As blunt as Blanche's post is, I also undrstand some of what she's on about.

I don't dount she has met some obnoxious and beligerant post ops. I'm sorry to hear that.

But I too wish her well.

Quote from: Valeriedances on November 15, 2010, 10:09:00 AMThere are many areas of the site, but none seem to be the right fit for the fully transitioned person to discuss life topics and support with others in like position. I wish an area like that could be added, which could be a wonderful place to keep in touch with each other in some manner and to hear our milestones as life goes on.

That is something I very  much miss, having "transitioned" nearly 37 years ago and knowing NO ONE in the same situation! 95% of life "stealth" is just woman's life and can be discussed with girlfriends but that remaining 5% is unique and only others in the same situation could begin to understand the implications. In all my years I have met only one other who transitioned in the early 70's and lived stealth - needless to say, we are friends and talk often.

Quote from: Northern Jane on November 15, 2010, 11:56:52 AM
That is something I very  much miss, having "transitioned" nearly 37 years ago and knowing NO ONE in the same situation! 95% of life "stealth" is just woman's life and can be discussed with girlfriends but that remaining 5% is unique and only others in the same situation could begin to understand the implications. In all my years I have met only one other who transitioned in the early 70's and lived stealth - needless to say, we are friends and talk often.

As much as I can contribute to this conversation (not being post-op) I would echo the same sentiments.  The same insecurities about our bodies, our sanity will still be there when its all said and done.  And yes, 95% of the time having a poor self image of your post-op body can be discussed with those around you, but that 5% of the time when you can't just open up about your issues without having to educate even the most well meaning about your life story, there is a need for a place like this.

I'd even go so far as to admit, I am passing through myself (even as I just start the journey), there will come a time when I just want to live my life and not be trans anymore.  But until we live in a world where we can dismiss our trans past as "yeah I had that surgically corrected years ago.  Would you be a dear and pass the sugar?" and not watch the room go silent there will alway be a place for all of us here.

Quote from: regan on November 15, 2010, 12:12:11 PMThe same insecurities about our bodies, our sanity will still be there when its all said and done.  And yes, 95% of the time having a poor self image of your post-op body can be discussed with those around you, but that 5% of the time when you can't just open up about your issues without having to educate even the most well meaning about your life story, there is a need for a place like this.

Personally I have no issues with my body - I rather like it  The topics that are unique are things like long-term HRT (like many decades), dealing with certain female medical questions (giving enough information without blowing one's stealth), and if/when/how to address the issue with a potential partner.

Hi Northern Jane I too have transitioned and live stealth for over 32 yrs , and I have to say not having a few sister friends to be able to confide in ,has been something ive missed too !!!!!   , I am glad that i was able to find susans , it allowed me into some of these womens worlds and I have learned a thing or two ........ this coming from a woman who had NO idea there were such things available like  voice lessons,HRT,Spiro  ?? I had no idea what they were nor that these things exsisted ,THANK GODDDD for orchis lol lol and not needing letters in the 70's lol all this to say I am 89 days away from my day , and I am NOT NOR HAVE I EVER BEEN TRANS ANYTHING , I am a WOMAN ,lol lol  and although we may have a few shall we say real winners   on this forum all in all I think its a great place to come and share our lifes experiences without judging others ,or crucifying them for there choices ...........




HUGS AND KISSES LADIES <3

Hi Girls and Boys Just an old broad here throwing in her two cent I just stoped by here a few days ago havent been here for many years. after all what does transistion mean. To many of us it is a dream a dream of living a so called normal life. moving from one place in life to another, I have been transistioning since before Stonewall all through the 60'S and 70's and so forth I guess I finshed my transisition about 15 years ago now I'm just the old lady next door. I think for me all I wanted all my life was to be what I am now. Not really the old lady but that is where we are all going. We go through hell to change what we feal is not right and the world fights us all the way. Then we reach a platu in life that we fought for, normalcy. HEE HEE big joke what is normal. But seriously, This is what we have strived for, not to be read anymore, passing every day, after awile it just gets like this is the way it was supposta be this is what I went through hell for. Just to live and let live to be able to live life as a member of society and not be singled out as a ->-bleeped-<- or crossdresser or what ever. I will say this for some of you younger kids It gets borrrrring but it's ok.
It's all most like fighting a war their is a lot of preperation ,learning to do do things different a lot of pain and suffering then the transistion of coming home to peace and quiet injoying the fruts of ones labor its kinda nice that its all over just to be a citizen in the the big world. You can put your uniform and purple hearts away in a drawr and just blend into society. Some of us will stay around in the life style forever its where they are comfortable and that is a good thing.Some of us just blend in to the big melting pot of homosapiens that make up the world. Be all that you wish to be! and be a good one. Harm none allong the way,All Blessings to each and everyone     Thanks for allowing me to visit       Nadine

What is my debt and to whom do I owe?

Quote from: Natasha on December 15, 2010, 11:28:06 PM
What is my debt and to whom do I owe?

Three hell maurys.

i have never been involved in hte trans community, and there is pool of guilt in me for not giving out more even if it is information about my srs...i am hoping to do more for transgendered youth.

and yes you are no longer a trans female...but you owe it to those that seek help and need information

Best wishes to those of you who chose to just live your life, I'm sure there will always be a place here for you if you need it.