I have met 2 of my ex-girlfriends and my girlfriend  online...I was with one for 3 years and the other 4 and a half years.....My gf and I have been together for a year now...I was pre-T when I met both of my ex gf and I was 7 months on T when I met my gf.

I always put male as my gender marker. We got to know each other and when I felt it was right...I told them about me being a transman. So far so good.

Just be yourself and you will find someone. You are a male regardless of body parts or being pre-T.

Tell you what - am currently talking with two guys who messaged me first. One after I took my trans status off my profile, one before - and he's also trans. He's also shown an interest in meeting up! There is hope on this site after all

Quote from: CountryBoy120390 on December 14, 2011, 02:16:55 AM
And how do you bring the trans thing up once you are talking to somoene?

I tend to be as blunt and as casual as possible, and I make sure they have plenty of room to respectfully back out if my trans status bothers them.

This week I actually added 'COCKLESS TRANSMAN' to my profile, because I'm stressed and not up for dealing with things diplomatically at the moment. I'll probably take it down when I feel more competent.

I just joined a new site and messaged somebody who replied with "I only date cisgender men." I don't understand that.

I can't believe this thread is still going! I've talked to a few people, but they usually disappear after a few messages. I don't have my trans status on there, but thinking of putting it. I look 12 in my profile picture and put age 26. I think people might get the idea I'm trans. I get no action on my profile. Like 1 view a week and no messages. I'm a loser. lol

Nygeel,

That's interesting that he/she used the term "cisgendered".  I've never heard the word before until I started reading this board.  You'll find someone who is openminded -- just keep trying -- it's worth it. That goes for anyone looking for love.

Best of luck.

Sono

Quote from: Darrin on December 15, 2011, 05:52:15 PM
I can't believe this thread is still going! I've talked to a few people, but they usually disappear after a few messages. I don't have my trans status on there, but thinking of putting it. I look 12 in my profile picture and put age 26. I think people might get the idea I'm trans. I get no action on my profile. Like 1 view a week and no messages. I'm a loser. lol

Better that than 20+ page views a week, 400 sent messages and at a maximum 1 message returned per every 6 weeks. No real convos.

Quote from: s1ncere on December 15, 2011, 10:04:31 AM
I have met 2 of my ex-girlfriends and my girlfriend  online...I was with one for 3 years and the other 4 and a half years.....My gf and I have been together for a year now...I was pre-T when I met both of my ex gf and I was 7 months on T when I met my gf.

I always put male as my gender marker. We got to know each other and when I felt it was right...I told them about me being a transman. So far so good.

Just be yourself and you will find someone. You are a male regardless of body parts or being pre-T.

my exacly problem is, I do pass as a guy, and so,
but the people who are attracted to me and hear that im trans are often asuming im a guy who like to dress up in girl clothes,
I dont mind dressing up but I do mind people who only interest for that one reason.

and its very annoying,

Anyone else tried transpassions??

Quote from: Wesley_33 on December 16, 2011, 09:46:27 AM
Anyone else tried transpassions??

Their site hasn't been working for me.

Quote from: Wesley_33 on December 16, 2011, 09:46:27 AM
Anyone else tried transpassions??

I have but it had exacly the same thing as I decribed earlyer.. (however I was pre T back then so I looked like a 15 year old guy on my avatar)