bind or do anything to pass as male because I'm not out to everyone and still depend on my parents... but it's wonderful to know I have support. (:

When I was trying to figure out what/who I am, I came here and joined and read and told a friend of 2 years. She ended up forcing me out to my wife who shut it down hard. Since I have told 2 people in trust that I have know a very long time and it's going great. We are going to be having a girls night soon. I am hoping we go look at clothes, get smoothies, and if I am brave enough a manicure. If I was to go bolder than ever I would even like to try and find a nice bra. But for now baby steps. I now have to close confidants that know me as a girl now.

The first person I really told? My partner, last summer.

The first people I let know that I wished I was born male and basically considered myself a dude (and somehow it didn't occur to me--or them-- that I was trans)? Apparently most of my frickin' friends in middle and high school. It's surreal thinking about the stuff I actually said out loud (or on livejournal, haha) back then.

The first and only person I have told is my wife of 10 years.  She was like "duh, you must be the last to know".  She has been very supportive....she helped me measure & buy my first binder ... she helped me put it on for the first couple months....and she has gone with my for a consultation on my breast reduction surgery.  After, what I have read on this site I am kinda nervous about how our relationship will last once the ball is rolling per se

It's hard to say because I did a lot of "testing the waters" for years.  I think the first person I told in a way that made it clear I was serious was my friend (who was then my boyfriend).  He was really nice about it, basically said it didn't matter to him, that it didn't affect how he saw me.  He did say that if my body became a lot more masculine, he might not be attracted to me anymore (which I think is realistic, and I appreciated his honesty) but that otherwise, everything would be the same.  He didn't mind if I packed sometimes.  It was always, "Do whatever makes you happy."  I know I'm really lucky to have him in my life. 

Mine was my cousin just today  It was very nerve racking, but took it really good.

Quote from: Mktwigg on September 08, 2010, 08:51:44 PM
Mine was my cousin just today  It was very nerve racking, but took it really good.

CONGRATS!
It gets easier from here.

Quote from: cynthialee on September 08, 2010, 09:00:54 PM
CONGRATS!
It gets easier from here.

It slightly feels like it.

My ex-girlfriend, who I'm best friends with now. She helped me discover myself, to be honest.

I took the easy way out, chose a friend I know from when I was at university, who's the national student union LGBT officer.

Me: "So, you know your title, which of those letter do you think apply to me?"
Friend: "G or B?"
Me: "Nope."
Friend: "T? "
Me: "Yup."
Friend: "Oh. OH! "

I told my boyfriend a few days ago. He says he's fine with it, says he already knew. Says that who I am is interesting and beautiful, and that he loves me. But he's straight, so what's he going to do if I start transitioning? I don't know, but the world didn't end when I told somebody. I always thought it would.

Technically the first person I came out to was my best friend, who's also my stylist and makeup guru. At the time, it was a crazy idea that I wanted to crossdress and go as an androgyne to Disneyland to celebrate a friend's birthday who pleaded us to "dress up" as goth or pirates if we went. My friend laughed and said, "Are you serious? That sounds awesome!" Then, progressively, during the weeks leading towards my friend's birthday, I've told her my feelings about it and opened up a lot more. She noticed that I was settling comfortably into being Lexine that she noticed that I seemed to be whole as a person. So I guess in a way, by doing this I slowly discovered a part of myself that laid dormant and, together with my best friend, we've found Lexine amidst all the drama happening in my life at the time.

The first person to know was an online friend (who I'm very close with now and plan to meet soon). I had become somewhat popular or well-accepted, if you want to put it that way, into a small online community. Nobody there knew what my gender was and for some reason it had become a hot topic in the chat box... people would always ask, and make guesses, and constantly question why I didn't just say it. I laughed it off and said I had no gender and that they didn't need to worry about it. The truth was, I was questioning and confused at the time. I didn't know how to answer such a simple question. This friend (who was an administrator on the site) and I had formed a friendship through MSN and one day, after being frustrated that someone called me an "it" in the chat box in front of everyone, I told her... after making her guess and flounder around in confusion and curiosity. After that point she put her foot down whenever someone tried to make my gender an issue. Much later after this website shut down and the community disbanded, this friend acted as support when I came out to "real-life" friends at school and eventually, family.

I suppose technically the first person was my ma. When I officially came out to her she told me that she remembered a moment when I was much younger and told her I was going to "grow up to be a boy named Tommy", at which point she told me that she liked Noah better. From my own memories, however...

First person was my third ex (at the time she wasn't an ex, I didn't even think we were in a relationship at that point), but admittedly that was largely because there were discussions of meeting in person while she was visiting family a couple hours away from where I live, so the issue was sort of forced. We don't really talk anymore, but that has nothing to do with my being transgendered: she was openly accepting and supportive of that. It's more, I suppose, a developed clash of personalities in a way.

Kind of toying with the idea of making my own "coming out" thread, to be honest...I wanted to include more but didn't want to post a novel here, haha!

mine is my sister since we have very close relationship. I felt I can trust her. I am happy to told her and she is the strong supporter for my transition since then.

The first time I mentioned anything was way back when I was 5. I told my mom one day "I wish I was a boy." and never brought it up again.

The first person I told about actually wanting to go and get things done to become a guy physically was my best friend. I've been friends with him for 12+ years, ever since we were kids. We always joke about fate screwing with me and making me a chick. I didn't really need to come out, he just knows me so well. Though, one day I did just straight up say "Man, when I move out I'm getting a sex change." and his response was "Go for it." Hehe, I'm lucky to have such a great friend.

My brother also knows, I just confessed to him one day that I really wished I was a dude and he pretty much replied that he knew already. Probably 'cause when we were younger I'd always tell him things like "Today, I'm gonna be your big brother" and we'd spend the day playing with Hotwheels baha.

I've hinted to my mom but she just plays dumb. One time we were talking about surgeries and she got pissed at me. She lectured me about how could an FTM get chest surgery when there are women with breast cancer who have to remove their breasts because of disease. I just gave up at that point.

I also told a very close friend I knew online, she wasn't too happy. Turns out she had developed some feelings for me and wasn't happy to learn that I wasn't a bio guy. Never making that mistake again.

An internet friend that I'm very, very close to and that I plan to meet one day. She accepts me and she knows how much being biologically female bothers me. In fact, she helped me accept myself. She always reassures me that I'm not a freak and that it's normal, etc.
I really love her, to be honest.

Anyway, I'm not going to get all mushy. That's not my type of thing.

She's the first person I told. My real life best friend is an ass and didn't believe me when I told her because "I'm too girly". Sure, I'm effeminate, but what does that have to do with anything?

Strangely enough, just as I was struggling with my gender identity a friend that I was chatting to mentioned that one of my ex-boyfriends was trans (so i guess my ex-girlfriend).
So I quickly tracked her down and she was the first person that I told 

Worked out quite well I must say.

First person I told was my sister. We live opposite coasts. But when I told her she was supportive and wished she could have been here in person. Told my brother the following day and he was like oh I was talking to mom and talking about how she thought I was going to be woman. Which is funny because I came out to her this afternoon and told her my intentions and told her my name I have picked. She was like that is so odd because I
wanted to name my daughter if I'd I had another one Jennifer   Coming out isn't that horrible just have to be preparEd for the good and the bad.


Jennifer