Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 09:32:58 PM
I think you give yourself less credit than you deserve.

*Hugs*

You are plennnnnnty brave.

Maybe. Idk. I can barely tell my family I'm trans, let alone strangers. haha thanks though.

Quote from: Britney♥Bieber on January 16, 2011, 09:45:27 PM
Maybe. Idk. I can barely tell my family I'm trans, let alone strangers. haha thanks though.

One step at a time. You don't have to do it all at once. You are brave enough to know what you need to do and acting upon that.

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 09:52:16 PM
One step at a time. You don't have to do it all at once. You are brave enough to know what you need to do and acting upon that.

True. Thanks babe. 🙂

Quote from: Jacquelyn on January 16, 2011, 09:52:16 PM
One step at a time. You don't have to do it all at once. You are brave enough to know what you need to do and acting upon that.

I think Britney's biggest problem is her lack of self confidence. She's beautiful, she's mastered her voice, her hair she is kind, thoughtful. She is everything that a girl can be and many things that a lot of GG girls won't ever be. 

But is so frightened of every little step that it hurts her. 

So Britney remember the little train the could.
"I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!"

love and hugs Britney.  I'm here for you little sister.

Simone.

She is everything that a girl can be and many things that a lot of GG girls won't ever be. 

That's kind of a crippling attitude to have to walk around with.  At its base it means that no matter what, she will never be one of them, and I don't think that's true.

Quote from: tekla on January 16, 2011, 11:56:14 PM
She is everything that a girl can be and many things that a lot of GG girls won't ever be. 

That's kind of a crippling attitude to have to walk around with.  At its base it means that no matter what, she will never be one of them, and I don't think that's true.

I think you totally miss understand me
What I am saying is she is more then most GG girls are now already. 
Not sure I understand how you miss understood me. But I am sure you did.

Quote from: Simone V on January 16, 2011, 10:36:06 PM
I think Britney's biggest problem is her lack of self confidence. She's beautiful, she's mastered her voice, her hair she is kind, thoughtful. She is everything that a girl can be and many things that a lot of GG girls won't ever be. 

But is so frightened of every little step that it hurts her. 

So Britney remember the little train the could.
"I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Think I Can" "I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!""I Can!"

love and hugs Britney.  I'm here for you little sister.

Simone.

Wow simone, that really means a lot to me. I'm getting better. I'm getting there. At least I feel good about myself now though, that's new. 🙂 I'm being positive most of the time. 🙂

QuoteAt least I feel good about myself now though, that's new.  I'm being positive most of the time. 

Now that's the attitude to have.  Your a beautiful young lady with a long life ahead of you.
So just go for it girl.
Hugs

Quote from: Jillieann on January 17, 2011, 05:11:38 AM
Now that's the attitude to have.  Your a beautiful young lady with a long life ahead of you.
So just go for it girl.
Hugs

Thanks a million bb! Much love!

hi, i'm going through the name problem too. my mom, i know supports me. my dad is just indifferent. my mom said that he said something like "oh, i've failed him as my son." i've been on hrt for a while, i've been growing my hair, dressing more female. when i'm hearing my boy name, and getting called "he," i just feel like a fool and it's really starting to piss me off now. alot of the time i just wish i could been assigned a female at birth. i feel like these cisgendered girls just have this gold card that i wish i had. all because of the genitals they are born with.

xxUltraModLadyxx,
That is some virulent gender dysphoria creating some pretty real anger in you. I hear that. Anger is a lot better than depression, so that's a small blessing. (Are you seeing a gender therapist?) I would love to just give you the "gold card" I was born with, being cisgendered and all, but, you know, it is mine to bear. Do you successfully keep in mind the suffering that natal females also endure? The general lack of power and respect, the lower wages, the degrading cat calls, etc. If you can find the feminist within, you might begin to enter into your womanhood with a little more humility and forgiveness for those in the world who naturally assume you would prefer to be a male. I do not mean to challenge you too hard; I know something of the pain that the old name and pronoun cause; my dear partner usually suffered depression rather than anger at hearing her old name. So I applaud your spunk.  😉 Ruby

Quote from: xxUltraModLadyxx on January 17, 2011, 06:05:33 PM
hi, i'm going through the name problem too. my mom, i know supports me. my dad is just indifferent. my mom said that he said something like "oh, i've failed him as my son." i've been on hrt for a while, i've been growing my hair, dressing more female. when i'm hearing my boy name, and getting called "he," i just feel like a fool and it's really starting to piss me off now. alot of the time i just wish i could been assigned a female at birth. i feel like these cisgendered girls just have this gold card that i wish i had. all because of the genitals they are born with.

I know how you feel, and it really sucks. 🙁 Its quite degrading to feel that way. Just know you're being strong and brave. Being you is really hard. But you're doing it. Try not to get TOO mad though. That's not good for anyone.

Quote from: rubywendt on January 17, 2011, 06:52:23 PM
xxUltraModLadyxx,
That is some virulent gender dysphoria creating some pretty real anger in you. I hear that. Anger is a lot better than depression, so that's a small blessing. (Are you seeing a gender therapist?) I would love to just give you the "gold card" I was born with, being cisgendered and all, but, you know, it is mine to bear. Do you successfully keep in mind the suffering that natal females also endure? The general lack of power and respect, the lower wages, the degrading cat calls, etc. If you can find the feminist within, you might begin to enter into your womanhood with a little more humility and forgiveness for those in the world who naturally assume you would prefer to be a male. I do not mean to challenge you too hard; I know something of the pain that the old name and pronoun cause; my dear partner usually suffered depression rather than anger at hearing her old name. So I applaud your spunk.  😉 Ruby

i think anger drives me more than getting depressed. i have depression, and i've been depressed alot, it makes it hard to do anything, but at least when you're angry, it gives you a reason to try and change things.

Quote from: Britney♥Bieber on January 17, 2011, 06:56:34 PM
I know how you feel, and it really sucks. 🙁 Its quite degrading to feel that way. Just know you're being strong and brave. Being you is really hard. But you're doing it. Try not to get TOO mad though. That's not good for anyone.

yeah, it is. the problem is that no matter how much i look female, act female, and feel female. the people who know i've been assigned male at birth are just going to think of me as some kind of male, that i'm not. that's why i don't talk to most of them, because i know i won't get the kind of respect i want. my mom used to not understand it, but i think she does now, maybe.

Ruby.

That was a really intelegent response. I hope xxUltraModLadyxx enjoyed it as much as I did.

Quote from: xxUltraModLadyxx on January 18, 2011, 12:40:58 PM
yeah, it is. the problem is that no matter how much i look female, act female, and feel female. the people who know i've been assigned male at birth are just going to think of me as some kind of male, that i'm not. that's why i don't talk to most of them, because i know i won't get the kind of respect i want. my mom used to not understand it, but i think she does now, maybe.

I know how you feel. I asked my sisters and bestie to call me britney and she but nope. They still "can't" do it. I just gotta wait it out and hope it doesn't take them too long to adjust to it

Quote from: Britney♥Bieber on January 18, 2011, 03:08:01 PM
I know how you feel. I asked my sisters and bestie to call me britney and she but nope. They still "can't" do it. I just gotta wait it out and hope it doesn't take them too long to adjust to it

i hope it works for you. i hope it works for me too. when they say the "can't" it sounds more like they just don't want to yet. oh well, i guess we can only do our part. i'm thinking of just not answering to my boy name pretty soon.

Quote from: xxUltraModLadyxx on January 18, 2011, 03:16:15 PM
i hope it works for you. i hope it works for me too. when they say the "can't" it sounds more like they just don't want to yet. oh well, i guess we can only do our part. i'm thinking of just not answering to my boy name pretty soon.

I've tried that but my sister said she just won't talk to me. =/

Quote from: Britney♥Bieber on January 18, 2011, 03:22:06 PM
I've tried that but my sister said she just won't talk to me. =/

Britney love, sweetie, darling!

there are many people in the world that would be excited about the prospect of they're sisters shutting up for once!

Call it a blessing and only answer to Britney from now on.
If they can't see a girl in front of them. They are blind.

Hugs tightly
Simone.

QuoteCall it a blessing and only answer to Britney from now on.
If they can't see a girl in front of them. They are blind.

How did you know what I was thinking Simone?
Yes, try that Britney.
If that doesn't work at least she won't be calling you by a male name.
That's a blessing.
Jillieann