The way I figure it, after the swelling goes down. I will look the way I was supposed to look only more feminine, like Julie and Melissa, (and others here) I was blessed with a v ery deminine face pre-FFS. SF is ground zero for trans-awarenss and having pretty face but with male features just doesn't cut it here. I too had that worry about losing my identity. It is really an irrational fear. Let's say one was 100 lbs overweight, would one worry about losing the weight because it would make their face dramatically different? Sometimes some of these fears are more or less rationalization.
One thing that needs to be considered is that trans awareness will become more and more prevalent as time goes by, Dr. O told me about several cases in which transwomen had been living for years as feamle, suddnely started getting "sirred" so after living as much as twenty years as female, they decided that they needed FFS.
I was watching Dr Drew the other day on sexual attraction and a Professor from UCLA was mentioning the things that men look for in women. She said first men look at waist to hip ratio, then fullness of lips, after that, a soft jaw line. I was in denial about my jaw, I looked dramatically more feminine witht the forehead and other stuff but the jaw really bugged me. As the sweilling is going down, I can really start to see the difference it's going to make (Dr O saw it before the swelling and said I am going to look really great)
For people like me Pre-ffs, Julie and Melissa,who don't have the severe brow bossing, the jawline can make a big difference, I chose Dr O because I don't want anyone but the best mesing with my face but there are a lot of surgeons who can do sliding genioplasties, probably very well and without spending a fortune.