When I was still teenage I thought I was 'Gay' but then I slowly realized there was something fishy. Even I went to Gay bars I hated it, I didn't like staying with other Gays. But once I went to a Travesti Night and it was SOOOOOOOOOO exciting me when I saw the girls doing a Travesti Pageants, I felt like 'IN'.

And the strangest thing is I AM NOT ATTRACTED SEXUALLY BY GAYS AT ALL, NOT EVEN THE ACTIVE ONES NO MATTER HOW HANDSOME THEY ARE. It's like I get 'turn off' as soon I hear someone is Gay HOWEVER I get very turned on when I hear a guy is STRAIGHT even he is just normal looking and not that handsome (i dont mean ugly though) and it's like I am attracted STRICTLY ONLY BY STRAIGHT MEN.

And in my head I said, how the hell in the world will I attract straight men when I have a male appearance myself and furthermore I always felt and dressed like a girl when I was a child, so there I started crossdressing part-time till 1 day I realized to be happy I need to fo full-time permanently.

And you, what's your story? How long did it take to realize you're trans and not Gay?

Never, but I realized I was gay AND trans pretty early. I think my earliest memory of being trans was when I was 4, I was thinking about my mom and how I wanted to grow up to be a girl like her and also marry a girl like her.

My taste in women has drastically changed since then (one would hope ) but the general idea is the same.

First time I fully admitted it to myself as an adult was in 2008.

I was never gay, nor am I now.  My dysphoria lead me to research, which in turn lead me to the discovery of being trans.

I tried being a gay man for a while, because I obviously wasn't a straight man... but the I realised it's not because I'm not straight, it's because I'm not a man... but then I realised that I'm not a straight woman .

Quote from: ~Amy~ on January 01, 2012, 11:49:59 AM
I was never gay, nor am I now.  My dysphoria lead me to research, which in turn lead me to the discovery of being trans.

Before I always thought an 'un-transitioned trans' is a gay, LOL!

Quote from: Padma on January 01, 2012, 12:36:56 PM
I tried being a gay man for a while, because I obviously wasn't a straight man... but the I realised it's not because I'm not straight, it's because I'm not a man... but then I realised that I'm not a straight woman .

Pretty complicated there heh...

Quote from: ~Amy~ on January 01, 2012, 11:49:59 AM
I was never gay, nor am I now.  My dysphoria lead me to research, which in turn lead me to the discovery of being trans.

Pretty much the same for me.

When I first started using the Internet around 13-14~ really I used it to research this horrible dysphoria and feeling that I should've been a girl and found that I could do something about it.

I am totally opposite- I knew I wanted to be a woman from early childhood, but due to the environment and circumstances, I remained a boy but started liking men when puberty hit, so I became a gay teenager entering adulthood-

Then I started dressing the momet i got into college and away from family, and saw that I (and everyone else) said that I made a knockout beauty and I was getting a lot more men as a woman.

That was when i knew I would lead a better life as a woman so I transitioned to make my options more appealing than as a gay man.

i never identified as gay but I did have intimate relations with gay identified men.
Coming out as trans, not much changed, i still am attracted to gay identified men
so in turn live very gender queer but i am starting hormones soon so we will
see what changes!
So it wasn't some realization but more like a gradual understanding because
i never perceived myself too differently.

I was happy either way. But my thousands of dollars investment/body changes means I have no plans on goin back.

But I consider myself both. Getting surgery won't change what I once was. But I've slowly been killin the gay guy, the more success I have in the 'straight" world.

Quote from: Mahsa the disco shark on January 01, 2012, 02:18:35 PM
I was happy either way. But my thousands of dollars investment/body changes means I have no plans on goin back.

But I consider myself both. Getting surgery won't change what I once was. But I've slowly been killin the gay guy, the more success I have in the 'straight" world.

+1 to this! I've been working hard on purging the "homosexual" behaviors and characterisitics , lmao

Am I wrong for transitioning because I would lead a better life as a hetero woman than a gay man? I don't have deep hatred of my gentials or suffer from severe GID.

And I am not ashamed to admit I also did it to have better access to straight men. * shrugs *

Quote from: MsDazzler on January 01, 2012, 02:24:06 PM

Am I wrong for transitioning because I would lead a better life as a hetero woman than a gay man? I don't have deep hatred of my gentials or suffer from severe GID.

And I am not ashamed to admit I also did it to have better access to straight men. * shrugs *

If you want to keep your thing, keep it!

I'm sure as hell ain't transitioning to keep mine.

I never met a woman with a penis!

I don't mind getting SRS but since I am still on the fence about it, I am not going to plan for it as I don't want post-op regret...

I think I probably am perfect evidence of the "homosexual transsexual" theory. lol

I knew I wasn't gay. But the other kids always thought I was. my reasoning back then was, Who the hell could love such a creature that caused me so much pain? I used to get beat up a lot by boys because I was short and effeminate [I guess]

When I was watching the Little Mermaid for the first time I wanted to look just like Ariel and that's when it occurred to me that gay guys don't want boobs or a vagina. I was something else!

I dunno, I always found this line of thinking weird.  Am I the only one who never internalized the trope that trans = gay turned up to eleven?

Honestly, one thing I quickly learned is that nothing sets off my gender dysphoria more reliably than gay male romantic/sexual attention. IME*, gay men seem to be the most eager of all to project maleness/masculinity onto me and seem to react the worst when I disabuse them of those notions.



*Maybe it's where I live and who people take me for. For instance, I've been told more than once by certain men that they were drawn to the "inherent masculinity" that my race somehow confers upon me...

You may say that gender identity has nothing to do with sexual orientation but those two are interwined.

One invariably influence the other one

May I present "Why is my sexual orientation changing?" thread as evidence? lol

Quote from: MsDazzler on January 01, 2012, 01:27:11 PM
That was when i knew I would lead a better life as a woman so I transitioned to make my options more appealing than as a gay man.

Quote from: MsDazzler on January 01, 2012, 02:24:06 PM
And I am not ashamed to admit I also did it to have better access to straight men. * shrugs *

  Yikes...so your really just a gay guy who became a woman for more sex?    

Quote from: Asha on January 01, 2012, 06:02:46 PM
  Yikes...so your really just a gay guy who became a woman for more sex?   

Is it any better than a hetero man who became a lesbian for more sex?

I ve been always trans since birth, but led a gay lifestyle when puberty hit because I thought it was me becaue I did not know better and my feminine interests was oppressed growing up. Also there was no Internet back there and I did not know anybody who was transgender until I finally got to college 10 years ago. I was gay throughout college and tried out that lifestyle but it was not working for me and I preferred being a trans woman so I decided to transition.

Yes, men was a factor in deciding to transition, but by no means, it is not just the sole factor. Don't put words in my mouth.

I never felt "gay". I was not attracted to men in any way. I liked girls.... for all the wrong reasons of course. I got married. I loved the intimacy. I won't deny it. After transition, I looked for other women. I didn't find any. I kept ending up on dates with men. I really wanted to go out with women. But after transition, I had very little thought in the world of romance. I really didn't care about it.  As in, I really didn't care.

I'm not really sure how I ended up getting married to a man.  It just sort of happened.  And I love him dearly. We've gotten along famously for years, even though I'm still not interested in the intimacy part. I suppose I'm a prude or perhaps... I just don't like the discomfort. In any case, as long as he's happy, so much the better.

Cindi

Quote from: Lily on January 01, 2012, 11:47:51 AM
Never, but I realized I was gay AND trans pretty early. I think my earliest memory of being trans was when I was 4, I was thinking about my mom and how I wanted to grow up to be a girl like her and also marry a girl like her.

My taste in women has drastically changed since then (one would hope ) but the general idea is the same.

First time I fully admitted it to myself as an adult was in 2008.

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