[This is an LTL rant, so don't expect anything productive]
One of the things that motivated me to move forward was that I would be able to live the life of my dreams. That one day all of my fantasies that I had hoped for would become reality. Of course, I wasn't so dumb and naive enough to consider that "everything" I've dreamt about would come true, but I did hope I'd get closer to my ideal life. Besides, these fantasies were never really big to begin with. I just wanted to look like any other normal girl and get to live a normal life just like most women do. That's really all I want. No big fireworks, just something simple. A normal life as a girl. That's all.
Where am I? Well after a few months on Estradiol (June) and Spironactalone (July), I don't know. I look much more fem, but it's not where I'd hope to be at this point. Sure, I know there will be some trans women that will say I'm better off than they were at this point and that I have the luck of youth on my side, but I want to see it too. Yeah, I'm sure it could be worse and that the reality isn't as bleak as I make it. Still that doesn't mean it couldn't be better. The fact is I'm getting sick of this in between crap. When is it going to end and when I'm I going to see a girl in the mirror at all times and not some of the time? Why must I look like some boy-girl with boobs? My whole life I've felt that I'm a girl, yet I've never got to look or live like one. It's debilitating and it's unfair. Why can't I just pass and be pretty like genetic girls? Why must it take so much time and effort to get where I want to be? I'm no longer at the point where I'm afraid for the future and my passing potential and yes, every month I see more and more progress (especially since my last dose increase); however, I'm sick of waiting to reach that point where I can achieve total male fail and can feel relieved about passing at all or most times. I just want to be there now and stop waiting for it to happen.
As far as acceptance from the people of my life, it's all so complicated. I really don't feel like I have a support system at all. To be honest, feel very much alone in my entire transition, and this is the time when I need support and acceptance the most. I'm about to go part time (end of January) with no one on my side or anyone for me to reach out to in need. How can I expect things to go well with strangers and the public when acceptance and support is so tentative or apathetic with those who are in my life. It's just very hard. To be honest, I'm terrified to go part time without any sort of support system and such little acceptance in my life. It's really really frightening. I'm not used to being on my own. It's a very hard concept for me to grasp especially with this. And I don't even know if I'll be ready at the end of January. I really don't know.
I know everyone is going to say time and patience. I get it. Time and patience are required in order to pass. And time and patience are required for family and others to come around and truly accept and embrace me as female. My life probably will sort out in time if I just had some patience. However, I'm sick of the wait for everything. I can't do it any longer. I want things to start improving now. I've waited long enough at this point. I'm not giving up and will move forward regardless, but I just want the reality I face to start matching up to my dreams. At least in some way and soon. I've been dealing with this all lnog enough. I just want to be able to have a normal life as a girl without the unnecessary drama and challenges that transitioning brings up. The wait is making me miserable. I need some kind of change or positive development soon, or I may just break down. Honestly, I'll never give up on my dream , but I have no idea on how to make it a reality.