Sometimes I think people are too polite and other times they are just plain rude.  Many of educated people seem rather accepting.  I have no problem letting someone know and it is fine.

Your circumstances may be different and you need to find your comfort level.

Quote from: Rabbit on December 26, 2011, 06:28:43 PM
I don't understand all the semantic games (even here in the US)...

If I go on a date with someone... we are dating. If I see him once, we are seeing eachother.

Sure, it is "we just started dating" and "we just started seeing eachother last week"... but... I don't get the entire "it isn't until date 3 and you kiss in the back of the car and he rubs your leg under moonlight that you are really seeing eachother!!" stuff ><


Oh, and when to tell? I tell before going on a date with them (if they didn't already know). I am VERY upfront with how I am... they can take it or leave it. Actually, if they don't know, I tell them when they start to hit on me (in a confident way, like "haha, ohh, I'm not really sure I'm your type " and then when they ask what I mean, I go "well... I'm a ->-bleeped-<- ~surprise!!~")

I'd like to think so too, but in my case anyway, I have to differentiate between going out one on one with a newly acquainted male friend as I would with a female friend (it's irrelevant if I fancy him, as more often than not, he doesn't fancy me, so we're just friends!)  and actually dating a guy. Just because I go out somewhere with a guy doesn't necessarily mean I'm 'seeing him', as he may only see me as a friend. When it's clear we have mutual feelings (regardless of kissing or 'second base' or whatever), then I'd consider it dating and would start to think about disclosing.

I find it odd that Eve has no comment on this considering she started this thread...

I've went out with 3 or 4 guys...primarily because I am juggling the relationship with my boyfriend and like flogging at Folsom street fair...I wanted to "see what it was like". Men are just....stupid.

The gay boy voice, etc...I'd think they pick up on it. But no... *sigh*


I drop subtle clues, they still don't know. I told a guy I was "packing heat" and he said, "Are you gonna murder me?"

I add them on fb....they just think I am a fruitfly.

I clue them in when I meet them by saying all I know is drag queens and transgender performers. Guys don't seem to think too deeply about it and it's friggin sad.

So far, one guy had figured it out and he wasn't cool with it. He was like, "NEVER CALL ME AGAIN!"

But I've met all these guys in person first, before even dating them.

Quote from: MsDazzler on December 27, 2011, 12:02:54 AM
I find it odd that Eve has no comment on this considering she started this thread...

sorry Im really busy with the holidays and moving into a new place theres no internet there yet so I can only check it at my emptyish old place when i go over there.

my last post kind of summed up how I feel though. I want to disclose to people in person and itl be a go with the flow kind of thing. I was worried w about going on a date without disclosing but i decided not to accept actual dates until ive met the person, and when they ask to disclose then ask if they still want to take me out.

I was in a relationship for a really long time, so I dont have too much dating experience. not out of highschool anyway. so no real experience lol.
idk how long id wait to do things, but i know I want to take things slow. more so I let the other person decide when to make a move, and chances are ill go along with it. unless I'm reaaaaaally not into them. but I ahev a ahrd time saying no. so id probably kiss someone i dont really like, then nto call them or sometihng

terrible I know