Like I said here a few months ago:  https://www.susans.org/forums/index.php/topic,76875.0.html

"I've noticed that a lot of the post-op girls have left Susan's & the few that remain don't post anymore.  Normal (Yeah I know..that word again ) life is so addictive, so it isn't that difficult to comprehend why they/we leave.  I've been seriously considering leaving too because I feel that there's nothing for me here anymore .  Do you feel the same way or is it just me?"

Yeah, life's been marvelous & hectic at the same time since I had my GRS a little over a year ago.  The normalcy I've achieved is beyond what I could've imagined.  This is what life is.  This is what my life was supposed to be.

I often hear people on here complain and fight about who is "more trans than thou".  How ridiculous!!  There are those peeps that even say "I'm not trans-anything" .  That's cool if that's true, but if you aren't "trans-anything", then the question remains:  WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?  (IN A TRANSGENDER SUPPORT SITE).

I've recently discovered that I'm not trans-anything anymore.  In the past, even post-op, I still saw myself as a trans-something, but all that's changed, and I've realised that I'm a woman, nothing else.  I don't believe that I'm better than anyone else here.  No, that is not what this is is about.

On the contrary, you guys have supported me throughout my transition; you've been there when I had GRS and I needed someone the most.  That's why I've come to say good bye.  I must go now.  I'm cured and yeah I'm not trans-anything anymore.  I'm going out there to live my life as the woman I've always been without the "trans" stuff just like all those people that left before me. 

Thank you all very kindly for all your marvelous support and compassion.  Please delete my account.

Fair winds and a following sea, Valentina.

I hope your new journey into life is a pleasure cruise.

Hugs

bon voyage'

Have a wonderful journey Valentina.

Quote from: Valentina on October 09, 2010, 02:49:38 PM
if you aren't "trans-anything", then the question remains:  WHAT ARE YOU DOING HERE?  (IN A TRANSGENDER SUPPORT SITE).

And as I said in the previous thread : Some of us who have covered the ground feel a calling to remain, or as in my case to return after a long absence, in order to offer some of that help and support otherwise it could all to easily become a case of the blind leading the blind.

But if that is not your calling then I agree. The end of the road is a good time to depart.

So fare well and good luck. It is you decision of course but I suggest that unless you particularly want all trace of you removed, you simply remove your avatar and any personal information and render your account here dormant. Then at a later date if you did decide to return for some reason...

I wish you a long happy and successful life.

Best wishes for a happy adventure... Take care

Hugs 

Hiya,

I've come to the same conclusion so my avatar is changed and my profile info deleted. I may occasionally come back with a question or two but for now its also time to go and live my life. Susan's for me has changed as so many of the people I had some kind of contact with have also gone so Its time for me too.

So to all my friends at Susan's take care and be all you want to be.

Stardust

Take care Stardust. Miss you.

take care Stardust.  Fair winds and a following sea on your journey of life.

Hugs

Good luck to you both starting a new chapter of your lives.

Good luck on your journeys Valentina and Stardust, may they be filled with bliss.

Vaarwel!

I agree with Perlita, it is sad that Valentina and stardust have decided to leave. They have so much to offer, so much experience, support, their own lives to share.

My experience however, suggests that little will change their minds other than themselves.

I do, however, understand that they want to live the lives they've fought so hard to achieve.

Good luck Stardust and Valentina!  Enjoy your closure, it was fun whilst you were here.


Personally, I can't seem to find closure, but I'm not sad about that, life is about continuance and evolution.  I have pending issues of SRS revision in Jan '11, and *finally* getting my birth certificate changed in 2 weeks!   But, something tells me there will be other things that pop up, that I will consult on here about.  Something tells me that someone here, new or old, will post up a question, that's so odd, that it just happens to fall within my realm of experience, and I can help them, to pay it forward for those up and coming folks.  Maybe making their road a lil bit easier.

Take Care!  I wish you both the best!
Melan

Well Valentina, at the risk of sounding a bit in your face, that's pretty selfish of you.  You come here because you need our support.  You get that support, much of it from members who have stayed after transition.  And then when YOU don't need US anymore, you say farewell and "delete my account".

Nice.

We all start out as students.  Then we become practitioners.  And, for some at least, we decide to pass on what we have learned.  The student becomes the teacher.  This has been going on as long as humans have populated the earth.  For all those here who helped me I am grateful, the least I can do is help those coming "up the ranks".  It's how we learn.  It's how we get better.  It's how we grow stronger.

Quote from: Julie Marie on October 12, 2010, 08:24:15 AM
Well Valentina, at the risk of sounding a bit in your face, that's pretty selfish of you.  You come here because you need our support.  You get that support, much of it from members who have stayed after transition.  And then when YOU don't need US anymore, you say farewell and "delete my account".

Nice.

We all start out as students.  Then we become practitioners.  And, for some at least, we decide to pass on what we have learned.  The student becomes the teacher.  This has been going on as long as humans have populated the earth.  For all those here who helped me I am grateful, the least I can do is help those coming "up the ranks".  It's how we learn.  It's how we get better.  It's how we grow stronger.

Well that is their choice in life and I'm happy for them. Just moving on in life, trying to have a somewhat normal life that they should have had from the beginning. I too have decided to move on in life, I reached my 6 month postop recently and have more important things to do in life such as trying to find a job to support myself and my future. I wasn't going to chime in but after reading this decided to. Myself and others I know just left the community completely here in my home city due to the high level of drama and such. We have just moved on in life. It is the persons own choice what to do in life and not others. Respect each others choices in life we might have a commonality in life but we are all still individuals and choice and happiness is the most important thing.

Respect!

Good luck and fare well, my sister!

Feeling normal is great, isn't it?

-Sandy

I transitioned and had SRS at 24, in 1974. It was a LONG hard road that nearly took my life repeatedly and DID claim the lives of many that I knew. When I achieved my own miraculous liberation, I wanted nothing more than to live a dull ordinary life, which I did for 30 years. I didn't consider myself "trans-anything", just a woman, and got on with life.

Decades passed and I didn't think about it again until I was nearly 50 and single again. Through the anonymity of the Internet, I ventured out to see what the current state of the world was like. Much has changed but some things haven't.

Being so "ancient" I feel my contribution is mostly as a historian 

I have to say that, part of me agrees with Julie Marie.

Though, I doubt it will make any difference, so I wish them both well.

If either or both do come back it will be really nice to see them again.

While I respect and understand your decision, I do agree with  Perlita and Julie Marie.
After recieving advice from those who travelled the road before you, you could pass that wisdom to the persons who follow in your footsteps.
Then again, I am in no position to talk as I have nothing to give to you kind people and my girlfriend is also not very active here.

Any road, good luck and may you find lifelong happyness.

Quote from: pkmvancouver on October 12, 2010, 10:04:27 AM
Well that is their choice in life and I'm happy for them. Just moving on in life, trying to have a somewhat normal life that they should have had from the beginning. I too have decided to move on in life, I reached my 6 month postop recently and have more important things to do in life such as trying to find a job to support myself and my future. I wasn't going to chime in but after reading this decided to. Myself and others I know just left the community completely here in my home city due to the high level of drama and such. We have just moved on in life. It is the persons own choice what to do in life and not others. Respect each others choices in life we might have a commonality in life but we are all still individuals and choice and happiness is the most important thing.

Respect!

I completely agree with you on this.  It's their choice and nobody owes anybody anything here or anywhere else.  And to be quite honest, I see this sort of emplied "debt" to the community a bit offensive to say the least, but we'd better leave it at that.  Sigh.

Good luck Valentina and Stardust.