Quote from: rosetyler on November 18, 2011, 08:03:32 PM
I'm here to educate myself and help where I can.  (I'm not trans*.)

Kia Ora Rose,

It's nice to see that you're here to help where you can...

Metta Zenda

I don't need personal support ( jock strap    ) since i got rid of that thang 14 yrs ago 

^OMGROFLMFAO and just spit all over my iPad.

It is better to support, than be supported.

Quote from: Michelle. on November 20, 2011, 01:30:21 AM


It is better to support, than be supported.

Kia Ora Michelle,

Very true...At times when one supports others one is also supporting oneself- it can be very therapeutic...

Metta Zenda  

Been thinking on this thread since it posted...

Mainly I come here to keep an eye out for those girls (and rare guy) who I conect with and cheer them on.

When I first came here I was a mess. I needed support and got it in spades.
Occasionally I still need support myself.

There are a few people here I consider friends so I come for that.

I am not finished my transition. As long as I have this thing between my legs I can not be finished. I am still marked with the indelible mark of maleness. That hurts, sometimes enough to require some emotional support.
{But I try to keep in mind that I have transitioned further than I could have 100 years ago or more. HRT, BA were not available back then. Castration also, although it has always been available it has been probably the BEST thing I did for my transition.}

Anyways...

Yes I come for personal suport and I also come here to offer what support I can.

Quote from: Zenda on November 18, 2011, 12:50:05 PM
Kia Ora Annette,

I take it you transitioned quite a while back...Were you part of any online support group or a real world support group when you transitioned ?

Metta Zenda

No sweetie, in that time there was no internet, we are talking about 34 years ago, the only one you could rely on was yourself.
I lost everything, marriage, job, family and friends, and had to start from the scratch again, but it wasn't too bad, it makes one strong.
In that time it was not possible to change name and gender in a legal way.
There were only a few persons I met at the hospital who are there for the same reason as I, so sometimes it was a bit lonely but one way or another I was building on a new life again.

And....to be honest, it's a very good life, family came back after srs, new friends, new job, new marriage.
I don't complain.

Hugs
Annette

Quote from: annette on November 21, 2011, 05:27:47 AM
No sweetie, in that time there was no internet, we are talking about 34 years ago, the only one you could rely on was yourself.
I lost everything, marriage, job, family and friends, and had to start from the scratch again, but it wasn't too bad, it makes one strong.
In that time it was not possible to change name and gender in a legal way.
There were only a few persons I met at the hospital who are there for the same reason as I, so sometimes it was a bit lonely but one way or another I was building on a new life again.

And....to be honest, it's a very good life, family came back after srs, new friends, new job, new marriage.
I don't complain.

Hugs
Annette

Kia Ora Annette,

Spoken like a true survivor, I'm glad to hear things worked out for you in the end...

On a personal note I lost my marriage but not my family and friends[well apart from one who didn't respond to my coming out letter-but he's friendship is no great lose]...

I attended a 'real life' support group a couple of times to find out about local trans-friendly mental health and medical professionals[At the time of my transition even though it was there, I didn't have access to the internet 1997/8] ...The info I got from the group helped heaps as I was at a lose as to how to go about transitioning...

Metta Zenda  

I am here for support. There is little information in Spanish about trans people and my bf , who is FtM, doesn´t understand a word in English; I am helping him to surf in this forum, and we have found a lot of experiences of people like us. It has been a relief for us.

Also, I am trying to share a part of our relationship in case it could help other people.

  I attended a 'real life' support group a couple of times to find out about local trans-friendly mental health and medical professionals[At the time of my transition even though it was there, I didn't have access to the internet 1997/8] ...The info I got from the group helped heaps as I was at a lose as to how to go about transitioning...

Hi Zenda

It's not bad to get the information you need, some people are further in transition and you can take advantage of their knowledge.
In my time it just wasn't there but that didn't matter, I knew what direction I wanted to go and I was determinated to do so.
I knew I was a girl from young age, the only thing was that there was something wrong with my body.
During childhood I was oppressed for my feelings, once I was a grown up it was  time to let her free.
I didn't even know it was possible in my country but I knew it was possible in England so, if nessecairy I would go to England.
It was a pleasant surprise that everything was also available in Amsterdam, I asked my general practicioner for it, he didn't knew it either but he had colleagues to ask.
Since transition was behind my back, my life is just a big party, so much fun.
I don't have problems, with work, friends or relatives and I still enjoy every day of the life I have now.
So. I'm in the position to give support.

Hugs
Annette